To not leave early because he was cold

[Rosebyanothername19]

We went to a winter Illuminations event this evening and my DH just wore a t-shirt and jacket, despite my reminders that it was cold and we should all wrap up warm... Apparently it wasn't going to be that cold...

About 1/3 of the way round he starts saying he is cold (Quelle surprise!). We stopped for some food, as was the plan. He is now trying to hurry us all up saying how cold it is and that he didn't want to be stood around for ages. I was trying to get DC to eat faster but they are slow eaters. I didn't let them go on the fairground rides as that would have meant more standing around and tried to walk through as fast as possible. We stopped to take a picture at one bit (the first of the day!) and DH just walked off as it was too cold to stand about taking pictures. The last straw was when we stopped to watch the light show. DH just said I've had enough I'm off and went back to the car. I tried to enjoy the rest of the time with the DC and not let them realise anything was wrong.

My DH is now saying that he is disappointed and I should have taken his feelings and comfort more into consideration.

Am I being unreasonable for not just rushing through the rest to get back?

Perhaps he had an ulterior motive for getting back to the car - a favourite program to watch on his phone, Balamory, Teletubbies, Football..........or maybe he had someone to call !

I would’ve Doured him oot , silly man 😂 it’s like my husband after he leaves to come home from a party , after drinking lots of beer he says ( I need the toilet) .
i always cringed at this saying
jumpers are things that your made wear when mummies feel cold 🥶
fcuk right off 😂

Complete man child who can't independently dress for the weather. Dick head

Or he just didn't want to be there.

for some reason she is going through a phase of many ill-fitting layers rather than a couple of sensible things and a coat. No idea why!

You sound like you have an extra child .
Tell him he is selfish and a acting like a baby to not enjoy the moment with his children and yourself to just walk off.
I'd be absolutely fuming with him .. I'd do things without him in the future see how he likes that .

Your are 100% NOT being unreasonable.
I absolutely get him wanting to wait in the car with the heat on, but if that had been me, I would have been so apologetic and wanted to make it up to my family.
It is the self-pity that I can't understand at all.
And also, just referencing a reply you made earlier, if one of the children had been cold because they were not properly dressed, of course you would share the responsibility for that, but 50% of that fault should land with him! It speaks volumes that you have to be entirely responsible for yourself and the children, and apparently he expects you to take on responsibility for him too!
Stressed at work or not, this is not a shining moment for DH!

You did take his comfort into consideration. You reminded him it would be cold and suggested he dress accordingly.

He chose to make himself uncomfortable by dressing in a t shirt and jacket.

Very similar situation for us on on Friday. I suggested my wife take a big coat, she didn’t and was cold but that was it. She laughed and i joked that I wouldn’t say ‘I told you so’ and we had a lovely time. We’re both adult women for goodness sake, most men are idiots and wimps I’m afraid! He is being unreasonable here

Take more water with it lovey

He is pretty whiny, very unattractive

Oh my OH did similar the other week. We were overnight for a gig in Bristol and the storm was forecasted so he did concede to take a spare pair of jeans in case he got wet

But totally refused to take and wear his long waterproof coat so his poor bollocks got wet...and he moaned. Wanted to go back to the hotel to change into dry ones... I did ask what he was going to do when they got wet as we were planning on going to see something then a meal then the gig

I think he was angling on missing the trip. I was not amused. Luckily he ironed them dry 😅

He was an idiot dressed for summer in the winter, you did the right thing for your children, which are your priority. X

Remind him that you did mention to him that he might want to put warmer clothes on & that you did think of him & didn't want him to get cold. Then remind him again it was HIS choice to ignore you resulting in him being cold. Let him know that he's an adult & your thoughts will always be on the kids first, he's a grown adult & can think for himself & to stop trying to shift the blame for his daft choices on to you.

I’m honestly surprised you didn’t tell him to stop complaining and head back to the car sooner—I wouldn’t have let it drag on.

"Bob, I warned you before we left to dress warmly, and you still chose to wear a T-shirt. If you’re cold, go sit in the car. I’ll see you later."

He’s behaving like a big baby!

[light-hearted] I LOVE pointing out to my DH that it's his own stupid fault and he should have listened and wore a thicker coat... I can't believe you were so self controlled to be honest.

Please tell him the story of my taking my DH away for a romantic Valentine's mini break to Copenhagen. I'd warned him it might be cold. When the plane was landing he exclaimed that it was snowing. I commented on how romantic it was. He turned around and told me he hadn't brought a coat with him ... We did look at some in the shops but mostly he spent the trip being VERY COLD INDEED...

I have very little sympathy now, unless it's genuine oversight.

Yes - one of the great compensations of getting older is just refusing to take this shit anymore! And certainly not pandering to some stupid man-baby who can't take responsibility for his own comfort.

Omg. You literally warned him it would be cold and he still only wore a T SHIRT under his jacket then ruined everyone’s evening. Massive man child. How infuriating.

You are a saint. My partner occasionally does this when I have things planned for the kids and he finds a reason that he needs to rush it which dampens the enjoyment of it all.
I have started intentionally going slower and making it last longer when he does this :) because he’s an adult who agreed to come to the event so it’s tough and he needs to grow up and either not come in the first place or grow up and keep quiet.

I had an ex who did shit like this. It was purely to sabotage anyone else enjoying themselves because he has something else he would rather be doing.

Im glad I didn’t marry him.

What does he do after his episodes ? Does he sulk off for privacy or does he start doing one of his hobby’s ?

Ah, just another man child to add to the long long list…🥴🤣🤣🤣🤣

OP I have a heavy career and also run the house etc as a lone parent.

I booked tickets for Blenheim last Friday, I was stressed but oddly I managed to put warm clothes on.

He is weaponising his incompetence here, don't put up with it. Bloody man child.