Not getting Son In Laws presents anymore...

[Zebedee999]

I buy my son in laws thoughtful and expensive (£100-£400) long lasting useful gifts on special occasions as I want them to have useful things for life.
The trouble is neither of these men are what could be described as clean, careful, tidy etc so everything I get them ends up lost, broken or damaged in some other way.
As I am a bit OCD'ish and care for my own stuff this stresses me then I end up nagging them as to "who could have taken Gift XYZ from their house and never returned it?" etc.
I have decided, for my sanity, and to stop me nagging them, I simply won't buy them anything physoical anymore. I'll pay for a meal out etc but no more gifts for everyone's sake.
I appreciate as men once they receive a gift what they do with it is up to them but I find it hurtful when yet another gift is lost/damaged etc.

AIBU?

Why spend so much? Get them some socks or a bottle of something they like to drink. End of.

Some confusion as to whether there was an actual iron gifted or not.
I read it as there was. My bad if I misunderstood
However, this is MN and I cannot get past a thread on 'ironing/iron/iron
paraphernalia without wondering, what did happen to THAT ironing board...?

Socks, cash f,or a meal out. And so onontheyre the sort of things my husband gets from my family. I get similar from his family, or beer, PJS, fluffy socks etc. Perfectly normal in law pressies.

You admit that your constantly nagging them asking where the gifts you got them are? Can you not see that’s not right or normal behaviour. You need to let it go, once you’ve given a gift it’s theirs to do what they want with. Just give them a voucher for a nice restaurant and call it a day.

My mother in law had a habit of giving me a watch or a fancy planner and calendar etc for Christmas. She was likely disappointed I never used one nice - but my life isn’t regimented like hers, I rarely need to know the time and couldn’t be bothered to wear a watch when the clock is in my phone. I’ve never used a calendar even on my phone - just not that organized.

most of the time now she gives a small gift like a Xmas ornament and money. It is much more appreciated!

I had a friend who was gifted a toaster by her husband early in their marriage. She initially refused to let him use it, but he said that married people shared their gifts. He was quite put out when he came home to find her in their garden using his new golf club. He definitely learned his lesson & buys her jewelry for every occasion.

The thought of my mum giving my partner an expensive ironing set 😳🤣
Look, you've spent obscene amounts of money when you didn't need to.
Stop it now.
£10 or £20 voucher and be done.

I thought the same. I hate when people use this phrase. My dd 11 is housebound and anorexic due to OCD.