He’s fucking locked me out.

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Basically this. I’ve text him as I can’t get in, I’ve just finished work. He’s on a works Xmas party.

Said he was setting off at 8:45 and he’d be home for 9 so I said cool, take the key.

Now it’s 10pm and I’m sat in a fucking bus shelter because he’s locked me out and won’t come back with the keys, he’s out and apparently I’m unreasonable for asking him to come home to at least let me in.

I haven’t a clue what to do, it’s 4°, my street is poorly lit and this place doesn’t shut til 12. I can’t afford a lock change so that’s out of the question and my mums not in. So I literally have to just wait.

He is 15 minutes away, and it will be World War 3 when he gets back?

Perspective @FuckingFreezing1 Perspective.

It's 15 minutes! I've had longer shits.

Just stop. Now.
Go have a nice Xmas on your own. Leave him . Today is as good as any day

Why on earth would you end up apologising?

Not helpful now but order yourself a key box online not too expensive maybe £10 and get an extra key cut and keep in there! It’s been a life saver with us with 4 teens that constantly loose their keys!

Hopefully this will give you the strength to leave him

We only had one key for months in our first house. Couldn't afford a locksmith and when we got others cut they didn't work.

Let this be the final straw.

You need to get into you own house and lock him out for good. Stop being so passive.

Hop in a taxi, go to where he is, and get the key. What’s he going to do, stage a dramatic standoff over it? 🤨

I would if I knew where he was but he won’t tell me.

Can you get a taxi to a hotel and get a decent night’s sleep? OP, your partner is abusing you, but I think you know this already.

How do you know he is 15 minutes away then?

What has the OP done. What a silly comment.

Aw OP this is horrible for you.

To keep warm, is there anywhere local you can go to wait, supermarket, takeaway? Are there any colleagues/friends local who will let you pitch up and sleep on the sofa?

If you have a lot of local friends on Facebook it might be worth posting for help… I would help a colleague in this situation.

When you get warm and safe have a think about the whole situation x

The keys are the least of your problems. Lose the bellend. He's your problem; a man who would leave you in the cold because he can't be arsed to come home is showing you that he's a selfish, self-centered twat who doesn't give a flying fuck about you. Bin this loser.

Whose name is the house in?

I'm so sorry, that is really, really selfish and shit of him. He knows you're going to be tired after a day at work and he's left you stranded outside your own home in the cold.

Well aren't you a peach? The lack of empathy is astounding. Bet you are all grown up and perfect of course

So, he keeps losing keys and you’ve decided that that means he can’t have a key. Then, instead of leaving him to deal with the consequences of no longer having a key because he lost his, you hand him the only key to your home while he goes out and you then have to rely on him

1. coming home on time and
2. not losing this key as well.

If you’ve both decided that he can’t have a key anymore then you stick to that. He doesn’t get the key, you do and then he has to wait for you to come home.

This is idiotic that you didn’t get another key cut and that you’ve give him the only key to your home.

He initially said he’d leave at 8.45 and be home by 9.

If my DH was 15 minutes away from our house he could be in 3 different villages each with around 4 pubs. With another 4 pubs between.

I do not understand why OP is getting so much shit

I think he loses the keys as a way to control the OP. I'm so sorry. I could advise to get a new set cut and get him to pay and then if he loses his keys he has to rely on you.

But I think it's gone too far. Giving yourself agency by going to a pub/friend's/McDonalds would help immediately. But ultimately you need to make a plan and leave.

but earlier on you said he was somewhere that didn’t shut til 12. So you do know.