He’s fucking locked me out.

[FuckingFreezing1]

Basically this. I’ve text him as I can’t get in, I’ve just finished work. He’s on a works Xmas party.

Said he was setting off at 8:45 and he’d be home for 9 so I said cool, take the key.

Now it’s 10pm and I’m sat in a fucking bus shelter because he’s locked me out and won’t come back with the keys, he’s out and apparently I’m unreasonable for asking him to come home to at least let me in.

I haven’t a clue what to do, it’s 4°, my street is poorly lit and this place doesn’t shut til 12. I can’t afford a lock change so that’s out of the question and my mums not in. So I literally have to just wait.

It’s not worth the aggro turning up. I can’t be bothered listening to the shit that will last about 3 days and result in me apologising.

If you are going to stay together then a key box might be the answer, but in the meantime what do you want to do about it?

It’s worth remembering than many many people grow up without ever witnessing the dynamic of a healthy relationship.

Get a cab to his party and retrieve your keys. Tomorrow have a serious think about staying in this relationship if it's so awful.

This is the worst thing he's done in 6 years... but it's vile and toxic relationship.
He loses keys constantly... but you decide giving him the only key to go drinking with is a good idea.
So much of this makes no sense 😂

I'd get the keys off him and tell him not to bother coming home or stay elsewhere and tomorrow end it, you can't carry on like this.

Sounds like you’ll be buying many more sets of keys in future then op.
Best of luck.

I haven’t a clue what to do, it’s 4°, my street is poorly lit and this place doesn’t shut til 12. I can’t afford a lock change so that’s out of the question and my mums not in. So I literally have to just wait.

If he's 15 minutes away, wouldn't it have been better to just go to him than start a thread on a chat forum?

Get another couple of keys cut but don't share them with him in future. Just so you will always have a spare.

is the house yours? If yes:

Call a locksmith.

Chuck his stuff on the street.

Live your life.

I don’t actually know where he is. And there’s no way he’d tell me.
I think there’s something trauma bonding me. What it is I don’t know.

So you’re going sit in the cold until god knows what time?

Sweet Jesus I honestly don’t understand people anymore.

A decent loving partner would have run/ jumped in a cab/ got a lift straight away when he realised you were stuck outside.
If locksmith is not a possibility, you need to be somewhere warm
Neighbour, friend, family.
Can anyone come and get you?
If you're near a pub go in
Tomorrow you can tell your partner it's over
You say the relationship isn't good because he's selfish, so this is a pattern not an oversight.
Life's too short to put up with this shit

It wasn’t very bright to give someone you know constantly loses keys the one and only key to your home.

Anyway, stop wasting time on here, I can’t believe you haven’t gotten into your house yet, it takes 20seconds to get into a locked house.

Go to where he is, get your key, tell him to leave in the morning and never come back.

Sorry, I thought he was 15 minutes away.

So instead you'll sit in the cold in the hope he'll come home when the place closes? Woman up and go and get your keys back, then put the chain on and go to bed!

I really feel like there's something much bigger going on than the key.
How are things usually? How does he talk to you or treat you day to day?

But why wasn't he paying for them?

Like shit. Which I’ve become accustomed to.

Can you ask him to put the keys in a taxi to you OP? If the bar doesn't close until 12 then he could be another 2 hours yet.

Have previously had similar selfish p*k of a partner so know how upsetting and annoying situations like these are. Your worth more than this though so start thinking about how to get rid of him.

This. Some people love to kick others when they are down. Total cuntish behaviour.

Op - I genuinely do not understand how your 'd' p can be enjoying himself knowing that you are locked out in the cold. And he would go nuclear if you turn up to get it? It's shocking.

Please please do not have children with this man. Who's property is it? Could you ask him to leave or leave yourself?

In the interim is there a pub or a Macdonald's or somewhere else warm you can wait? Do you know your neighbours? Could you knock on one of them?

Start telling people what your dp is like. I guarantee they will be horrified. At the moment you are keeping his awful behaviour a secret. I imagine his work colleagues would be horrified too if they knew what is going on right now as no decent person does this

Can’t you go to a friends house? Get a taxi and sleep out?

You are at serious risk of hypothermia if you stay out

It’s absolutely disgusting what he’s doing

Get your key go home and don't let him in

He should have got a new set of keys cut before this situation arose/.

I think it's the end of the road for this relationship from what you say? Don't you?

Hopefully sitting in the freezing cold will make your brain think...this is the end of trauma bonding.

Aren't you worth more than this OP.