He’s fucking locked me out.

[FuckingFreezing1]

Basically this. I’ve text him as I can’t get in, I’ve just finished work. He’s on a works Xmas party.

Said he was setting off at 8:45 and he’d be home for 9 so I said cool, take the key.

Now it’s 10pm and I’m sat in a fucking bus shelter because he’s locked me out and won’t come back with the keys, he’s out and apparently I’m unreasonable for asking him to come home to at least let me in.

I haven’t a clue what to do, it’s 4°, my street is poorly lit and this place doesn’t shut til 12. I can’t afford a lock change so that’s out of the question and my mums not in. So I literally have to just wait.

You really need to leave him.

He said he wasn’t drinking therefore isn’t staying long. So I said take the key if you’re not drinking. I don’t know how that’s childish

I feel your pain. It's easy enough for everyone to say "go and get the key" "get a locksmith"
You trusted him to be home and he wasn't. Selfish twonk.
15mins in a taxi has got to be at least £40 there and back. Have you even got the money for that?. Can you even afford a locksmith?
Plius his kicking off cos you've turned up for the key. Absolute tosspot!
If there's no one you can turn to, please try to go somewhere that you can be safe

This. ^

Can a friend or family member pick you up?

I asked what time it shut he said twelve. I said where is it you’re going. He said a pub near his work. That’s all I know.

Find your anger and end the relationship. There’s plenty of threads on here giving sound advice about the steps to take. Give notice on the tenancy if you rent. If you own start legal proceeding to sell.

Honestly OP, I moved into the box room of a shared house to leave my last relationship. I had no furniture. I had very little money. I had to move to a more affordable area and it took a year to force the sale of my jointly owned property.

It was absolutely worth it.

I’m really sorry you’re going through it but you can’t wait in the cold. Go and collect the key, and then tell him to not bother coming home. This is an appalling way for him to treat you and by the sounds of it, it’s not that uncommon. You deserve better.

If this is the case, I’d be rethinking the relationship entirely. Can’t manage not to lose keys (apparently on a regular basis) and you’d be met by world war fucking 3 for going to pick them up, because you lent them to him and happen to be home first? What a catch….

OP You're just going to have to wait for him, if you don't have money and you don't know where he is

In the morning, take your key back, get a copy made and put that copy in a keysafe and don't give him a key again. Then in the new year, make longer term plans, this isn't going to last much longer anyway, is it?

This is reminding me of the recent "I'm going to sit on the kerb and fall asleep rather than walk home after an argument with my selfish partner" poster.

This relationship has to end. He sounds fucking awful.

Whose house is this?

If the relationship is shit, don’t stay in it. You’re allowed to leave, you’re allowed to not “work at it”.

Go get your key. Pack his bags, leave them outside, add a note saying the relationship is over. Them tomorrow change the locks again just in case.

Sadly the key is tonight's problem. hope you get in/somewhere safe and warm soon.

He, and his behaviour and attitude, are a longer term and more serious problem.

We don't know every aspect of your relationship with him etc but from where I'm sitting he's not a keeper.

Jesus how selfish of him.

Who owns the house? Or are you renting?

I was going to suggest this

The OP is sitting in a dark bus shelter in the cold and all you can do is insult her intelligence level? I'm not sure about your emotional intelligence level.

Go to a friend/ family member’s house. Or stick a premier inn on a credit card if you can.
Reclaim keys tomorrow.
Get a new set cut and then put them in a key safe or safe place at home.
Never lend your keys to him again. It’s asking for trouble.
See your GP to get some counselling and make plans to leave him.

A taxi will be a lot cheaper than a locksmith.

Why are you with such a loser?

Sorry I’ve just seen this. Do you have a contact number for anyone he works with? Otherwise I think you need to known a friend or family member and stay there for the night if possible… don’t answer his calls.

More chance of stepping in rocking horse shit than him paying for anything like that.

Dump asap. Please! He’s an absolute cunt.

You can't let the relationship continue after this. Have some respect for yourself. Kip over at a friend or family member's tonight and end things in the morning.

Proverb “People count up the faults of those who keep them waiting” . In your case OP this seems like seriously good advice.
Meanwhile try and stay warm somewhere while you make a list