He’s fucking locked me out.

[FuckingFreezing1]

Basically this. I’ve text him as I can’t get in, I’ve just finished work. He’s on a works Xmas party.

Said he was setting off at 8:45 and he’d be home for 9 so I said cool, take the key.

Now it’s 10pm and I’m sat in a fucking bus shelter because he’s locked me out and won’t come back with the keys, he’s out and apparently I’m unreasonable for asking him to come home to at least let me in.

I haven’t a clue what to do, it’s 4°, my street is poorly lit and this place doesn’t shut til 12. I can’t afford a lock change so that’s out of the question and my mums not in. So I literally have to just wait.

I wonder if op has succumbed and forgiven knobber, hopefully not.

It’s a support forum. I’ve explained what I meant. We’re entitled to ask questions and the OP is just as entitled not to answer them if she finds them too intrusive. I’m not a nosy busybody - just someone intelligent enough to know that many OP’s who post like this one have missed the red flags at some stage in their lives, that mean they will not recognise some things as abuse.

Have you never heard of ‘The Freedom Programme’ or CBT ? I suspect not because you’re too wrapped up in your own sense of misplaced outrage to see what might benefit the OP and others like her. Cognitive behavioural therapy encourages the participant to examine their own behaviour within a relationship and why they have missed signs of abuse or submitted to them. Very often it’s because they have witnessed abuse in the past and processed it as normal behaviour. It’s not victim blaming, it’s a way of helping the person realise that they have unwittingly submitted to the role of victim. Once they realise that they can learn from it and move on.

@ChristmasPudd1990 there’s been 800 replies she a lot of op updates since that post you’ve replied to. Maybe RTFT

Are you ok OP?

Is there an update?
Are you ok OP? Safe? Has he tried to contact you?

You deserve so much better 💐💜

Thinking about you op. Hope you’re well. Stay strong 💟

You're basing that on what? The fact she hasn't been back to update a bunch of strangers on the internet?