Shag, Marry, Avoid - Disrespectful in front of BF?

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Early in my relationship with boyfriend (one month/6 weeks in) Big night out with all my friends and a few mutual friends. A bit tipsy and my friends and I started playing shag, marry, avoid with celebrity names, some ridiculous suggestions, all light hearted fun. Looked over and BFs face was like thunder. He was furious and really angry. He went to storm off and mutual friends stopped him. He shouted at me that I was extremely disrespectful, I’m supposed to be his girlfriend. We all then went for a meal and the atmosphere was awful. He was barely speaking to me, a few of my friends tried talking to him and we went outside and I had to explain that it was just a bit of fun. Lighthearted and I didn’t mean to upset him. I wouldn’t care if he had done it.

AIBU? Was I disrespectful? It was just lighthearted fun. He did similar where I admitted to fancying a certain celebrity/singer. Refused to speak to me for hours, we had a horrible row.

You have hooked yourself a childish, moody, control freak, by the sound of things. If he can't forgive things in the first flush of a new relationship, when most people see their new loves through rose tinted glasses, he'll probably get worse as time goes on, criticising how you behave, choosing what friends you can see, where you can go.... He'll quiz you about past loves, and then throw it up at you.

Walk away now.

You sound incompatible as a couple to me. He wants to be the only man you’ve ever fancied, and you think fancying famous people and having had feelings in previous relationships is healthy and fine. He huffs when you don’t align to his principles.

He’s not the one for you, you’re not on the same page, too many compromises to be made.

And no one wants to be with a huffer, it’s so unappealing.

The game is childish yes, but the boyfriend's behaviour is OTT ridiculous. I've a teen and we have gone though "kiss, marry, kill" in front of DH. He didn't take offence when I said I'd kiss Susan Calman, marry Jeeves (not Stephen Fry), and kill off Donald Duck. I'm guessing my options here might have been on a par with OP's as it was clear that they were offering up ridiculous suggestions.

If he is jealous not of someone you are never going to meet imagine down the line!!! Massive red flag.

This just tells me you’re not compatible. It’s perfectly normal to be someone who isn’t interested in celebrities and who only has eyes for their partner and you’re here basically calling him a liar. People are different. Sometimes completely different. But it doesn’t sound like you have much respect for him.

I think that your game was distasteful, but his reaction is concerning. If he’s like this in front of others, so early in a relationship, imagine what he would be like a year into it and in privacy. NO. Move on.

The actual playing of the game is not really the issue here, some will disagree with it and some won’t see it as a big deal, I think it’s more his reaction and the other comments you mention about him saying he only finds you attractive and only ever having loved you that are more the issue. That is an unrealistic expectation and is more about his insecurities. You can find someone attractive without actually being attracted to them, and to only have loved one person, just seems like such a childish, naive way to see things. What happened after the occasion? How was it resolved?

Presumably in that time there have been plenty of minor (or even major) disagreements. This can't have been the only "incident". I find his behaviour concerning and would have ended it - especially given how early it was in the relationship. But for some reason you have continued the relationship. I'm sure you have many more examples of him being jealous and controlling and giving you the silent treatment. If he did it so early on - when most people would still be wanting to impress their new boy/girlfriend and their friends - he'll have no qualms at all about doing it, and worse, as time goes on.

So this happened six weeks into a relationship that's now almost a year old. Why are you obsessing over it now? Why didn't you do something about it at the time?

I think the problem more for me would be the way he handled it! He could have just said when it was just the two of you at home after- these games make me feel a little uncomfortable. Instead he cast an atmosphere over the whole Night. He will only get worse op.

This. And storming off is childish attention seeking behaviour.
Red flag waving.

There was a good video that someone shared on fb, so obvs now I can't find it.
But he described your early relationship perfectly - making massive statements about love "I am your first love, aren't I?" And little things that make youbthink wtf? but don't bring him up on - that's the abuser's way of seeing what he can get away with.
This is clear in your post.
Big red flag, run away. Run.

A guy who feels threatened by a celebrity crush is a big red flag

Massive red flag! Don't walk run

This

In my opinion he’s an insecure, controlling, manipulative loser.
If you were discussing real people, I could understand being upset. BUT not his childish reaction.
I’d move on, but I have no time for insecure childish men.

I hate this game BUT his reaction was completely over the top. Yikes.

This, together with the “I’m the only man you have ever loved”? bollocks is worry to me. I think I would have ditched him shortly after the night of the OTT reaction and the sulking. I intrigued by to things. Firstly, why you chose to continue the relationship, despite there being further weird needy behaviour and secondly, what is it that has this on your mind now?

RUN 🚩

He's entitled to dislike the notion of the game but could have kept his feelings to himself and slapped on a smile but instead had a tantrum in front of everyone.

I couldn't be with a man who acts like a big baby just because he felt offended.