What would you do on Christmas Day?

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Scenario A - spend Christmas Day at home with husband, who doesn't 'do' Christmas apart from a roast dinner. He will spend most of the day in his computer room playing on the Xbox, watching films etc, with no desire to celebrate the day or do anything special. You usually stay at home as you feel bad leaving him alone on Christmas Day, so you will be watching Christmas tv and maybe going for a walk (alone). You would then visit family on Boxing Day.

Scenario B - spend Christmas Day with your parents and siblings, plus some wider family. Have a big meal together with them and maybe play board games, have fun chatting etc.
However husband would not come with you for this (so it may appear strange to others) and you would have a 100 mile round trip (driving) to get there.

What would you do?

B - assuming I like my family

Without a second thought, option 2.

B but stay over.
i wouldn’t waste another Christmas worrying about a miserable man.

A
I can't get excited about Xmas since the kids have grown up.

B but stay over.

B no contest. Why feel guilty leaving him alone when he doesn't feel guilty for gaming all day?
As for explaining his absence, I don't think anyone would overthink too much if he didn't fancy the journey.
Go and have a lovely time x

B

Absolutely B.

B. But stay over if not with family then at a nice hotel?

B, absolutely.

B

B but get a hotel/stay over.

B

Could you wake with husband and then travel and stay over with the family??

If you do A will you feel sad you are spending it not celebrating and if you do B will you feel sad not with hubby?

Life has told me to do what makes you happy not other people?

Definitely the second option. Sorry OP but if your DH has no consideration for you and what you would like to do on Christmas day I would leave him to it and spend it enjoying the day with my family.

Any chance you could stay over with parents or siblings to save all of that travel for one day?

B but stay over.

Absolutely option B. Plus stay over as many days as possible.

Is it likely that you will ever have children. If it is I'd choose option C of nuclear level argument about how he is ruining your Christmas and like fuck is he going to ruin your kids' Christmases.

B

And H could fend for himself.

Don't worry about how it looks.

B. And stay over. Leave him to gaming on his own

B all the way.

He clearly doesn't feel guilty about spoiling your Christmas, so stop feeling guilty about him.

And yes, stay over.

I'd add though...don't let it feel strange with your family. Be honest and tell them where he is, and why you're on your own.

I bet this isn't the only aspect of your lives where he's left you on your own.

B and stay over.

B and stay over. And don’t care about how it looks to others. Explain to family “he doesn’t do Christmas”.