What would you do on Christmas Day?

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Scenario A - spend Christmas Day at home with husband, who doesn't 'do' Christmas apart from a roast dinner. He will spend most of the day in his computer room playing on the Xbox, watching films etc, with no desire to celebrate the day or do anything special. You usually stay at home as you feel bad leaving him alone on Christmas Day, so you will be watching Christmas tv and maybe going for a walk (alone). You would then visit family on Boxing Day.

Scenario B - spend Christmas Day with your parents and siblings, plus some wider family. Have a big meal together with them and maybe play board games, have fun chatting etc.
However husband would not come with you for this (so it may appear strange to others) and you would have a 100 mile round trip (driving) to get there.

What would you do?

B and never go back!

He sounds the absolute pits.

Well, DD and I are flying abroad to spend the Xmas with my family so I think it's ok to leave your DH to do his own thing if he doesn't want to participate. Mine is working though so am not going to waste my Xmas home alone with DD. Tell your DH what you are planning on doing and ask if he wants to join you just to include him and when he declines then that's on him.

I do Christmas, but don't want to go to my DP's family. So we have a special breakfast and off he goes. It doesn't sound as though you figure in his plans, so go.

Definitely B. I’d also stay over.

B, rather obviously.

C divorce gaming husband

B and stay over

Scenario B, and don't rush back!

B

B

B - can you not stay Christmas Eve, Christmas Day and Boxing Day? - leave DH with a three day pass to game as much as he likes!

B
But I'd have a full and frank discussion with my DH about compromise, doing things to make each other happy and taking turns. Can't see why the pair of you can't agree to have Xmas day with your family, then spend Boxing Day at home together in PJ's...him gaming, you watching TV. Or some similar arrangement. If he wont budge from spending the holiday holed up in his cave gaming, I'd be questioning our future together.

Option B and would definitely stay a few nights. Tbh don't think I'd got back to that!

B - I would stay with my family for the whole of christmas, leave the miserable fucker to it, and hope that he had moved out by the time I got back.

B and stay over - Christmas Eve and Christmas night. He's showing no consideration for you so you do what makes you happy.

I’d do what I wanted to do, if my dp wants to spend Xmas alone then there isn’t any guilty in doing what I choose

B! I didn't celebrate Christmas with my husband until we had DC (over 10 years) - and we both love Christmas. We just knew we would be spending lots of them together down the line. Although I can't imagine celebrating Christmas with someone like your DH alongside DC. He sounds like a moody teen.

Another vote for B. And to leave your dh

B+ - spend the holiday with family, ditch the Grinch.

I honestly don’t know what I would do. I’d feel bad leaving him alone.

B snd stay over

B, definitely. Who the fuck games on Christmas Day!? It doesn't matter that he doesn't 'do Christmas'... he should still want to spend time with you on a day that you consider to be special. Who makes the lunch? I'm willing to bet it's you...

B. I would offer the invite to husband but if he wants to spend the day, alone with his x box, I would rather be with my family. Life is too short to have a miserable Christmas with the Grinch.

B. And then I would weigh up what my husband is bringing to our marriage.

B and look up divorce proceedings in the New Year

I don't 'do' Christmas, but he sounds like a bellend