What would you do on Christmas Day?

[cattuccino]

Scenario A - spend Christmas Day at home with husband, who doesn't 'do' Christmas apart from a roast dinner. He will spend most of the day in his computer room playing on the Xbox, watching films etc, with no desire to celebrate the day or do anything special. You usually stay at home as you feel bad leaving him alone on Christmas Day, so you will be watching Christmas tv and maybe going for a walk (alone). You would then visit family on Boxing Day.

Scenario B - spend Christmas Day with your parents and siblings, plus some wider family. Have a big meal together with them and maybe play board games, have fun chatting etc.
However husband would not come with you for this (so it may appear strange to others) and you would have a 100 mile round trip (driving) to get there.

What would you do?

B

While I normally would be quite happy to stay home with a partner, in your case OP I would definitely go for option B, where you will have some Christmas joy. I would also be staying there for a day or two.

B - then divorce in the NY, unless he's utterly fantastic the other 363 days ( though I suspect that this won't be the only day he sits on xbox and does his own thing). Sounds too boring a life to endure.

Personally, neither.

I'm in your husband's camp, minus the roast dinner, computer games, etc, i just hate this time of year, I always have.

Every year, I aim to sleep through at least 25/26 Dec, completely avoid the outside world, close curtains, turn phone/tv/lights off, but if I inadvertently wake up and feel the need for food, there's usually a pot of stew in the electric pressure cooker (made on 23 or 24th), some bread for toast or a sandwich, pizza in the freezer, there's always something edible available, and I'll have whatever I fancy, then take myself back off to the warm, comfortable darkness of my bedroom, and try to get back to sleep for another day or so.

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B

parents wont be around long. Xbox in the future

B - he gets his choice anyway ( as usual) and you get yours ! No brainier .
Do it!

option C - ditch the misery.

Even if he doesn't like or celebrate Christmas it's still a day off work (for some) which you could spend together. He sounds like a teen with his gaming, I presume he's the same at normal weekends too. That's no life for you

B. Leave DH a microwave meal and rock on.

It’s a no brainer. Why spend Christmas miserable just because your partner doesn’t celebrate? Presumably he’s fine gaming at home so why can’t you go out and actually do what you want? Wouldn’t worry in the slightest about the overgrown teenager being on his own - that’s what he wants.

Option B. Plus don't worry about his Christmas dinner, that's his problem ie buying it, cooking it and clearing up after it

Yup, and don't do any dinner for him, he can do it himself, if he complains, you'll realise where exactly you sit in his priorities,.

B - if some of your family members are older they won’t be around forever and it just sounds like such a better day than spending it with him indoors.

B. All day long.

B definitely....
As a lot of commented here about staying in a nice hotel for a couple of nights see your family treat yourself to something nice in a hotel.
Leave misery guts at home to get on with it.. I'd be gone xx

B

@cattuccino

So, OK OP, come on back and let us know which one you would or will be doing.

B no hesitation, his choice your choice.

If you want to celebrate 🥳 then B but if not bothered A. It's your DH choice NOT to go so you do you! Happy Christmas 🎄

Omg plan a sounds bliss olan b sounds hellish lol

100000% option two

B absolutely. 100 mile round trip isn’t far, I had a daily commute longer than that for a few years and regularly do more than that just for dinner.

Ask DH if he wants to come with you to go see family. If he says no he's staying home then go yourself & don't feel guilty. It's his choice to stay alone why should you miss out.

B without a shadow of a doubt and stay over!

What did you do @cattuccino?