What would you do on Christmas Day?

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Scenario A - spend Christmas Day at home with husband, who doesn't 'do' Christmas apart from a roast dinner. He will spend most of the day in his computer room playing on the Xbox, watching films etc, with no desire to celebrate the day or do anything special. You usually stay at home as you feel bad leaving him alone on Christmas Day, so you will be watching Christmas tv and maybe going for a walk (alone). You would then visit family on Boxing Day.

Scenario B - spend Christmas Day with your parents and siblings, plus some wider family. Have a big meal together with them and maybe play board games, have fun chatting etc.
However husband would not come with you for this (so it may appear strange to others) and you would have a 100 mile round trip (driving) to get there.

What would you do?

Option B and stay over. Don't be embarrassed about it. DH doesn't like/celebrate Christmas, so it's fair enough - and you can get Ready meals for 1 with a 'roast' theme!!

I would do B), then execute option C) – separate in the NY with a view to divorcing. What's the point of being married to someone who won't even sit in the same room as you on Christmas Day?

I wouldn't feel sorry leaving my gaming DH alone. I'd feel sorry I have a DH that games on Xmas day, ick.
I'd feel angry at myself if I sat at home like a wet lettuce with DH while he was on his arse gaming. So B.

Exactly. OP, you should do precisely what you would prefer without consideration for what anyone else might think.

PS Is he generally this disengaged from life, or just doesn’t like Christmas ?

Why? He's chosen to spend the day gaming, and the op will be spending the day by herself if she stays at home.

B.

If he was willing to make an effort to come out of his room and spend time with me, then I’d never leave him on his own. But if he’s only coming out for food and then going back to his computer and leaving you on your own, then sod him. If you wanted to run around after an antisocial grump who only wants to speak to you when you’ve got a plate of roast potatoes, I’m pretty sure there would be a fed up parent who would happily lend you a teenager for the weekend.

B without question, and I wouldn’t hide where/ why husband wasn’t there, assuming they’ve met him and this is standard behaviour from him anyway? I wouldn’t spend another Christmas lonely and bored with someone basically avoiding me in my own home when I could spend it with people who could give me the time of day, whatever day it is.

Despite the fact that he’s prepared to leave her alone all day, apart from grudgingly emerging for a dinner I’m pretty sure he won’t have helped cook.

B and I would put up with no complaining or grumpiness about the fact. Go and celebrate Christmas and have fun with no guilt. A grown man who can’t bring himself to ‘do’ Christmas for the sake of his partner who obviously does enjoy Christmas is not someone I would be spending time with. Do as others say and stay over if possible.

Is he a child? How bizarre. B but I wouldn't be with someone so inconsiderate. And I agree with others stay a while.

And I say that with a husband who also games but he wouldn’t dream of it on Christmas Day - especially if it meant I’d be alone downstairs! How bizarre?

I think I would give DH the choice between option B or option C - coming up with an alternative way to spend the day that is compatible with whatever his problem is, but that involved us spending time together and making me happy too.

B but stay over if possible, unless you don’t mind the drive. Your husband surely wont be bothered being left alone if he doesn’t celebrate Christmas, it’s just like any other day to him.

B and I’d stay over and then head to a lovely spa. Miserable so and so of a husband!!

B. Enjoy OP!

What do you want to do?

B
Why doesn't he do Christmas? It's a bit odd when you do but he still chooses to leave you alone. Boring.

Well I would do A but spend the day doing my own thing.
However, I don't get on with my family.

From OP's perspective, she should do whichever option she would prefer.

Definitely B.

B
What's the point of staying with a miserable git who's more interested in his computer games and films than you? Sounds like he won't notice whether you're there or not, anyway.

Plan b —- and stay over have a ripple of your choice and enjoy your family and Xmas away from me misery.

Life’s too short

50 miles is an hour's drive, no question I'd go to family even if it meant driving both ways on Christmas Day.

Yup another B and stay over. And divorce A.

B.

You can always say DH is unwell of anyone asks and you don't feel up to telling the truth.

B and stay over, it’s the miserable husbands choice to not partake in the festivities