What would you do on Christmas Day?

[cattuccino]

Scenario A - spend Christmas Day at home with husband, who doesn't 'do' Christmas apart from a roast dinner. He will spend most of the day in his computer room playing on the Xbox, watching films etc, with no desire to celebrate the day or do anything special. You usually stay at home as you feel bad leaving him alone on Christmas Day, so you will be watching Christmas tv and maybe going for a walk (alone). You would then visit family on Boxing Day.

Scenario B - spend Christmas Day with your parents and siblings, plus some wider family. Have a big meal together with them and maybe play board games, have fun chatting etc.
However husband would not come with you for this (so it may appear strange to others) and you would have a 100 mile round trip (driving) to get there.

What would you do?

If he knows this is something that upsets you and refuses to change, he is a miserable and thoughtless man. B without a doubt.

B.

No way am I spending the day with someone who is going to ignore me in favour of the effing xbox.

also team “B and stay over”
Why do you feel guilty? He is invited so it’s up to him.
The main question why does he prefer spending Christmas like this? It sounds like you are just tenants with TV in common. If so what kind of future together you have? Very sad.

Hands down B
guessing if you stay home you cook the roast ?
leave him to it , go and enjoy your famliy

He doesn't care so don't feel bad. Go for Christmas eve to boxing day at leastm sorry OP that must be so lonely, being with someone like this.

Or plain selfish.

Whichever one I wanted to do more! Your DH isn’t bothered, so go with what you want. I personally would probably do A, but it’s your call.

BBBBBBBB!

Omg definitely B. Your family will be happy to have you I am sure. Forget about him and the family Christmas.

Haven't read the whole thread but assuming (hoping) you don't have DC with this misery of a man.

If he does that on christmas day, what does he do on the other days? I mean not doing christmas is one thing but if that is his standard home behaviour then usual question, what does he bring to the table?

B - without any doubt whatsoever.

It would be different if he wanted a quiet Xmas together spending quality time with you - but no way if he’s gaming all day and leaving you to go for a walk by yourself! Enjoy Xmas with your family and if you can stay over - even if on a blow up mattress.

Absolutely plan B. He has made his choice, you are free to make yours!

B. He spends the time alone on his X box anyway so you may as well do something you want to do. Stay over and drive back Boxing Day, or the day after, or the following week.

B
Stay over
Shake off that miserable sod

B with a stay over. I would happily do A as well as I like doing nothing much on my own, but you sound like you would prefer the B option.

B!! Go on 23rd and stay a few days at least. Life is too short to spend Christmas with the grinch 😂

B. Stay, if you can

Definitely this.

B for me with overnight. Preferably go up on Christmas Eve and leave on 27th.

B

C , file for divorce and start a new happy free life away from this cockwomble and do whatever I wanted at Christmas and every other day! Run my love be free of this loser! ....errr or go B 😁

Overwhelming agree with this.

Does he often leave you to your own devices @cattuccino rather than wanting to spend time with you?

Do you have kids?

What’s he like the rest of the time?

I’d have no time for this shit. I wouldn’t be bother with a bit of gaming here and there as a bit of down time but all fucking day is ridiculous. What a waste of a life. No one on their death bed is thinking “if only I’d made to level 400” or “I wish I’d spent more time playing mindless fucking games as a proxy for life”. He’s living in a false reality and should think about the real life he is fucking up around him.

B - I know someone who does this. Is the relationship happy though? He sounds like a difficult man to be in a relationship with.

B, unless the drive was daunting to me. I would probably stay overnight if I could. I wouldn't worry or feel guilty about H being alone if Christmas isn't a special day for him. I wouldn't be angry with him for opting out or self-conscious about going alone; I'd just invite him along and let him say no (and fend for himself) if he prefers.