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To think that if a man has had bottom surgery they should be put in a woman’s prison?

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Bex5490 · 11/12/2024 12:26

Genuinely interested in this and not trying to goad just want to understand.

When people talk of the threat of a man in women’s spaces, I assume the danger is because of their penis.

So if that’s gone then should they be categorised as a woman?

I’m kind of of the opinion that if you’re willing to put that much effort in (as in penis removal) regardless of your chromosomes, I’m happy for you to be called a woman…is this wrong?

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MissScarletInTheBallroom · 12/12/2024 16:53

Cheesytoastie · 12/12/2024 16:52

Men exploiting self ID laws to get an easier time in prison.

No one believes these men are really transgender do they? To only be transgender for the duration of your prison sentence is stupid and clearly fake.

So how do we tell the difference between a real trans woman and a trans woman who is only pretending?

Lostcat · 12/12/2024 16:54

NewGreenDuck · 12/12/2024 16:52

But it makes a huge difference to my sex based rights. Can you really not see that?

No I don’t see that. You see trans people as a threat . This is transphobia. They are not a threat. They are just here and that’s ok.

Helleofabore · 12/12/2024 16:54

DowntonFlabbie · 12/12/2024 16:25

It would appear that Lostcat is insisting that the Emperor has new clothes but she strangely can't tell us what colour they are.

Why is that, do we think?

Rather apt...

However, the thread certainly is about finish which I suspect is the aim for some posters.

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 12/12/2024 16:54

Lostcat · 12/12/2024 16:52

It has no bearing on our existence

oh good, I’m glad you acknowledge this.

Now you are reassured that you will still exist, please be reassured there will always be a word for your existence. Trans people won’t eliminate this.

What's the word for "all female people, not including any male people" then?

Lostcat · 12/12/2024 16:55

Fluufer · 12/12/2024 16:53

We don't need a new word. We have a perfectly good one.

Yes woman. Let’s keep it. And be ok with trans women at the same time. Radical eh?

Helleofabore · 12/12/2024 16:55

GoodnightIrene · 12/12/2024 16:28

I've not read all the many hundreds of posts on this subject but as a big fan of the female musical, satirical cabaret act "Fascinating Aïda" I'm thinking about one of it's members 72 years old Adèle Anderson who transitioned to a woman about 50 years ago. She's incredibly glamorous as well as highly talented and I just can't imagine asking HER to use men's facilities.

Because the person was glamorous and talented?

Yet still a male person....

Lostcat · 12/12/2024 16:55

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 12/12/2024 16:53

So how do we tell the difference between a real trans woman and a trans woman who is only pretending?

How do you tell the difference? Or do you see all trans people as a threat because they might be pretending?

lifeturnsonadime · 12/12/2024 16:56

Lostcat · 12/12/2024 16:55

Yes woman. Let’s keep it. And be ok with trans women at the same time. Radical eh?

I'm OK with trans women I just want them to stay out of single sex spaces for females. Because they are male.

That's not unreasonable. It's necessary for the safety and dignity and fairness of female people.

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 12/12/2024 16:56

Lostcat · 12/12/2024 16:54

No I don’t see that. You see trans people as a threat . This is transphobia. They are not a threat. They are just here and that’s ok.

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How can you say they are not a threat when trans identifying males have been convicted of raping and sexually assaulting women, raped and sexually assaulted women whilst serving prison sentences in women's prisons, effectively removed almost all single sex rape crisis provision in the UK and taken awards and medals meant for women?

Fluufer · 12/12/2024 16:56

Lostcat · 12/12/2024 16:55

Yes woman. Let’s keep it. And be ok with trans women at the same time. Radical eh?

Yes, so men can pick a new one to describe their very abstract "feelings".

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 12/12/2024 16:57

Lostcat · 12/12/2024 16:55

How do you tell the difference? Or do you see all trans people as a threat because they might be pretending?

I can't tell the difference. Because both are male people who call themselves women.

How do YOU tell the difference?

Fluufer · 12/12/2024 16:57

Lostcat · 12/12/2024 16:55

How do you tell the difference? Or do you see all trans people as a threat because they might be pretending?

They're all pretending. It's not possible to do anything other than pretend to become something you are not.

Lostcat · 12/12/2024 16:58

Fluufer · 12/12/2024 16:56

Yes, so men can pick a new one to describe their very abstract "feelings".

So now being trans is having “very abstract feelings”?

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 12/12/2024 16:58

Lostcat · 12/12/2024 16:55

Yes woman. Let’s keep it. And be ok with trans women at the same time. Radical eh?

Happy to keep the word "women".

Trans women are not included within this definition though. Because they are male.

Lostcat · 12/12/2024 16:58

Fluufer · 12/12/2024 16:57

They're all pretending. It's not possible to do anything other than pretend to become something you are not.

All trans people are pretending?

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 12/12/2024 16:58

Lostcat · 12/12/2024 16:58

So now being trans is having “very abstract feelings”?

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What. Is. It. Then.

????

NonPlayerCharacter · 12/12/2024 16:59

Lostcat · 12/12/2024 16:50

We just aren't sure what exactly they are

Well at least this is honest. Now go forth and educate yourself please.

How do you think we became terfs?

Your meaningless, roundabout burbling won't wash any more. It's over. Find another cause that isn't pushing for men in women's changing rooms.

Fluufer · 12/12/2024 16:59

Lostcat · 12/12/2024 16:58

All trans people are pretending?

Obviously. Sex change is biologically impossible.

DowntonFlabbie · 12/12/2024 16:59

Lostcat · 12/12/2024 16:58

So now being trans is having “very abstract feelings”?

Edited

We don't know. You won't tell us.

Is it so abstract you can't explain?

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 12/12/2024 16:59

Lostcat · 12/12/2024 16:58

All trans people are pretending?

Objection:

It doesn't matter whether they are pretending or whether they actually believe it.

None of them are actually the opposite sex.

Bex5490 · 12/12/2024 16:59

DowntonFlabbie · 12/12/2024 16:35

Anyone? Anyone at all?
Can anyone tell me what the difference is between a man and a transwoman?

Is there an answer to.this question?

I would say the fundamental difference relies on someone believing or disbelieving in the existence of a gender identity.

Some (like you) believe that it is made up and therefore a trans woman is just a biological male.

Others like @Lostcat and @Cheesytoastie I assume believe it to be a real thing and therefore think that trans women are people born biologically male who’s gender identity does not match this.

I think regardless of your position, you agree that the characteristics used to define a gender identity are based on stereotypes.

And that these stereotypical characteristics shouldn’t be used to categorise anything but some would say that they can’t be ignored as because of our time line of history (as in how the world came to be what it is now) they do exist and to ignore them is to ignore the situation that we currently live in.

I think…

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lifeturnsonadime · 12/12/2024 16:59

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 12/12/2024 16:59

Objection:

It doesn't matter whether they are pretending or whether they actually believe it.

None of them are actually the opposite sex.

Quite.

DowntonFlabbie · 12/12/2024 17:00

Lostcat · 12/12/2024 16:58

All trans people are pretending?

Are you pretending? To know what the difference between a man and a transwoman is?

It's ok, we know you can't answer. Because you know there isn't one.

Lostcat · 12/12/2024 17:00

Fluufer · 12/12/2024 16:59

Obviously. Sex change is biologically impossible.

So to confirm- all trans people are pretending. Being trans is a “pretence”?

Ereshkigalangcleg · 12/12/2024 17:00

No one believes these men are really transgender do they? To only be transgender for the duration of your prison sentence is stupid and clearly fake.

So? Don't create loopholes predatory men can take advantage of. It makes zero difference to women what their motivations are. #AcceptanceWithoutException - Amnesty International.

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