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To think that if a man has had bottom surgery they should be put in a woman’s prison?

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Bex5490 · 11/12/2024 12:26

Genuinely interested in this and not trying to goad just want to understand.

When people talk of the threat of a man in women’s spaces, I assume the danger is because of their penis.

So if that’s gone then should they be categorised as a woman?

I’m kind of of the opinion that if you’re willing to put that much effort in (as in penis removal) regardless of your chromosomes, I’m happy for you to be called a woman…is this wrong?

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Lostcat · 12/12/2024 16:44

DowntonFlabbie · 12/12/2024 16:42

I think I'll have to reluctantly conclude that Lostcat et al are perfectly well aware that the answer to:

"What is the difference between a man and a transwoman"

Is that there isn't one. Because if there was, they would have told us, they're so eager to reduce transphobia that they'd have to, wouldn't they. But they haven't, and they won't, because they can't, and they know that.

Looks like elaborate trolling to me 🤷‍♀️

*there isn't one.”

So if you believe there isn’t any distinction , on what basis do you claim to acknowledge that trans women exist? If you know they exist, you surely must be able to identify them?

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 12/12/2024 16:46

Lostcat · 12/12/2024 16:40

purely because a few male people want to be included

“purely because”
”a few male people”
”want to be included”.

Nothing dismissive to see here is there…?
No tell tale signs of what you really think about trans people… ?

So you do actually think that half the human population should be redefined (To mean what exactly? No one knows!) because this is what trans people want?

What about women?

What if we want to define ourselves as female people, a category which does not include any male people, and we want to have a word for that? Are you seriously saying we shouldn't be allowed to, because it will make trans women feel sad?

Lostcat · 12/12/2024 16:47

NewGreenDuck · 12/12/2024 16:43

Yes it does. Including men in the definition of women means that women as a sex no longer exist. Which causes so many issues.

Including Trans women within the definition of the word women has no bearing on my existence whatsoever, or yours, or the existence of any other woman.

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 12/12/2024 16:47

Lostcat · 12/12/2024 16:44

*there isn't one.”

So if you believe there isn’t any distinction , on what basis do you claim to acknowledge that trans women exist? If you know they exist, you surely must be able to identify them?

Of course trans women exist.

They're male people, who say they identify as female people

The difference between trans women and men is that men don't call themselves women.

DowntonFlabbie · 12/12/2024 16:48

Lostcat · 12/12/2024 16:44

*there isn't one.”

So if you believe there isn’t any distinction , on what basis do you claim to acknowledge that trans women exist? If you know they exist, you surely must be able to identify them?

You're admitting there isn't one? Wow.

I can identify them just fine, they are men who would prefer to be treated as if they were women. They exist.

But how do you identify them? Come on, admit it, you identify them in exactly the same way!

Fluufer · 12/12/2024 16:48

Lostcat · 12/12/2024 16:47

Including Trans women within the definition of the word women has no bearing on my existence whatsoever, or yours, or the existence of any other woman.

So what would the new definition of woman be?

Lostcat · 12/12/2024 16:48

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 12/12/2024 16:46

So you do actually think that half the human population should be redefined (To mean what exactly? No one knows!) because this is what trans people want?

What about women?

What if we want to define ourselves as female people, a category which does not include any male people, and we want to have a word for that? Are you seriously saying we shouldn't be allowed to, because it will make trans women feel sad?

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So you do actually think that half the human population should be redefined

No.

because this is what trans people want?

erm. No it isn’t 😂. They just want you to stop redefining/ dismissing/ refusing their existence.

DowntonFlabbie · 12/12/2024 16:49

Lostcat · 12/12/2024 16:47

Including Trans women within the definition of the word women has no bearing on my existence whatsoever, or yours, or the existence of any other woman.

Oh but it does, and you know that too.

Why are you lying so much? What's your angle here?

Fluufer · 12/12/2024 16:49

Lostcat · 12/12/2024 16:48

So you do actually think that half the human population should be redefined

No.

because this is what trans people want?

erm. No it isn’t 😂. They just want you to stop redefining/ dismissing/ refusing their existence.

We all know they exist. They never stop telling us. We just aren't sure what exactly they are.

Lostcat · 12/12/2024 16:49

DowntonFlabbie · 12/12/2024 16:48

You're admitting there isn't one? Wow.

I can identify them just fine, they are men who would prefer to be treated as if they were women. They exist.

But how do you identify them? Come on, admit it, you identify them in exactly the same way!

men who would prefer

So now being trans is “a preference” is it?

DowntonFlabbie · 12/12/2024 16:49

Lostcat · 12/12/2024 16:48

So you do actually think that half the human population should be redefined

No.

because this is what trans people want?

erm. No it isn’t 😂. They just want you to stop redefining/ dismissing/ refusing their existence.

We haven't done so. But maybe you could define it properly for us?

What is the difference between a man and a transwoman?

Come on, you're running out of posts on this thread.....

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 12/12/2024 16:50

Lostcat · 12/12/2024 16:47

Including Trans women within the definition of the word women has no bearing on my existence whatsoever, or yours, or the existence of any other woman.

It has no bearing on our existence.

Female people will always continue to exist, as a group which does not and will never include any male people.

Including male people within the definition of women simply means that the word "women" now just means "some people", and we no longer have a word for the specific kind of people that we are.

Helleofabore · 12/12/2024 16:50

DowntonFlabbie · 12/12/2024 16:16

Because you say you know, and I don't.

What identifies someone as trans? They do.

I'd truly love to know what the difference is between a man and a transwoman. Please share your knowledge.

Well I think the studies posted upthread don't show there is any clear evidence that a male with a transgender identity has a brain that is structured differently to any other male person who would have the same interests and take the same drug regimen. Nor does the statistics and study show that a male person with a transgender identity has a lower risk of committing a sex crime than any other UK male person (who may receive the exact same level of mental health care as that male with a transgender identity).

So, I too am keen to see these differences.

Lostcat · 12/12/2024 16:50

Fluufer · 12/12/2024 16:49

We all know they exist. They never stop telling us. We just aren't sure what exactly they are.

We just aren't sure what exactly they are

Well at least this is honest. Now go forth and educate yourself please.

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 12/12/2024 16:51

Lostcat · 12/12/2024 16:50

We just aren't sure what exactly they are

Well at least this is honest. Now go forth and educate yourself please.

We do know what they are.

They are male people who call themselves women.

Fluufer · 12/12/2024 16:51

Lostcat · 12/12/2024 16:50

We just aren't sure what exactly they are

Well at least this is honest. Now go forth and educate yourself please.

Perhaps you can help? Unless you don't know either?

DowntonFlabbie · 12/12/2024 16:51

Lostcat · 12/12/2024 16:50

We just aren't sure what exactly they are

Well at least this is honest. Now go forth and educate yourself please.

But you're here. Educate us. What's the difference between a man and a transwoman?

How are we to educate ourselves when those who know this answer won't tell us?

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 12/12/2024 16:52

Lostcat · 12/12/2024 16:48

So you do actually think that half the human population should be redefined

No.

because this is what trans people want?

erm. No it isn’t 😂. They just want you to stop redefining/ dismissing/ refusing their existence.

Nobody is denying trans people's existence.

(A lot of) trans people are in fact denying that female people exist or that we need a word for female people.

Lostcat · 12/12/2024 16:52

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 12/12/2024 16:50

It has no bearing on our existence.

Female people will always continue to exist, as a group which does not and will never include any male people.

Including male people within the definition of women simply means that the word "women" now just means "some people", and we no longer have a word for the specific kind of people that we are.

It has no bearing on our existence

oh good, I’m glad you acknowledge this.

Now you are reassured that you will still exist, please be reassured there will always be a word for your existence. Trans people won’t eliminate this.

NewGreenDuck · 12/12/2024 16:52

Lostcat · 12/12/2024 16:47

Including Trans women within the definition of the word women has no bearing on my existence whatsoever, or yours, or the existence of any other woman.

But it makes a huge difference to my sex based rights. Can you really not see that?

Cheesytoastie · 12/12/2024 16:52

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 12/12/2024 16:34

How do you explain the phenomenon known as "prison onset gender dysphoria" then?

Men exploiting self ID laws to get an easier time in prison.

No one believes these men are really transgender do they? To only be transgender for the duration of your prison sentence is stupid and clearly fake.

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 12/12/2024 16:52

DowntonFlabbie · 12/12/2024 16:49

We haven't done so. But maybe you could define it properly for us?

What is the difference between a man and a transwoman?

Come on, you're running out of posts on this thread.....

I think filling the thread up with nonsense might actually be the objective here.

We're certainly not getting any sense out of them.

DowntonFlabbie · 12/12/2024 16:52

Lostcat · 12/12/2024 16:52

It has no bearing on our existence

oh good, I’m glad you acknowledge this.

Now you are reassured that you will still exist, please be reassured there will always be a word for your existence. Trans people won’t eliminate this.

What's that word then?

And what's the difference between a man and a transwoman?

Lostcat · 12/12/2024 16:53

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 12/12/2024 16:52

Nobody is denying trans people's existence.

(A lot of) trans people are in fact denying that female people exist or that we need a word for female people.

Nobody is denying trans people's existence

But you don’t know what they are, so how do you know they exist?

Fluufer · 12/12/2024 16:53

Lostcat · 12/12/2024 16:52

It has no bearing on our existence

oh good, I’m glad you acknowledge this.

Now you are reassured that you will still exist, please be reassured there will always be a word for your existence. Trans people won’t eliminate this.

We don't need a new word. We have a perfectly good one.

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