AIBU to feel completely distressed by the viral video of the aftermath of onlyfans worker Lily P 'sleeping with' 100 men?

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I've tried to word this carefully.

Lily, an onlyfans star, aged 20something I'm guessing, slept with 100 men in one go, as part of a documentary.

Following this, she's on camera crying. She says her eyes hurt as some of the men ejaculated in them, despite her saying no.

My heart is broken for this girl. Im a feminist but I've never thought of sex work as being empowering?

Surely, the empowerment of sex work has failed this poor girl? And surely the 100 men who agreed to do this are criminals???

I'm so angry. You could see in the video that Lily is realising what a mistake this was and is very traumatised.

Anyway, didn't see a thread on this so thought I'd post. My heart goes out to her, and my brain feels very angry at those who failed to protect her.

It says quite a bit about us all on MN that Lilly P's sex life attracts such interest but Sara Sharif does not.

Wrong name and skin colour vs right name and skin colour.

Yes because the two are similar. Oh wait they’re not remotely similar.

Plenty of threads on number about Sara sharif. What a stupid thing to post.

No there isn't. not ones hitting 30s pages plus... let face it, no one, inc you, likes to be told that you care more about a 23yo prostitutes life than the murder of a 12yo.

Try harder next time, there’s been plenty of long threads about poor Sara. What a gross way to try and make your point.

If it was so commonplace we wouldn't be having a discussion about it would we.

Maybe because there isn't much to argue about in relation to poor Sara. What a fucking idiotic comment to make.

I think her crying in that video after, and the lack of thought she'd given to catching stds before, shows she is naive
Yes, she was naive, but that doesn't make her innocent in the outcome.

Sadly, it's nothing but a case of social media going too far. Young people daily hit my example of fame and easy money that makes other fantasising about ways to achieve the same or more by pushing the boundaries a bit further.

I expect she was solely focussed on the positive outcomes and failed to consider the impact of the negatives. She thought she was much more resilient than what any woman can cope with.

I also expect that she was warned about this by many people but again, the pull of fame and money blended her.

It's a huge lesson to everyone. Fame and money rarely come as easily as portrayed without dreadful consequences. That's why drug, suicide, death is sadly much to common.

Stay away from this type of social media. It's as destructive as any physical drug.

Hope you will go on to that woman’s multiple threads about her DH cheating and give them all a telling off too then. She’s on the third thread so far.

It's gross that even her Dad's friends pay for content from her. She didn't seem like a rough girl growing up with previous issues. She seemed nice and normal and a pretty girl, it is a shame. She also put herself down a lot, I felt sorry for her.

Oh yeah course it was accidental.

im pretty sure he knew what he was doing

I am good at it because I dont make assumptions about people.

Why have you assumed a trauma background for this woman, where is the evidence for this.

And as I said, if she has had some sort of trauma, why assume this is what leads to her choices?

She might be reliving or reframing something, continuing to process something, or she might just think this is a way she can make a name for herself and make money.

The thread is set up to make one and only one assumption and narrative, that she is a victim, that isnt necessarily so, she might be, or she might not.

Not sure what I think to this. Human behaviour and motivations fascinate me.

She didn't seem particularly traumatised, more tired and dazed.

I think it's pretty disgusting for all involved. The fact that her family apparently support this rings alarm bells. I think she might live to regret all of this if she later on wants to have children and a meaningful relationship with the someone.

Otoh if she becomes rich maybe it will all have felt worth it.

I'm not sure that she's a victim but what she's doing is definitely self harm.

I don’t think anyone is treating her like a child, it’s more that she’s behaving in a way where she could end up being sectioned to protect herself. Her decision making process around risk is faulty essentially.

But she couldn't. She absolutely couldn't be sectioned for this behaviour.

Fair enough, I may be going off Americanisms. I still think she needs some
intervention, for her own sake more than anything. It’s like watching a car crash in slow motion and wanting someone to do something to protect her from herself. It’s a life of misadventure.

I wonder if she's a masochist. If she is, S&M isn't something that should be acted out in public. The rest of us didn't consent to be part of this, and its making people upset that they can't help her.

You think she might be sectioned due to this behaviour???!!!!

I think this plays a part to an extent, there’s videos online of her being pissed on and she mentions it as being her kink

I already said I was mistaken

And you then said she needs an intervention

Do you work with assessing capacity in any, erm, capacity?

Do you understand capacity and choice?

If you take the emotives out of it due to it being sex, there are countless people up and down the country engaging in very high level sports/dance which takes a huge huge physical and emotional toll on the body, damages it, causes irreversible change in some cases like gymnastics or ballet or extreme sports where people get frost bite etc etc, I dont hear anyone saying they need to be sectioned or have an 'intervention' or that their decision making is flawed.

I bet at the end of the day they cry in pain too.

Basically this, where would people prefer the options of being able to do this activity vs other extreme sports etc and just because its extreme to some and not others then where is the line rather than just Victorian morals

Being a porn star is not considered a mental disorder for which you can be sectioned under the Mental Health Act 2007.

Most of the comments regarding sectioning on this thread can be summarised as "I can't imagine anyone doing this unless they had a mental disorder, therefore she has a mental disorder, and should be sectioned."

Pretty much to a t so to speak,

Honestly, I think comparing this situation to ballet, gymnastics, or extreme sports is a false equivalence. Those activities usually involve years of training, structured oversight, safety measures, and a clear understanding of the risks and rewards. They also don’t typically result in someone crying afterward and feeling like they’ve been exploited in the manner she openly described after her first experience. Or the risk of STIs.

This isn’t about sex itself—it’s about her expressing significant emotional distress and then escalating the same behaviour. That’s not the same as someone pushing their limits in a sport they’re passionate about. Crying in pain after extreme sports isn’t the same as crying from emotional turmoil or regret of a 100 person orgy, indicating underlying mental health struggles and internal conflict.

The fact that she felt this way after 100 men but is now pursuing 1,000 raises red flags about her well-being and decision-making. It’s not about controlling her choices—it’s about recognising when someone might need support rather than cheering them on as if this is merely another “extreme activity” like ballet or “frost bite”