To not keep my mouth shut..

[arcticpandas]

So DH loves romantic comedies. Think Love Actually, Pretty Woman, Bridget Jones etc. I don't but each to their own. But certain movies have not aged gracefully imo. Think Pretty Woman. Is it romantic to pay a prostitute? And Bridget Jones. How overweight is she? Not at all imo and yet it's a big part of the plot. Also when Hugh Grant touches her butt it's supposed to be exciting when in fact it's sexual harassment. Maybe it's me getting old 40+ or it's the whole metoo débâcle that has made it impossible to not notice and be annoyed about misogynie and sexism and bodyshaming in movies. My DH thinks I'm a bore and that "it's just a movie" and I get that. Yet I have to either point out what's upsetting if I'm in the living room, or I have to go elsewhere.
So
AIBU - Yes, just shut up and let your DH enjoy his films.
AINBU- No, you are right to point out blatant sexism.
I am seriously in doubt about this one since I do get that DH wants to relax and not having me nag but also I find some things too offensive and I feel I need to point them out since he doesn't see the harm.

Sounds like gaslighting to me and she was drugged so she doesn’t remember being impregnated

Everyone talks about Cleaver pinching Bridget’s bum in BJD yet happily skips over the creepy “uncle” at the Christmas party….

Art reflects life…. These films are indicative of the time they were made and yes things do move on but that doesn’t mean you can’t appreciate it for what it was.

I do and she's not.

Well you clearly don't as you have provided none.

You pointing things out isn't going to make a difference now so I'd either not mention it & watch it with him or leave your DH to watch them alone. It's really not worth arguing with your DH over though as there's nothing you can do to change the narrative of the films.

Ridiculous statement. One can have thoughts and not share them, you know.

Rather defeats the purpose of a forum then. Let's just all sit in silence not sharing our thoughts.

Good advice for many. I shared as I wanted to, you just seem obsessed enough to keep on about it.

If I choose, I can say someone else entirely wrong without giving a detailed breakdown of why. I don't have to show my workings.

The best romantic comedy is The Goodbye Girl. It’s relatable. Neither of the leads (Richard Dreyfus and Marsha Mason) are drop dead gorgeous. The flat they are forced to share (because Marsha’s bastard ex sublet it) is actually a bit shabby and not in a salubrious part of New York. I thoroughly recommend it.

Personally, I find torture porn films like Saw and all that gore-fest sort of stuff highly problematic. I think that wanting to watch something like that and actually enjoying it is worrisome.

DH however (who doesn't have a violent or aggressive bone in his body) quite likes them.

Films like that IMO, are far more of a problem in a society where violence against women is scarily prevalent.

But each to their own when it comes to entertainment! The Holiday hasn't aged particularly well either but it's still a cosy nostalgia fest for me. If DH sat by me pontificating about the issues with it whilst I was enjoying it, then I'd be really annoyed!