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I know his secret…. Thread 3

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Waffletots · 10/12/2024 18:35

Starting another thread because the last one is full.

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5226374-i-know-his-secret-but-how-do-i-play-this?page=1

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5226809-i-know-his-secret-thread-2?page=1

Thank you so much everyone for your messages, I appreciate them so much and you have truly helped me this past crazy few days to know I have so many people supporting me.
I’ve seen a solicitor this afternoon who has given me some good advice regarding finances and the legalities when it comes to our jointly owned home, a lot to get my head around but I feel a lot more informed now!
I’ve missed two calls from my husband since I last updated, I’m worried he’s going to come to the house to try and speak to me but hoping he may think my brother is still here and not bother!

I know his secret but how do I play this? | Mumsnet

I have been married for five years to who I thought was a wonderful man, we have a child and one on the way. Last night I received a text from his fe...

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5226374-i-know-his-secret-but-how-do-i-play-this?page=1

OP posts:
Petrasings · 14/12/2024 21:31

Waffletots · 14/12/2024 21:27

Hi everyone, just a quick update!
Baby is here safely, I won’t say when they were born for obvious reasons or many details. Apart from thankfully it was (very!) quick and I had my mum for support (sadly so quick my sister in law didn’t make it!) but arrived not long after, she was very shocked to see me with a baby on my chest!
My husband has been informed by my family, nothing from him yet in way of asking to see either of our children just the usual “woe is me” messages, no actual explanation or apology but I now know to expect nothing more.
I worried when I had the baby I would feel weak and want our “family unit” back… but looking at my two treasures, I know I can get through anything and we all deserve more, I will never, ever go back.
Thanks so much for all the support, I will post again as and when I can x

Congratulations op!!!! Oh that’s wonderful news and you need nothing more than you two darling treasures. Enjoy every moment, even in this backdrop, as it’s such a special time and you will never have this again. 💐💐💐💐

Edenmum2 · 14/12/2024 21:31

Congratulations, a fresh start for you all ❤️ so pleased it went smoothly for you

LL99887 · 14/12/2024 21:31

Congratulations @Waffletots ! Glad everything went well. I bet your 3 year old will adore the baby so much

I think looking at our precious kids when we know what our H's have done actually makes us less able to tolerate their pathetic, childish, self-obsessed "woe is me" attitude. That he couldnt keep "it" in his pants to give his children the home-life they deserve...nah, he's not worth anything.

Itsallsostressful · 14/12/2024 21:32

Congratulations Waffles !!! Concentrate on the unit of you and your 2 little people with the support of your amazing family xxxx

Justgorgeous · 14/12/2024 21:32

Congratulations to you. Take care of yourself 🌸

Chatterboxy · 14/12/2024 21:32

Huge congratulations to you xx

wakeupsmelltheroses · 14/12/2024 21:32

Many Congratulations. 🥳 Please look after yourself when the baby blues hit after 3 days or you could miss them entirely . Much love ❤️

SpryCat · 14/12/2024 21:32

Huge Congratulations Op, your baby finally here in your arms x

Jaichangecentfoisdenom · 14/12/2024 21:33

Congratulations! Look after yourself, as well as the new baby and your toddler!

Fleurdalys · 14/12/2024 21:33

Massive congratulations xxx

oOiluvfriendsOo · 14/12/2024 21:34

Congratulations 💐

SpidersAreShitheads · 14/12/2024 21:34

How wonderful @Waffletots - huge congratulations on your new squidgy bundle of joy! I'm so happy you've got a lovely family around you supporting you. That and your two beautiful DC are all you need. Lovely, lovely news!!!

As an aside, I cannot fucking BELIEVE that he hasn't been begging to see the baby, and your 3-yr old. Absolutely unforgiveable. I think if the fact he hadn't been playing hide the sausage was bad enough to give him the boot, the total disinterest in you, the new baby, and your tot would do it for me. What a fucking pig. He really is. Whatever has happened between you, he should be wanting to see the new baby, making sure you are OK, and supporting your family unit because y'know, they're his bloody kids. But it's just all about him and his sad little face. Centring himself. Honestly raging for you!

I always think it's easy for us to judge here in MN-land but this man really is showing his true colours and you sound like an incredibly strong woman. I'm in awe of you, truly.

SlowestHorse · 14/12/2024 21:34

So pleased for you. Congratulations! And all the very best for the future. X

BeAzureAnt · 14/12/2024 21:35

Waffletots · 14/12/2024 21:27

Hi everyone, just a quick update!
Baby is here safely, I won’t say when they were born for obvious reasons or many details. Apart from thankfully it was (very!) quick and I had my mum for support (sadly so quick my sister in law didn’t make it!) but arrived not long after, she was very shocked to see me with a baby on my chest!
My husband has been informed by my family, nothing from him yet in way of asking to see either of our children just the usual “woe is me” messages, no actual explanation or apology but I now know to expect nothing more.
I worried when I had the baby I would feel weak and want our “family unit” back… but looking at my two treasures, I know I can get through anything and we all deserve more, I will never, ever go back.
Thanks so much for all the support, I will post again as and when I can x

Congratulations! I wish you all the best and all the happiness! As I said before, your husband is an idiot. You are one remarkable woman.

rainbowruthie · 14/12/2024 21:36

Huge congratulations!
Enjoy all of those newborn snuggles

barbarahunter · 14/12/2024 21:36

Many congratulations x

Imbusytodaysorry · 14/12/2024 21:37

Congratulations @Waffletots so happy for you.
Stay strong. You are doing amazing ! ❤️

AngelicKaty · 14/12/2024 21:38

WONDERFUL news! And so pleased for all of you for your resolve - you deserve the best of everything! ❤️

Venicelagoon · 14/12/2024 21:40

Wow ! I'm truly in awe of your strength throughout all this recent upheaval and upset. Many Congratulations !!!!💝

lessglittermoremud · 14/12/2024 21:42

Wonderful news, massive congratulations! X

MrsTigerface · 14/12/2024 21:43

Massive, massive congrats on your gorgeous new baby, @Waffletots ! Wonderful news x

dibly · 14/12/2024 21:43

Congratulations, such lovely news. Wish nothing but the best for you and your little ones, and lap up the family support in these early days. So relieved he didn’t arrive for a showdown in hospital, he’s made himself irrelevant!

browneyes77 · 14/12/2024 21:43

Congratulations!!! 💐💐💐💐

You are handling this like a QUEEN.

You just keep focusing on those two precious babies of yours and look after yourself x

AdmittowearingCrocs · 14/12/2024 21:43

Huge congratulations @Waffletots, you are an amazing mum and strong woman. Enjoy your new baby and time with your three year old. 💐

PyongyangKipperbang · 14/12/2024 21:43

Huge congratulations!!

Funny how none of it is about the kids or how he loves you but all about him....blha blah....it always fucking was.

YOU ARE A HERO!!!

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