I know his secret…. Thread 3

[Waffletots]

Starting another thread because the last one is full.

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5226374-i-know-his-secret-but-how-do-i-play-this?page=1

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5226809-i-know-his-secret-thread-2?page=1

Thank you so much everyone for your messages, I appreciate them so much and you have truly helped me this past crazy few days to know I have so many people supporting me.
I’ve seen a solicitor this afternoon who has given me some good advice regarding finances and the legalities when it comes to our jointly owned home, a lot to get my head around but I feel a lot more informed now!
I’ve missed two calls from my husband since I last updated, I’m worried he’s going to come to the house to try and speak to me but hoping he may think my brother is still here and not bother!

@YourEmotionalPunchBag Oh I see, you're name changing so you can keep coming back to give us endless nonsense about the "poor menz". Go away. You have nothing useful to add.

Well he planned and conceived a baby with OP. She doesn't have to deal with the shock and talk to him until she has delivered the baby he wanted in the next few days. The stress hormones are not good for the baby either.

Many are good at compartmentalising their lives attending "business events" and "working late", I had no idea my ex was having an affair until I received a postcard confirming Mr and Mrs (my name's) weekend hotel booking for a Windmill for a weekend he supposed to be at a work conference in a different part of the UK entirely. It was his junior at work. But then again he booked his second wedding before we were even divorced.

Created an account purely to ask seriously dude are you the husband?

I think it's the PP who pulled everyone's pigtails and ran away.

I've reported anyway.

Hasn’t been part of her life!? They’re fucking pregnant!!

"He hasn't exactly been part of her life if she hasn't noticed he's been having a physical relationship outside of their marriage for 12 months."

So to 'be part of someone's life' they have to have eyes on you at all times? Being part of someone's life depends on them 'noticing' everything you're doing?

Yeah, you're not serious.

That's not how mumsnet works. Maybe ask the daily mail to do proper and ethical investigative journalism, and you might hear both sides of abetting they publish in the future.

Reported that fool also

The thing that matters now is the baby and the health of OP. She is hours/days away from having a baby that her husband claimed to want. He hasn't asked about the 3 year old, or his 9 month pregnant wife or the health of the baby - his only messages are selfish "woe is me"

He obviously did not choose to "talk things over" in the past 12 months so he can take a hike to give OP peace at home for a couple of weeks while she sorts herself out.

and me. He seems to be trolling and changing names - possibly Mikex who may be a pbp

Same. This should be a safe space for the OP. He should just fuck right off making excuses for an inadequate man who can't keep his dick in his pants.

But just like Mikex and their posts, people rise to it and give them exactly what they want - attention.

Always best to ignore these idiots.

Why didn't he talk to her before deciding to embark on an affair then, if communication is so important? He has still been sleeping with OP while sleeping with this other woman, pretending to be the family man, good dad and husband, it's not only the cheating to consider here, it is the year long deception, not to mention the risk to OP and his unborn child.

It' a bit one sided to say she should talk to him about it and forgive him, when he didn't bother to talk to her, people can be in happy relationships and have their head turned by someone else, it happens all the time in fact, people cheat, sometimes multiple times, but if you choose to cheat in the hope your wife/husband won't find out, there are no guarantees it will the way you want it to when they do find out.

All trust is gone and he doesn't deserve to ever have it back, I can't believe he would throw away his relationship and living with his children for a few shags on the side, I hope it was worth it to him to lose it all.

Actually, I think "mikex" or "youremotionalpunchbag" is serious - which shouldn't really be a surprise as he clearly believes the world revolves around him and his "needs". He's just another victim-blaming, "it's all about ME", man-child. Sigh. 🙄

Yes...What pushed a man into having an affair while his wife was carrying his child?

Oh, the humanity...

And your excuses for the way he treated the other woman? Lying to her? Saying his marriage was over that they were just sharing the house until he could move out? She was clearly listening to him. Much good it has done her. You can't see a pattern of abusive dishonest behaviour here?

I'm so pleased you are getting the help and support you need. A long journey ahead but keep your support network around you and keep talking.

Let's all just ignore the trolls. They are looking for a reaction so don't give them the satisfaction. Don't engage. It's most probably not even their real view, just someone who is bored and so trying to stir things up. I pity them.
😂

Sending love and light to all the 👾

His dick, his narcissism and his overwheening arrogance?

It's usually what "pushes" highly inadequate men to cheat on their pregnant wives and to expect to be forgiven.

His dick, his responsibility. Not hers. Why are you trying to make it her fault?