@Waffletots if you don’t want him at the hospital after you give birth then make sure that no one tells him you are in labour ( including posting on social media).
Your brother can contact him once you are home from hospital. If I were you, I’d go and register the baby's birth first before you do this. just so there are no arguments about baby’s first and last names.
You will need to take your marriage certificate so have it handy.
Your husband is obviously desperate to contact you directly because he thinks he can talk you round / guilt trip you. Which is all the more reason to keep all contact via your brother . Especially post partum when you are likely to be tired and emotional.
Thats when you are most vulnerable to any manipulation.
“ Look she meant nothing to me, it’s was just sex a few times , I was depressed / worried about work but I didn’t want to tell you as you were pregnant and I wanted to protect you. I’ve been a fool but all that matters is you and the kids, can’t we start again and be the happy family you’ve always dreamed of ? Is this what you want for our children ? “
Followed by a few days later ….
“ You are not being rational , I understand that you are angry and jealous but you can’t punish the children to get at me. I’ve been patient with you so far but it’s been weeks now , you can’t keep me hanging on like this, it’s not fair “.
and then
“ How long are you going to go on playing these games - haven’t you punished me enough ? It’s time for you to grow up and deal with your issues. I’ve said I’m sorry - what more do you want? “
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