Adult child has to make their bed before going to work

[jtyy5]

It is my parents house so I follow their rules and I have no intention of bringing this up.

I am 24 and live with my parents, it is a house rule that I have to make my bed before going to work.

Is this a silly rule or setting a good example?

When you have your own house you can make or not make your bed when you want.

I don't have windows on my landing. So it is dark upstairs.

Certainly never a rule in our house!Sounds controlling and pretty gross not airing bed
I don't think I have made my bed today..do I care ? Nope!

She's 24.

Depends if you mean full on making the bed, tucking everything in etc, or a quick straightening up of everything and flipping duvet back which takes 20 seconds.
But if you're going to argue with them over a 20 second job then you aren't acting as 'adult' as you think you are

I think it’s silly. But I also think it’s pretty shocking that an adult needs to be told to make their bed.

Turn the light on?

I can't imagine spending so much time on my landing that this would bother me

Oh ffs! It's not so unreasonable to want to have a bit of daylight!

I'm an adult I don't always make my own bed.

I like daylight as much as the next person but it's your landing, are you really spending so much time there that you would insist on no one in your house closing their bedroom door?

This sounds like the sort of thing my mum made up as an excuse to snoop

All your other examples are tasks that need doing in a shared space. An adults bedroom is their private space, and whether the bed is made or not, doesn't online on anyone else's comfort. There's no reason for the rest of the family to know whether it's been made or not.

Hmmm - I’m not sure that’s true. There might be lots of things which are eminently sensible to do but we would find it silly for someone to make a rule about it. Putting your coat on if it’s raining, for example; very sensible but as an adult I don’t expect to have to put my coat on when it’s raining.

OP is specifically not asking if it’s silly to make her bed in the morning, but rather if the rule is silly.

How much time do you spend on your landing during the day? Most people do close bedroom door whilst out and about for privacy; excluding drafts etc

Ok, i get your rather pedantic point.

I really wasn’t trying to be pedantic, sorry it came across that way, I was just pointing out that the thread didn’t seem to be about whether it’s a good idea to make your bed (I think it is a good idea, FWIW)

I don't insist, but i do prefer.

It's good to make your bed when you get up

BUT you're an adult and you shouldn't have to just because your parents say so.
If you shut the door to your room they shouldn't go in there so won't know?

My 8 and 11 year olds make their beds before school so I would hope they know how to do this by 24

In correct etiquette you are not meant to make the bed, you are suppose to air the mattress... so yes its all silly made up bollocks.

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I’ve heard it all now. The OP’s mother is not curled up in the foetal position on her landing sobbing “I never see the sunlight; I never get to see the happy, happy day!” And are there no other doors she can open on the landing?

It's in how we read things I think. I also think the whole thing hinges on the relationship OP has with her parents and the reason why it's important to them that the bed is made. Who knows, maybe they're putting the house on the market and want it fit for viewing, maybe there are younger siblings who are learning the ropes. I think OP hasn't been back so perhaps we'll never know.

It's pointless. I haven't done it apart from when I change the sheets since I left home at 18. 50 now. It has made zip difference to my life.

It's a good idea because you come home to a nice tidy bedroom, and if the door is open and someone glances in, it looks neat. And it only takes a minute or two.
But I can see you might not like this level of concern about what you are doing in your own room, and might want to move out as soon as you can manage it!

Start acting like an adult and they might treat you like one.
Making your bed is basic grown-up habit and is supposed to put you in a good mindset for the day. It takes 2 secs. They’re worried that you still live at home and have as much interest in making your bed as a 7 year old.
Go and rent a room or a flat if it’s bothering you so much.

You are out, the door to the room is shut... makes no odds to anyone whether the bed is made or not. It is more than a silly rule, it is bizarrely controlling in relation to a grown adult