Adult child has to make their bed before going to work

[jtyy5]

It is my parents house so I follow their rules and I have no intention of bringing this up.

I am 24 and live with my parents, it is a house rule that I have to make my bed before going to work.

Is this a silly rule or setting a good example?

Making your bed is good. Insisting another adult makes their bed is not.

Sounds like while you live at home they still see you as a child, and maybe you still see yourself like that too. Might be time to move out.

It's not like we're living in the 1960s where everyone had a bottom sheet, a top sheet and a load of blankets to tuck in.

It takes less than a minute to straighten the sheet and duvet.

I think it's up to you really. My DD aged 22 is living with us at the moment and I have no idea whether she makes her bed or not. I wouldn't impose rules like that. I almost never go in her room. Just shut your door?

It's a good habit to get into .

I think it's fine if they're otherwise reasonable and not too controlling

I refuse to make my bed in the morning. I strip the covers off and leave it to air for the day then pull it all back over when I go to bed at night. But then I'm post menopausal and still get a bit sweaty sometimes at night so I want it all to dry out properly.

You could always try telling your parents that science says that beds need to air and dry out after a night having a sweaty body in. See what they say. If they STILL insist on you making the bed, then it's controlling and possible OCD. If they see that letting a bed air could be a good thing - well then, you've won.

exactly. This is fucking twisted

I think as an adult you should be making your bed and keeping your room generally clean and tidy.
As a parent I wouldn't impose it as a rule on my adult children.

After leaving the bed to air while you get washed and dressed you should make the bed. OTHERWISE MONSTERS WILL HIDE IN THE CREASES.

Is this a big deal?

Ask yourself will it matter two years from now and if the answer is no delete the whole thing from your brain

I never make the bed, I just get back in it again. No monsters have emerged from the creases yet but I will keep my wits about me.

If you close your bedroom door how would they ever know??

We never “make” our bed unless we’re changing it. We turn the duvet back and pull it back when we get in at night.

I air my bed, then make it every morning. Straighten the duvet and the decorative French quilt that goes on top, then the matching cushions. For years my bedroom was a tip as my late husband was a hoarder and it never looked nice. It makes me feel calm to have a neat and tidy bedroom.
Is your bedroom tidy OP? Is that the issue?

Air the room with an open window x1 ht. Tidy the bed linen, depending on bedding used, it should be neat looking (duvet up or down, quilt no quilt, throw no throw etc means variations). Pillows fluffed and positioned at the head of the bed.
My children made their beds from 5 onward, I would fully expect a young adult to do the same.
Tidy beds sets the tone for the rest of the home.
Are you neurodiverse? Because tidying a bedroom child or adult is basic similar to changing into clothing vs staying in pj’s.
It’s also respectful to the rest of the household.

It's good for parents to set mildly annoying rules for their adult children, helps them find the motivation to move out.

m.youtube.com/watch?v=KgzLzbd-zT4

Why is someone making their own bed respectful to the rest of the household?

In my opinion, not making a bed isn't something that will cause such bad consequences that it would be reasonable to dictate it to another adult in their own bedroom.

How would they know, I hardly ever go in to adult DS room.

I leave my quilt back all day personally.

It is unreasonable to treat an adult like a child. It should be up to you. Honestly this is so disrespectful of you being an adult or has no impact on them at all!

I was waitting for the 'controlling' to appear and there it is on 1st page. MN bingo😁

As it happens my DS25 does make his bed before he goes to work, but I don't make a rule out of it. He would just have to do it later! I wouldn't touch it.

Well, seems OTT to impose this rule, unless there is a backstory and you leave a trail of mess around the house? Are you generally pulling your weight and paying towards the bills?
it is better to air the bed before making, however looks tidier when made. Do they go into your room ? If so Why?
My mum was a bed making enforcer 😆 she also had lots of other rules (no wet ring marks from cups on sideboard, not even for a second and, only buttering toast in a certain place on sideboard. Couldn’t read the newspaper until she had (even though she wasn’t home). Generally made me feel unwelcome and took some rent from my PT jobs for the pleasure. I left aged 18 Thank the lord. Would have been nicer in another life to stay longer, be supported through uni (or be allowed to come home for holidays) or to save up to buy a house but some mums are just made different.
If you dont like the rules and they are inflexible it is time to move out.

I honestly don't know if I used to make my bed as a young adult. I often had a bf in it, so I think I used to air it.

As a fully fledged adult, sometimes I make it, sometimes I don't. And by make it, I mean throw the duvet back up. No idea if the dc do. Actually, tell a lie, I suspect 1 does and 1 doesn't.

Nothing - but why would you care if your adult child had done it or not? It’s barmy!

@allthatfalafel because it’s akin to tidying up after a meal, putting dishes away, or taking garbage bags that are full out. It’s respectful to maintain a tidy organized home. All members of a family are responsible to do their part, and making a bed is part of that show of respect.