Adult child has to make their bed before going to work

[jtyy5]

It is my parents house so I follow their rules and I have no intention of bringing this up.

I am 24 and live with my parents, it is a house rule that I have to make my bed before going to work.

Is this a silly rule or setting a good example?

I have always made my bed up even as a child.

It's good example and part of the routine of getting up.

A bed that hasn't been made looks disgusting

It’s a bit odd that they tell you how to live in your own bedroom. It’s good to make your bed and I do most of the time but sometimes I’m running late and I’m an adult who will make it when I get home. I have one adult DD still at home and keep her door closed. Then whatever state it is in is nothing to do with me.

😂🙄

Honestly, close the door and don’t look at it then! Unless it’s your bed, why do you care?

Easily solved when it isn't your own bed - shut the door and leave it to whoever's room it is.

Given it takes about 30 seconds, pick your battles.

You live in their house and it's a minor inconvenience.

My rule is that beds have to be left airing before going to school /work.
They only get made at weekends or on days off.

I am a big big surprised that, most people here seemingly don't make the the beds in the morning, as an adult myself I no need any rules from parents nor anyone else to do so.

Closed bedroom doors can lead to mold/mildew. It certainly darkens hallways. Low lighting can affect mood as does a messy unmade bed.

It's so much better to leave the quilt pushed back off the mattress each morning.

The only thing I insist on is bedroom doors are closed when they're out because my cheeky puppy likes to chew, the more expensive the better, if allowed. I won't be held responsible if it's in their rooms. I couldn't care less if the bed isn't made.
Your problem is at 24 you're old enough to leave if you take issue with a task that takes all of thirty seconds.

Menopause here 😆

Leaving your bed unmade all day is slovenly.

Yes, this! I prefer doors open in my house. If everyone's is closed it makes everything too dark upstairs.
Also, seems some young adults need reminding to open their windows occasionally too.
Whether OP pays rent or not, it's her parents' house and they are entitled to set expectations as they see fit. Equally, OP is entitled to find her own place if she doesn't like it.

I'd respect my parents who are giving a roof

When I get home from work, if I've been in the office so day. It needs to air.

If I'm WFH I'll usually do it after the school run or at lunchtime. Duvet back, window open a bit, for at least an hour.

Move out if you want more independence. What are the reasons that you're still at home?
When I moved out at 18, I never moved back with my parents.

I think it's a difficult one, we all pick our own battles. I wouldn't ask DS 17 and 20 to make their beds, because that's not something that bothers me.

I rarely go in their rooms but I do expect them to keep them reasonably clean, change their sheets, put their rubbish in the bin, hoover once in a while and bring dirty plates and cups down to the dishwasher. If I notice it gets too disgusting in there, I start to complain.

I do pull back our own duvet to air during the day, because I prefer it to be aired. I also straighten the sheets before bed as I don't like them creased.

I do, however, enforce the rule of no shoes in the house and am not happy if people drag their muddy shoes through the hall.

DS think I'm OTT about this but it's something that bothers me, especially since I'm the only one who ever cleans the floor. At the end of the day that's one of the house rules, when DS1 is away at uni he can do what he likes, but when he's home I expect him to respect the house rules.

It's not really the wish to have the bed made that's a problem. Its more about how they are policing this. Surely if your door is shut they don't know. Which makes me think they must be invading your space and doing daily checks ,then giving you grief if the duvets not pulled over which is not a reasonable way to treat another adult. If they can't stop the checking then you ll need to move out.

Does it stop becoming youir home when you turn 18? Do you become a paying guest then? All this it's the parents house bollocks. I've never read such nonsense in my life.

The OP is asking if it’s a silly rule, not if making one’s bed is silly.

I have windows on my landings only purposes for doors open would be for snoopers.

Every room up stairs has its own opening window including the landing.

I know that. But it would only be a silly rule if making your bed was silly 🤷‍♀️

Are there younger children in the house and they’re asking you to stick to the same standards as everyone else living there? That’s not particularly unreasonable IMO.

Either way…I’m not a bed making person and this isn’t a battle I’ve chosen to fight as a parent, but I also wouldn’t take a stand on this in your situation. If you consider what you’re saving in housing/food costs living there I suspect you’re effectively being paid a rather plush amount for each second of bed making.