DP just called DD ungrateful - I’m fuming!

[Rosettespur]

DP and I not on great terms at the moment.

DD is 14 (not his). We live together.

I was in the kitchen folding washing with DD and she mentioned her pj bottoms had faded abit, not in a rude way, just generally.

’D’P then loudly said from the other room ‘so ungrateful’!

I went in and asked who he was talking to, apparently it was DD, he could see my reaction so tried to laugh it off.

DD and I went upstairs for a while, came back down and he wanted me to apologise for ‘over reacting’ to the comment. Adding that he is sick of ‘emotional women’ in the house. He then made some shity comments about ‘don’t even ask me to apologise or I’ll actually laugh’

Suddenly have massive ick and he is sulking

I think you know the answer here, however unpalatable it is at thr moment. How does your daughter react to him?

Really?

You corrected it after I had quoted and was typing. After. Then complained that I replied to what you wrote instead of the edit you wrote AFTER. I’m not psychic, am I? You hadn’t made an edit. I quoted your original post and commented on it. You’re the one going on and on that I should have read the edit… the one you made AFTER I commented. So I didn’t rant at anyone who had made a correction. I’m sorry that your comprehension isn’t allowing you to understand that.

I managed the first couple of sentences, then couldn’t be bothered reading the rest of your rant. I edited it within seconds of posting the post (the edit option is only available for a few minutes). Why are you so hot under the collar about another person's minor mistake? You really need to think about that.

Be quiet both of you and stick to the thread.

Guys, this isn’t about you.

Leave the bastard?

We ought to have. TTBO on Mumsnet.

"Toss the bastard out"

You’re totally right. I wrote a post with a view to helping the OP. I made a small mistake in it. There I was just responding to a weird poster who won’t let it go 🤷‍♀️

Fair!

Oh, for God’s sake. Shut up. I replied to your post BEFORE your edited it. I replied when you gave idiotic advice which would put the OP into legal trouble, as many other people kept doing because they don’t read the thread.

I did not quote your post before you edited. I read your original post and replied. You’re the one going on and on about it instead of realising that I do not have the psychic ability to reply to a post the way you want it done before it had been edited.

You told me the “read the edit FFS” and I pointed out that your edit didn’t affect me because I replied before you wrote it. That should have been the end of it. You’re the one who keeps going on and on.

Next time, try reading all of OP’s posts before replying and don’t give advice which would put a person into legal trouble.

Excuse me, she posted advice which would put the OP into legal trouble. I corrected that advice before she edited it. She then goes on and on because she cannot accept that someone quoted and replied to what she originally wrote before there was an edit and I should somehow have known the edit was coming?

I replied to her to point out that my quote was before she edited it. That should have been the end of it. She keeps coming back. Idiot.

Fuck's sake, stop squabbling.

Then maybe people should stop giving advice to take illegal actions and then getting offended when they’re corrected on it BEFORE they edit their post.

@Rosettespur how are things - I hope you are OK? Have you managed to get any sense out of him? Fingers crossed you and your DD have a calm and peaceful home ASAP.

Wow 🤯

“Legal trouble” 🤣🤣🤣
ffs one the one hand I admire the faith in the system on the other my previous comments about people living on another planet if they think this man has the intellect to create “legal trouble” or the financial means

If you have the tenancy agreement filed somewhere, move it so he can't access it. You could possibly go down the route that he's not a tenant? Dubious I know.

Oh, it’s all been covered and the landlord is being contacted 🤔🤣😂 That isn’t how the law works though and if her now presumably ex partner decides to exercise his rights then he can make things very difficult for her. Let’s hope he goes quietly

@Onthesideofthespiders maybe put your phone down for the night, love! 🤦‍♀️

Why no update from OP. I hope she hasnt given him another chance 😔

I imagine OP came back and took one look at the squabbling and thought- nah, I've got one annoying person to deal with, I don't need this right now 😂

OP hope you manage to have a good chat with the landlord, agree on the meantime get XP sleeping in his DD's room and tell him from today he needs to start paying half the bills and rent, you will send him the numbers and by staying he is agreeing to that debt. Send it in writing. Hopefully that will encourage him to piss off.

Gosh I sympathise. I have just been through the same sort of thing. I own my own home luckily so was easier to get him out.

Partner of 2 years moved in and immediately got his feet under the table and became a different person. Critical, mean, controlling, uncaring and sponging. Decided he was going to give up his job and “just do a bit of agency”, said he might just “use your car to do Uber”, refused to go anywhere with me or do anything unless I paid and even then was ungrateful and miserable, just sat on my sofa watching YouTube videos on my telly while on his phone.

The final straw - I was having tests for uterine cancer after 2 months of constant post menopausal bleeding which involved lots of hospital appointments and he said it would be “silly if he came too” and never got out of bed to bother to come with me. He asked “why are you always so
miserable?” “Why don’t you have a sense of humour?” “Are you like this with your friends?” and when my DD came home from uni and asked him how I was he rolled his eyes and said “Still ill!!!”.

The thought of coming home from my upcoming surgery with him in the house made feel sick. I told him to leave and luckily he was gone within a week after a half hearted attempt at telling me “but I love you!” Left a load of junk and never enquired about the cancer but he didn’t care before, why would he after I’d finished with him?

Stick to your guns. He’s another entitled cock lodger who charmed his way in and then Willy waved around your house and started criticising your kids/home/interests and it would become more and more and more.

What an awful piece of trash, glad you got rid of him! Hope you are doing better now. xx

I hope the OP is alright.