Dh making us drive in red warning

[BlueFoxel]

It just so happens dh and I have been on the Welsh coast for the past few days enjoying a mini break before our wedding. Was sent the emergency alarm earlier today. We are due to set off tomorrow morning in the middle of the red warning for wind. I have shared my concerns with dh but he really does not care at all. Dh thinks I am dramatic at the best of times and has totally dismissed my fears. He has a football game he is wanting to drive back home for. He is very arrogant

I am really bloody stressed out.

Please tell me I am being crazy and everything will be fine.

I was in a red warning area in the north east a couple of years ago and I’ll be amazed if he still attempts to drive during it. It was bloody terrifying listening to it during the night and there was so much damage here due to roofs flying off, trees crashing into the road, gable ends collapsing etc.

Attitudes like this are what get people killed. Being an edge lord is not cute or clever

And you're choosing to grow old with this arrogance? Are you wishful that he'll mellow in time, when history shows they grow more and more arrogant. You are literally the saying of 'you've made your bed, now lie in it'

It is indeed. It keeps the customers away, it blows the stock about, you have to pin everything down and it's ruddy cold. Do you know Parliament Street where many of the stalls are? It's a wind tunnel in all but the most settled weather. Even a yellow warning in that spot would be horrible to work in.

Let him go on his own, you can leave tomorrow afternoon on the train, or bus.

The annoying thing here is that he might get away with it. He might not, or you might have the journey from hell with closed roads/bridges etc, but there is a strong chance he’ll be lucky. And then you’ll never hear the end of it. It doesn’t mean he’s right - it’s really stupid to travel in a red warning, but he will think he was.

Just echoing what others have said. More than likely BOTH bridges will be closed and you'll be diverted through Gloucestershire way.
Where is 'home' ? Any chance his football match might be cancelled ??

In the beginning of our relationship I had absolutely no practical skills- couldn’t light a fire, could barely read a map etc. So I sort of happily deferred to dh who now positions himself as the expert and me the idiot fool when it comes to practical matters.

It balances out normally cause I take the lead in other areas but in this situation I feel like I have no control whatsoever.

SE London

The car is shared. No kids. 2 dogs (whose safety I fear for just as much as my own)

No way. I know the chance has been and gone now but I definitely would’ve left as soon as you got the alert.

I know it wouldn’t be easy leaving your mini break but you can always re-arrange in the new year/when the weather has settled a bit. Driving in this weather is crazy and not worth it.

Why are you marrying him?

Warnings can and do change

@BlueFoxel until you’ve experienced something like these weather conditions you have no idea, although most of us heed the warnings. They’re not something to be taken lightly.

A few years back we were out for the day. Less than a mile from home on the way back, the winds were high, but not even an amber warning and a tree fell immediately in front of us, blocking the way, it was terrifying. Luckily we made an emergency stop in time, but it was so, so close. I’ll never forget it.

After getting our breath back, we had to do a three point turn and find a new route. I called our neighbour to post on local groups and alert the Highways. We flashed a car hurtling towards danger and got the finger in reply 🙄Some people have little awareness, and you’re with one of them.

People being dismissive of this red warning clearly haven’t been in one before.

If you do drive tomorrow, you’re better off planning a different route and avoiding the Severn bridges because I imagine both will be closed. The old one definitely will be.

Unless they're driving from Wales to the top end of Scotland the whole rest of the country is under some kind of warning

Stay put. What will he do? Pick you up and put you in the car? If he does that’s all the more reason to leave him.

If the car is shared, why does he get to decide?

We live inland so never really experience winds above 40 knots. I did suggest leaving earlier but he just dismissed me.

And?

Conditions we will be facing. It’s just not necessary to take the risk imo

He thinks that having a fully-charged mobile with you is OTT? Good grief. It's as basic as checking your tyres and petrol levels. Or does he refuse to do that too??

No kids.

Keep it that way. Please keep it that way.

He is not making you drive he wants to drive wave him off
You can get a train later if any are running and if not get a hotel