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BlueFoxel · 2024-12-06T21:00:53+00:00

It just so happens dh and I have been on the Welsh coast for the past few days enjoying a mini break before our wedding. Was sent the emergency alarm earlier today. We are due to set off tomorrow morning in the middle of the red warning for wind. I have shared my concerns with dh but he really does not care at all. Dh thinks I am dramatic at the best of times and has totally dismissed my fears. He has a football game he is wanting to drive back home for. He is very arrogant I am really bloody stressed out. Please tell me I am being crazy and everything will be fine.

ricesquares · 07/12/2024 07:30

Foundanotherwrinkle · 06/12/2024 23:17

So they're in the red zone, everyone else has the sense to stay home and they decided to go camping?? Wow, you clearly no longer need brains to go to uni these days. Haven't heard anything this irresponsible for a long time.

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Reading comprehension?

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BlueFoxel · 07/12/2024 07:32

Fiancé is seriously winding me up.

i just informed him of the bridge closures and he responded that they’ll probably reopen later. Based on absolutely nothing. His know it all attitude is really getting to me.

It’s embarrassing he can’t just say “yikes, that’s not good let’s keep an eye on updates and just stick to the advice given”. How hard is that instead of positioning yourself as some sort of expert?

Does anyone know what tends to happen with the bridges during high winds? Do they tend to open after the worst has passed? Do people familiar with the area suspect the bridges will reopen later in the day?

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user1492757084 · 07/12/2024 07:35

Get packed and leave now, allowing double the time to drive as you would normally.
Take turns driving; remain vigilent.
Rest up once at your destination. You will find the driving taxing.

ricesquares · 07/12/2024 07:35

PyongyangKipperbang · 07/12/2024 00:37

Exactly this.

I said "camping out" meaning "making do" or "sofa surfing". The vibe is very much a "camp out indoors" though. A load of students all crammed into one flat and playing silly games and singing songs to pass the time.

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Your post was completely clear to those of us who don't just scan a post, see a keyword jumping out and get their kickers in a self righteous judgmental twist. Sounds like your dd and her friends are being very sensible given the situation and it will be an adventure for them to remember. The landlady sounds lovely.

Ineffable23 · 07/12/2024 07:36

I don't live near those bridges, but round here there's a big bridge which closes in poor conditions. It closes when there is a forecast wind above X speed if there are cross winds and Y speed if they are head/tail winds if I remember correctly. I think those speeds are about 55mph.

I'll have a look for the Severn bridge.

HelpMeGetThrough · 07/12/2024 07:36

The bridges will reopen, but only when the authorities think it's safe to do so.

I'm down in Cornwall and it's an amber warning here and the wind is mad, so red must be double mad, not a chance I'd be going anywhere in this and I've drive thousands of miles in shit weather.

coffeesaveslives · 07/12/2024 07:36

BlueFoxel · 07/12/2024 07:32

Fiancé is seriously winding me up.

i just informed him of the bridge closures and he responded that they’ll probably reopen later. Based on absolutely nothing. His know it all attitude is really getting to me.

It’s embarrassing he can’t just say “yikes, that’s not good let’s keep an eye on updates and just stick to the advice given”. How hard is that instead of positioning yourself as some sort of expert?

Does anyone know what tends to happen with the bridges during high winds? Do they tend to open after the worst has passed? Do people familiar with the area suspect the bridges will reopen later in the day?

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Why are you still entertaining this bollocks? He can't make you go anywhere, so just stay where you are.

MILLYmo0se · 07/12/2024 07:37

Stop arguing with the donkey, he has backed himself into a corner now and will never change his mind even if deep down he feels like he's making the wrong choice.
You need to worry your own choice, but you are going to get in that car with him in an hour aren't you? Even though you know its a ridiculous risk

Tiredmammy101 · 07/12/2024 07:38

BlueFoxel · 07/12/2024 07:32

Fiancé is seriously winding me up.

i just informed him of the bridge closures and he responded that they’ll probably reopen later. Based on absolutely nothing. His know it all attitude is really getting to me.

It’s embarrassing he can’t just say “yikes, that’s not good let’s keep an eye on updates and just stick to the advice given”. How hard is that instead of positioning yourself as some sort of expert?

Does anyone know what tends to happen with the bridges during high winds? Do they tend to open after the worst has passed? Do people familiar with the area suspect the bridges will reopen later in the day?

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The old bridge stays closed longer, usually, it can’t cope with wind speeds above around 50mph, the new bridge I think can take winds of about 70mph but it probably won’t be open until this afternoon at the very earliest.

HelpMeGetThrough · 07/12/2024 07:38

Why are you still entertaining this bollocks? He can't make you go anywhere, so just stay where you are.

Exactly. My response to him would be "enjoy the drive dickhead, I'm staying put.".

Take control of what you want to do.

ToddlerMumma · 07/12/2024 07:38

The bridges close in high winds. They will stay shut all day today for sure. You have a looong detour to get to London if you drive today

ricesquares · 07/12/2024 07:39

Does your fiancé have oppositional defiance disorder? Won't be told huh? Those of us older and wiser think, take stock and reconside. You do not have to spend your life with someone who is so dismissive of you, your opinions, feelings and is too arrogant to have common sense. He sound like a total nightmare.

Ineffable23 · 07/12/2024 07:39

Tiredmammy101 · 07/12/2024 07:38

The old bridge stays closed longer, usually, it can’t cope with wind speeds above around 50mph, the new bridge I think can take winds of about 70mph but it probably won’t be open until this afternoon at the very earliest.

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https://nationalhighways.co.uk/travel-updates/the-severn-bridges/#:~:text=When%20do%20we%20close%20the,)%2C%20both%20bridges%20are%20closed.

These are the regs - the new bridge looks like it can cope with fairly high speeds but it will be a while before it's open.

The Severn Bridges - National Highways

Our bridges across the River Severn connect England and Wales, providing a vital link for businesses and communities. Here you can find information about current and planned closures of the bridges.

https://nationalhighways.co.uk/travel-updates/the-severn-bridges#:~:text=When%20do%20we%20close%20the,)%2C%20both%20bridges%20are%20closed.

Peaceandquietandacuppa · 07/12/2024 07:39

BlueFoxel · 07/12/2024 07:32

Fiancé is seriously winding me up.

i just informed him of the bridge closures and he responded that they’ll probably reopen later. Based on absolutely nothing. His know it all attitude is really getting to me.

It’s embarrassing he can’t just say “yikes, that’s not good let’s keep an eye on updates and just stick to the advice given”. How hard is that instead of positioning yourself as some sort of expert?

Does anyone know what tends to happen with the bridges during high winds? Do they tend to open after the worst has passed? Do people familiar with the area suspect the bridges will reopen later in the day?

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He sounds like a dick. Are you sure you want to marry him?!? If you do, you need to build up your self esteem.

I would stay behind and he can go by himself if he likes. Then I’d catch a train back tomorrow. But I’m stubborn like that.

Jagoda · 07/12/2024 07:40

I’m not sure why you’re marrying this arrogant dickhead tbh…

Anyway, in a similar situation many years ago, I refused to get in a car with a partner. I stood my ground and said I would not be getting in the car but would stay until I felt safe to travel by train.

You sound rather defeated and surrendered but I am hoping there’s some fire left in you OP.

TheDowagerCountessofPembroke · 07/12/2024 07:42

user1492757084 · 07/12/2024 07:35

Get packed and leave now, allowing double the time to drive as you would normally.
Take turns driving; remain vigilent.
Rest up once at your destination. You will find the driving taxing.

Stupid advice. There is no need to go at all. Stay where you are. The official advice is to no travel at all. So don’t.

martinisforeveryone · 07/12/2024 07:42

The old bridge stays closed for longer. The newer M4 bridge has side barriers which help protect from wind more, so it can usually stay open longer, or reopen sooner.

Apart from the weather itself, the Severn Estuary can act as a kind of funnel where high winds intensify and make the crossing even more vulnerable.

Kucinghitam · 07/12/2024 07:44

Anyone else have this sad knowing feeling that (regardless of what happens with this specific occasion), the OP is so ground-down and passive after a giving up decade of her life to BigDickMan, that she will go ahead and marry him?

I can only wish you all the best, OP, and reiterate what so many others have warned you - don't travel this morning, and please bin off this relationship.

WillowTit · 07/12/2024 07:45

i wouldnt agree to it op
put your foot down

SoNiceToComeHomeTo · 07/12/2024 07:46

user1492757084 · 07/12/2024 07:35

Get packed and leave now, allowing double the time to drive as you would normally.
Take turns driving; remain vigilent.
Rest up once at your destination. You will find the driving taxing.

They can’t, the bridges into England are closed.

feelingrobbed · 07/12/2024 07:48

Technically irrelevant but don't marry this dude. It'll only get worse as the years go on. You don't have kids - get out before you tie yourself to someone who mugs you off.

HelpMeGetThrough · 07/12/2024 07:48

They can’t, the bridges into England are closed.

Well, they could, there's more ways than the bridges to get back into England. Bloody long way though.

TheDowagerCountessofPembroke · 07/12/2024 07:48

So he thinks (based on nothing) that the bridges will reopen later. So if the plan is to leave a bit later won’t he miss his precious match anyway?

CapaciousHandbag · 07/12/2024 07:49

SoNiceToComeHomeTo · 07/12/2024 07:46

They can’t, the bridges into England are closed.

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Well, they could but it’s a massive detour through Monmouthshire and the Forest of Dean (and there’s a clue to how good an idea that is in the word “Forest”) and Gloucestershire. Through winding country roads and areas prone to flooding before getting to the M5. You’d be insane to try it for anything less than dire need.

Cardboardeaux · 07/12/2024 07:49

user1492757084 · 07/12/2024 07:35

Get packed and leave now, allowing double the time to drive as you would normally.
Take turns driving; remain vigilent.
Rest up once at your destination. You will find the driving taxing.

And today's Darwin award goes to this poster ⬆️