Dh making us drive in red warning

[BlueFoxel]

It just so happens dh and I have been on the Welsh coast for the past few days enjoying a mini break before our wedding. Was sent the emergency alarm earlier today. We are due to set off tomorrow morning in the middle of the red warning for wind. I have shared my concerns with dh but he really does not care at all. Dh thinks I am dramatic at the best of times and has totally dismissed my fears. He has a football game he is wanting to drive back home for. He is very arrogant

I am really bloody stressed out.

Please tell me I am being crazy and everything will be fine.

OP seriously, you have to reconsider the entire relationship, not just the upcoming wedding. He's a total bellend and as a PP has stated, if the car got written off or worse, the insurance company may not even accept the claim as it states in the small print that you have to exercise reasonable judgement. This is partly why they send out the text message alerts. It's so you can't say you have not been warned.

You also have to consider that it isn't just the two of you that would be at risk, but whoever would need to come and rescue you if you did end up in trouble.

A red warning is issued because "it is very likely that there will be a risk to life" according to the Met Office.

It's incredibly selfish to endanger other people.

Prince of Wales and Severn bridge closed.

Both bridges are shut so you’d better tell hubby to figure out the long way home!

Do not argue with Mother Nature.

She will win.

Well I simply wouldn’t be doing that. I am watching the news, it would be idiotic to drive if you’re in the red. So difficult for emergency services to be picking up the pieces when people travel against advice. Football match could well be cancelled anyway. I’d tell him to jump on the train if he’s so desperate to get back and check you and the dogs into a travelodge and watch netflix and snuggle the dogs

We have tried last night to drive from Liverpool to Birmingham for a weekend break. Not as high warning area as you are and we had to turn back. The car was being pushed all over the road as were the wagons.
It was very scary tbh. It will be 100 time more risky where you are. I would bunker down and potentially get the train once storm has passed. ..he can do as he pleases.
Please think twice before marrying him he is showing you how much he cares for your safety here....it will only get worse

Option 4 please 🤣

Both bridges are closed

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/live/cj9003kgnm7t

it is extremely rare for the Prince of wales bridge to shut, only a handful of times since it was opened in 1992.

we were coming back from a trip yesterday at 14:30 hrs and they were already preparing to shut the Old Severn bridge, by blocking the route on, and diverting vehicles round the roundabout and back on.

@BlueFoxel When we got home, DH and I got torches out, plugged in our generator (in case of a power cut) and made sure all our devices were fully charged. That's normal behaviour.

Ignoring warnings is idiotic - you need to seriously consider your DHs behaviour and attitude as being a sign of things to come. He already sounds like he's set in his ways and unwilling to change. Is that really what you want for the rest of your life?

You do have control. You can choose not to get in that car, whatever happens (and not put the dogs in either). He isn't in charge of you, and if you feel that he is then that's a really serious problem and a bigger red warning for your future than this storm.

A man whose problem with authority means he's willing to risk his life, his fiancée and his dogs sounds like a nightmare. A red weather warning isn't an attempt to infringe on people's freedoms, it's a warning that going outside might kill you. People do die in severe weather, it's not an exaggeration - and how arrogant does a person have to be to assume that it won't be them? That he sees a danger warning as some kind of affront to his rights makes him tiresome, incredibly stupid and a threat to the people he endangers through his refusal to listen and understand.

You might not be able to change that about him, but you can change how you respond to it. Don't get in the car.

OP What you should consider is what is more important, your safety, or a football match!
This could be a sign of things to come if you had not thought of this before.
You could be an upcoming football widow.
Good luck OP.

You won't be going anywhere by the sounds of it.

But you should run far and fast from your absolute dickhead of a partner.

OP refers to him as “ DH” but has also stated that this is a pre wedding break 🤷🏻‍♀️

Absolutely stupid. If you crash in a red zone, you are risking the emergency services rescuing you.

Toughen up and refuse to travel. I'm in North London and the wind has woken me up.

Why on earth are you being so passive?

I would not marry a man who thinks I am an idiot fool in certain matters. Mine knows I am a bit of a technophobe but he does not mock me for it.

I would have a serious think about your situation.

If you intend to go ahead, then you should at least use this as an opportunity to make it clear that on this matter at least he is a total idiot. Let him drive to the bridge and find it closed. What a prat.

That weather forecast you have isn’t accurate. Try Metoffice which is far superior to BBC. The conditions are worse.

We have family who live down South West. They have got emergency supplies, filled baths, plenty of torches and fully charged phones. They won’t head out anywhere in this.

Can you sit him down and talk about it properly this morning? Leaving at 8.30am is at the peak of the storm. Utterly ridiculous that he thinks it’s ok to take the risk.

Oh and a couple of years ago, we had an Amber warning. A tree from Highgate Woods fell on a car and a young woman was killed instantly. Her poor husband driving witnessed her death. Tell her partner to stop being an idiot. Or just let him drive home and you hunker down.

People are being asked not to leave their homes. So driving into a red weather warning is stupid.

I’m in south wales - just on the edge of the red alert- and already several trees have blown down into roads in my town and lots of roads are closed. You’d be absolutely stupid to travel in this if you didn’t need to.

@BlueFoxel

Both bridges are closed

100's of us were at our Christmas Party in a big Bristol hotel yesterday night when we all received it. I'm off to breakfast in a minute. Hopefully it'll be calm enough to drive home later.

@BlueFoxel your DP sounds like a prize prat.
Storm Bert was bad enough the other week.

The real question is, why does he have a problem with being told what to do /authority? What's he like at work?

He's not one of these conspiracy theorists or AT wannabes is he?

He sounds like an entitled prick

It's worrying to hear from you that you don't feel you have any power

Don't even bother arguing or trying to reason about closed bridges and probably cancelled matches with the twit. Mark your boundaries NOW if you are going to go ahead with marrying him, and simply tell him you aren't going, he can make up his own mind what he wants to do. You are a grown woman perfectly capable of getting yourself home when you feel safe to do so

This.

Weather is the least of your worries.

Hope he's seen sense.