Dh making us drive in red warning

[BlueFoxel]

It just so happens dh and I have been on the Welsh coast for the past few days enjoying a mini break before our wedding. Was sent the emergency alarm earlier today. We are due to set off tomorrow morning in the middle of the red warning for wind. I have shared my concerns with dh but he really does not care at all. Dh thinks I am dramatic at the best of times and has totally dismissed my fears. He has a football game he is wanting to drive back home for. He is very arrogant

I am really bloody stressed out.

Please tell me I am being crazy and everything will be fine.

You’ll have to drive up to Gloucester through the Forest of Dean, and then get on the M5 and come south to rejoin the M4 - all within the red zone. Then drive along the most exposed section of the M4 in an amber/yellow wind warning. A ridiculous idea, to get to a (probably cancelled) football match. Police will give him some pretty strong ‘words of advice’ if (when) he’s caught up in disruption. A red warning means danger to life. Only a confirmed idiot would decide to play Billy Bigbollocks in that.

You need to question why you'd risk your life travelling tomorrow with someone who doesn't value you?

Why are you not leaving now or making plans to stay put until the weather settles?

You have one life - right now you're allowing a selfish prick to decide how you live it. Stop 🛑

The devastation a red warning storm brings us something to behold.
Loss of life, property damage, blocked roads , power cuts.
To drive in those conditions is sheer stupidity.
If he loved you and respected your very real fears he would stay put till it was safe to leave.

If he wants to drive home, then that's his decision,.

Your decision is whether or not you want to be in the car with him.

Your decision is completely independent of his decision,

And don't feel bad about disagreeing with him - your assessment of the driving conditions is as valid as his!

(actually, probably more valid because you're taking notice of the weather warnings 😳)

So, you have several options:

(1) refuse to drive home with him tomorrow
(2) get in the car and panic
(3) hide the keys so he can't drive

(4) ,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,, get a quote for a new patio

................................. stick to your guns, girl!! xx

Just let him go and say you and the dogs will return by train on Monday.

PS I would be re-thinking marrying the tosser.

Your biggest risk here is not the storm, but the man you are about to marry.

Yes, you are being crazy ……. for marrying him !

No surprise on MN, the reading and comprehension levels are appalling.

Swansea area and the wind is seriously picking up right now! It's supposed to really kick in at 3am. The buses have said they are not running until 12 tomorrow midday.

Is he hoping the wind will blow a ball in the opponents net ffs? Stay put if possible op. Stay safe

@BlueFoxel your thread title is interesting, he can't make you drive in a red warning.
He can choose to, as others have already said you don't have to go with him.
He can't make you get in the car.
You are in charge of your own decision making.
Google maps will be able to help you identify how to get home on your own. Even in rural Wales it's good at identifying bus routes and train routes and travel times. You can do this on your own.
For info, trains from South Wales go in to London Paddington so you can get the tube/overground from there.

I think you need to start standing up for yourself. You can't go through life being compelled to do things against your will, where's the happiness there?

Both bridges will one thousand per cent be shut.

Isn't the Severn bridge already closed?

This is hilarious. He's being OTT - is he trying to conserve the 0.5 calories of energy it will take to plug in a charger, or the 10p worth of electricity? What a drama queen, trying to make sure phones aren't charged!

Why in God’s name are you marrying an arrogant man!?!? One who sounds like he’s lacking in empathy!

He is showing you who he is! - Take note and run!

We are in the middle of the red warning now. There are trees down across roads everywhere. I really wouldn't be getting into a car during a red and I'm pretty relaxed about storms.

Wow you really have taken what OP said LITERALLY haven’t you?!

As opposed to?

Exactly this.

I said "camping out" meaning "making do" or "sofa surfing". The vibe is very much a "camp out indoors" though. A load of students all crammed into one flat and playing silly games and singing songs to pass the time.

There are only so many men who meet the standards being implied here (even though the standards of basic decency and consideration of one's life partner are not very high).

well we certainly hear about a lot of men who are shit to various levels on this site, but people don’t generally post just to say how nice their husband/partner is.

I have been married twice and had two other serious relationships and only one of those was a bit of a knob but he was 21 at the time. Dont put up with shitty men under the mistaken belief that most of them are like that so you might as well settle.

God, I hope I've warned my daughters enough to not marry arrogant selfish twats like this.

'So he's arrogant?'
'Yup.'
'Selfish'
'Yup'
'Dismissive'
Yup
'Doesn't give a shiny shit what you think'
'Nope'
'Still marrying him then?'
'Yip.'
'Why?'
'Dunno. Cos.'
'Good idea. Great. Enjoy.'

We do hear that some women prefer strong, brave and masterful men, and there are potential downsides to those character traits. My position is that if women prefer such men to me then I shan't worry.

In your shoes @BlueFoxel I'd just do what I wanted, and not set off tomorrow in the middle of a red weather warning.

Your post title says "dh making us drive", but he can't force you to, so just don't.

He can set off if he wants.

Expect the bridge to be closed.

"Camping out" to mean "kipping over with, in a group" as DD and her flat mates place is as close to the sea as you can get without being in it, and her course mates are in the accomodation close to the top of the hill behind the town, so they are having a sleep over there to be on the safe side. Quite a party atmosphere DD tells me!

No, as explained by others.