Need a hand hold part 4

[Imbluedalale]

Hi spoonies .
Welcome to season 4 xxx

Good luck with the educational psychologist, I really hope they are some help for him.

That sounds so fun on Christmas morning with your son's friend getting an escooter too 😍. I got my DS one of these a few years ago and he absolutely loved it and it got so much use (which reminds me I should charge it up and see if he wants to use it again!).

@RaspberryBeretxx Oh that looks really cool. My niece got a hoverboard a few years back and I never mastered getting anywhere on it. I mean nowhere! I've decent balance through yoga but these were beyond me 😅

To answer a few questions:
@Apolloneuro I will wear my bright pink raincoat that I got from Dingles closing down sale. Not sure which spoon to bring as I am a bit boring that way.

@Imbluedalale a thought. Can you re-frame the flashbacks in some way as steps on the road? A bit like in labour, each contraction is a step closer to meeting your baby, each flashback is a step further away from the monster ex, but something you have to go through to achieve freedom and serenity.

Sorry if this doesn't make much sense. I walked the 2 miles to and from the shop to get mu dad's paper. There are no pavements, it's quite muddy and there were so many idiots trying to mow me down, and I'm still shattered. I need to clean my flea pit of a house too.

Enjoy your day everyone!

Hi again - glad other posters remembered teens are horrific and can be horrible - I’d forgotten what a terror I was and even my nicest most compliant child was - so much so that I dreaded the return of the teens with my younger 2 much, much more than the return of nappies! It is however very clear your kids also recognise that it’s you who loves, cares and is there for them - it will all be good as they return to being human beings Laura.
I do indeed live in Sheff - proud of being a Yorkshire lass (mostly!) I grew up and married here but went to a Derbyshire village after first marriage broke down - this was temporary exile in my head but lasted 28 years partly due to another ridiculous marriage- least I have my 4 daughters and now 4 grandchildren and though all bar one child stayed there when I returned it’s still close enough for cuddles - and babysitting!
I never know why Xmas sneaks up on me - one week is not enough time left - rewatching or watching missed Brookside is helping wrap the presents - I still like Barry 🙈🤣🤣

Morning Laura and all Spoonies, I’m a bit of a night owl so up later this morning. When I was working I had to make myself go to bed at 10 pm as I had to get up at 5.45 am in order to get ready and drive to work to start at 8.00am. I have now reverted back to my natural rhythm of late nights and mornings and I don’t feel guilty at all. Does take me a while to get moving though 🤭
Laura, glad your daughter stayed last night. Getting eye rolls from her is the privilege of being her mum and the person she has chosen to spend time with. Just remember that the phone calls from her gran (ex’s mother) are because she is jealous your daughter is with you so enjoy being a thorn in her side as there is nothing she can do.
The text from your son is lovely , such a change from how he was before.
Enjoy your M&S lunch, it will be so good for you to get out. Hope your leg is feeling better?
@RaspberryBeretxx the pendant your son has bought for his girlfriend is beautiful.
@Apolloneuro hoping you you are feeling better and looking forward to Christmas?
@MsJinks make the most of cuddles with your new grandchild, they grow so quickly.
@nornironlady it’s lovely that your son is so excited for his scooter, he will have fun with his friend. My lot used to wake me up really early and because I was on my own I had to get up. But I loved seeing their little faces full of excitement. Hope it goes well with the education psychologist.
@PeggyMitchellsCameo glad you are feeling better and got it out of the way before Christmas.

Sorry I’ve been absent again everyone. I’m really struggling with my health, and like @Apolloneuro I’m finding MN really stressful and not somewhere I want to be apart from this thread. And again I never get alerts for some reason even though they’re switched on!

Laura @Imbluedalale I’m so sorry you’ve been through so much these past few days and I didn’t know 😰 You’re amazing for supporting your DS so well and still making clear to his GF that you don’t condone what he did - that’s such a hard line to tread! And like others, I think it’s huge that the older two keep coming to you for help. You’re obviously handling them just right. Now what can we do to help you fight for the youngest?

I can’t imagine how traumatic the flashback must have been. Of course ex blamed you for everything - he had a pattern that whatever you did was wrong. But actually he was the one behind it all! What a vile thing - he doesn’t deserve to be called a man!

awwww how lovely of you to go out and do that for your sons girlfriend. It’s a tricky position for you to be in as you’re obviously upset at what he’s done and don’t condone it but you clearly like her too!

lovely that they both came back to yours and I bet it was nice to have some company.

I’ve been off work this afternoon so my friend came for coffee. My DD still isn’t very well so she’s not been herself all day again. Xx

Are you still in the Weston park city now? As that’s where I live xx

Can I just say, you including me in the list of people not seen but saying hello to really has touched me ❤️ I’m not prolific on here like many of you but I’m always here in spirit!

@TealPoet sorry you’re struggling with your health, sending lots of love xxx

Oh bless you @Giraffe888. I can’t believe what a lovely group of people @Imbluedalale has gathered.

@TealPoet would you be to up for moving to a WhatsApp group? I don’t think we’ll ever forget the incredible kindness you showed to Laura all those months ago xx

She certainly has brought together some incredible individuals. Makes you truly appreciate the good people in life!

hope you’ve enjoyed your trip to M&S today @Imbluedalale xxx

Hi @Giraffe888 - I’m in this same city 😃 - exiled for a bit but back for good this time lol xx

Evening @RaspberryBeretxx , how’s your day been? Good I hope.
Unfortunately there was no Mr Grey today but I couldn’t not offer them a drink although they didn’t want one today. But they are lovely they always wave at me through window now.
My eldest has been messaging me loads lately and opening up to me which has been nice. He’s been so lovely with me and telling me he loves me every day. I’ve been reading all the spoonies posts about being 17 and it has changed my perspective on how I feel that my daughter gets like that and has made me more understanding because I too once was an awkward at times selfish 17 year old. So I’m going to try and not take it to heart. ❤️
My daughter left early this morning to go to college , I made her some Nutella on toast for her breakfast and tried not being as chatty and she was ok.
I’ve had a lovely afternoon with my mum and dad and it felt so nice to get out for a few hours, I didn’t realise how much I needed it.
We went to M&S and went to the cafe and I was really looking forward to having some banana bread but they had sold out so I had a s’mores hot chocolate and some little posh sandwiches which were lovely. We then went to get a few bits for me in M&S. I got some lovely treats for Christmas, I got some pretzels, nuts, a cheese platter with different cheeses on and some cookie dough. We then went to home bargains and got a few bits. My mum and dad were howling at me as we went down the healthcare aisle and I was shocked to find a huge insemination syringe on the shelf. I was astonished as to how big the thing was and said to my mum and dad that I didn’t realise insemination kits were that big. Anyway it turned out that somebody had put it there from another section. It wasn’t an insemination syringe it was a turkey Baster. Never heard of them before but there you go.
We then came back home and my dad completed my cabinet for me in my room. It’s looking more homely each and every day. I’ll add pics but it still looks quite bare as needs pictures and a clock on wall but I’m getting there and I love it . We all got abit emotional when we stood in my living room and my mum and dad said look how far I’ve come when all I had a few weeks ago was a little suitcase.
Im even starting to like my ozempic tree. 🌲
Omg I absolutely love Prya and that necklace is gorgeous they have a gorgeous bracelet on there with pearls on . It’s becoming very popular especially on tik tok. Your son’s girlfriend is very lucky.
It’s been windy here all day and now it’s pouring it down and it’s that horrible wet rain.
Sending big hugs xxxx

It all looks so lovely - the touches of yellow are so sunny and make you forget the rain, and I love the slim tree and those little trees too. I envy you your flat garden - mine is a slope and I can hardly get to the bottom of it any more.

I just realised that I think I was on your previous threads under a different name - I think it was kittylion, I changed name for something, can't remember.

Spoon on spoonies!

Ooh I didn't realise that Gif would be so large and annoying - and it won't seem to let me delete it, sorry. 😟

Hi @Apolloneuro , how are you feeling today lovely? You’ve been on my mind quite a-bit today. Just know I think your an absolutely lovely person and I think your amazing as I’m sure all the spoonies thing too. And remember what I said ‘don’t let anyone dim your light’xx

Hi @nornironlady , how’s your day been ?How did it go with the educational psychologist today?Thinking of you and sending big hugs xxxx

Turkey baster 😂 imagine shoving one of them up your foofah.

I’m ok. Got a few things going on but then haven’t we all. Malbec and I have set a date to meet, which is super.

Hope the ed psych visit was helpful @nornironlady

Evening @Malbecfan , hows your day been?
Oh I’m so jealous you and @Apolloneuro are meeting wish I could come . How amazing will you both look in your coats!
Thankyou for that idea re reframing my thoughts , I will definitely try that. I got abit overwhelmed last night in bed and sobbed for abit but I feel better today.
I hope you managed to rest when you got home after your walk. There’s so many idiots driving about lately . When my dad was parking in the car park earlier today someone in the car park space in front revered to get out not knowing my dad was behind her and nearly hit his car , she just looked and drove off xx

Hi @MsJinks , how’s your day been?
It’s pouring it down here is it there?
Oh god teen years are hard aren’t they. I was saying to my mum today that I miss them being little and thinking I was the best thing since sliced bread.
Oh I used to love brookside.
I can’t believe you’re in Sheffield that’s so close to me! I would love to have a coffee date with you if you’re ever free. Don’t worry if not I’m not a stalker or anything xx

Evening @AdmittowearingCrocs , how are you today?
I’m like you and love having a lay in although the digging into hell has put a stop to that this week.
I didn’t let exs mum ruin my time with my daughter and was blasé about it . Oh isn’t that a good word ‘blasé’ .
My leg is feeling a lot better thank you , still hobbling on crutches but it looks like it’s healing well. I get my stitches taken out on Monday .
I’ve had a lovely afternoon with my mum and dad . Also I got an Eton mess cream doughnut . Well I’ll have to have it now with it being fresh cream so it’s not my fault that I have 2 cakes in a day is it?
Xx

Wow just wow

Omg that looks amazing! I’m not very caught up but glad you had a good day and hope tomorrow is too 💕.

I’m definitely up for WA as long as you don’t all expect me to keep up with everything - I’m just not able to! Please know that it doesn’t mean I don’t care; I do truly. I have really low social energy though and get overwhelmed really easily.

Laura that donut/cake looks fabulous! Of course you had to eat it while it was fresh!

And oh yes, 17! I think I’m still a bit of a brat now, to be honest; I think I must have been awful as a teenager! I can’t actually really compute that I’m nearly 38 not 18 - somehow everything seemed to stop then and I don’t feel like I’ve grown up at all! Can anyone relate or is that just another way I’m weird? There are plenty of them!

Laura I will get those pictures I had made to you; I’m so slow I know! They are literally here in my room; they just need boxing and sending. But oh boy am I slow! I’m sorry 😔