Need a hand hold part 4

[Imbluedalale]

Hi spoonies .
Welcome to season 4 xxx

Hi @TealPoet , it’s lovely to see you on here . I’m so sorry you’re struggling with your health . Sending you the biggest hug lovely.
Please don’t be worrying about me when you’re already going through so much. I knew you wasn’t well so I didn’t want to bombard you.
You’ve been on my mind every day and I’m sorry you’re having so many struggles xxxx

Dont think I have posted since your first thread. I have been following your journey and you truly are an inspiration. Am actually proud of someone I have never met, you have shown such strength of character, it was always in you just buried under the surface due to your abusive ex.

It's great that your children are finding their way back to you. I have been a single mum since leaving an abusive marriage. DS was a nightmare between the ages of 14 to 19 and I thought I had lost him for good when he left to live with his father after a huge row. He came back after 12 weeks with a real appreciation for me and we have had a fantastic relationship ever since. Looks like yours are also realising their love for you, and can show it now that they can see you out of that dreadful environment you were forced to live in.

Your new home is beautiful, makes me want to stop wallowing in self pity and get of my bum and make my home beautiful again! Have also been having flashbacks to the abuse, so strange as I have been divorced for 30 years! The mind does work out trauma in it's own time I suppose.

Anyway dont want to end on a depressing note! I hope you have a wonderful Christmas, and enjoy your snacks and peace. I have made up a treat box for ds to take on christmas eve and just realised I havent got any nibbles for myself yet lol. xxx

Good evening @Giraffe888 , how are you? Good I hope. Are you all ready for Christmas?
I don’t think my son’s girlfriend is going to forgive him tbh . She’s a very lovely head strong girl and if she was my daughter I’d be very proud of her but it’s hard because my son is so upset and down and he’s beating himself up for doing it . But he’s done it so he only has himself to blame.
Well it was nice to have my daughter here but she wasn’t the best company yesterday as she said I talk too much 😂
How was your coffee with your friend?I had a s’mores hot chocolate from M&S and some posh sandwiches which were lovely. They had no banana bread left with I was gutted about.
Sorry to hear your DD isn’t well still , it’s crazy how many people are poorly right now.
Sending you a big hug lovely xx.

Breaking news…… in preparation for starting a WhatsApp group @Imbluedalale and I have been messaging a little. I have now seen a photo of her and she is ABSOLUTELY STUNNINGLY BEAUTIFUL. Not one word of a lie.

I’ve told her this time next year, we’re gonna find her a nice man.

You live in Sheffield @Giraffe888 ?xx

I’ll never forget @TealPoet‘s kindness and she knows how thankful I am . She’s very special to me . Not just for that but she’s an incredibly amazing human xx

That’s so lovely @Giraffe888 , thank you. But it’s all you on here that are truly amazing . I didn’t do anything , you all helped me and I wouldn’t be where I am now sat on my huge sofa with the Christmas tree lights glistening in the corner without all of you on here. There isn’t enough thank you s in the world to say how thankful I am xx

So you and @Giraffe888 are both in Sheffield?omg I’m hyperventilating if that’s true xx

Hi @VexedofVirginiaWater , how are you this evening? Have you had a nice day?
Thank you for your lovely comments about my home, there’s still a lot to do but I will get there. Rome wasn’t built in a day.
Those little trees my son’s ex girlfriend gave me them as she and her family had moved homes and she said I could have them. How lovely was that.
Omg i remember you as kittylion!
Sending big hugs lovely xx

Oh gawd could you imagine?I mean I did think that is a very big inseminator.
I’ve never basted a turkey before . Ah well you learn something new everyday xx

Hi @RaspberryBeretxx , I hope you’ve had a nice day .
The cake tasted amazing it really did xx

Hi @TealPoet , nobody expects anything of you apart from that you’ll forever be a spoonie . Is that a deal?
I can’t believe your 38 I thought you was so much younger . I’m 41 next year I can’t believe it.
I feel like that too I don’t feel 41 although I look about 70 right now . In my head I still feel younger if that makes sense?I now enjoy the little things in life , a cake. Seeing family, reading a book or magazine , having a bath , watching tv, having a cup of tea. I’ll never take for granted what I have ever again. A lot of my stuff in my home is from car boot but I absolutely love it all and I feel incredibly lucky to get to this point .
Please don’t worry about sending me anything , just concentrate on yourself. Sending you a big hug @TealPoet and I hope you can get some rest tonight xx

Um excuse me missy. I have evidence of the fact that you look like a 22 year old Miss World, so we’ll have none of that nonsense @Imbluedalale

Hi @CleverLemonCat , it’s so lovely for you to post on this thread. Thank you .
How are you? I love your name btw.
Thank you so so much for following my journey , I’m so grateful you do.
Thankyou for being proud of me , I’ve never made anyone proud before so that’s so lovely .
I actually have tears in my eyes to hear that your DS came back to you .Your obviously an amazing mum. The years 14+ are bloody hard aren’t they . I get scared what to say sometimes and there’s a lot of biting my tongue.
Thankyou for liking my home, you should go to a car boot it’s amazing what stuff you find there . My mum is a car boot queen and she gets amazing things and a lot of it is brand new. Like my microwave and kettle they had never been used . I think my mum got all my kitchen stuff for £40.
Sorry to hear you’ve been having flashbacks too, they are awful aren’t they. Yesterdays one literally took my breath away and it’s hard to explain because you know it happened but your brain seems to forget and then when you get a flashback it knocks you for six.
Thank you for sharing that with me @CleverLemonCat , I truly appreciate it.
Awww that’s so lovely you’ve made a treat box for ds . You need treats for yourself. Get yourself on Ocado and order some M&S treats and you get a spoon like me on your first order xx

OMG that’s so lovely , thank you so much . I’m definitely not beautiful 😂but that has made me tear up. What a lovely lovely compliment.
Thank you @Apolloneuro xxx

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You’re so lovely thank you so much. I havnt got amazing skin like you though. You look radiant ❤️xxx

You are welcome to the praise, my lovely. Unfortunately Ocado dont deliver to my area, not posh enough lol. There is a small M&S in Grimsby though so might brave the grotty high street! Lots of posh treats in our Aldi though, so might go mad this year. Always feel guilty spending money on myself so will make that my aim for 2025, I do deserve nice things! x

Totally agree with you @Apolloneuro, having seen Laura’s photo, there is no way she looks 41. I thought you were under 30 Laura but then realised you would have been too young to have a 19 year old 😂 Laura has my WA details to add to the group.
In my head I definitely don’t feel my age and still try to do the same things I did when I was 25. I climbed up into my loft the other day to get my Christmas tree and decks down. I realised I found it much harder than I used to. But I won’t stop.
@TealPoet we don’t expect anything of you, just as long as you are part of the group and we can offer support to you as well if you need it. You are a founding Spoonie too so just check in when you are able. 🌸🥄
Glad you ate that yummy doughnut, would have been a shame to waste it.

Am always a bit reserved about boot sales, when I lived in a terrace with the tiny front gardens, a few of us decided to put planters outside our houses to make the street look nice. Within a week, on the Sunday morning they all got pinched. Police said that they would have been sold at the local boot sale! Did get my son a big box of ghost busters toys there for Christmas one year for pennies though.

2 years ago lots of stuff got stolen from the allotment, including a greenhouse full of seedlings in trays. He happened to go to a boot sale, and they were all there and the thief had even left the markers in, in his handwriting lol. One of the disadvantages of living in a deprived area of the country. Your local ones seem fab.

Awww that’s a shame @CleverLemonCat . Let me just get this straight do you live in Grimsby?xx

I’m so excited if you do that means you’re nearby!

Awwww thank you so much @AdmittowearingCrocs , I’m not used to compliments like that so thank you.
It crazy as you get older isn’t it when your mind seems younger than your body. I have a trapped nerve in my shoulder and I have started getting restless legs at night. All a sign of aging 😂
I have to say the doughnut was absolutely yummy. My mum and dad were making me laugh in M&S as wherever we go they always look at the price of meat and they was looking at all the turkeys and the weights in shock 🤣xx

Nearby town!

You are Doncaster way? So the other side of the bridge!

Doh, it's late, not near bridge lol. Have hull on my mind!