Need a hand hold part 4

[Imbluedalale]

Hi spoonies .
Welcome to season 4 xxx

Hi @OlderGlaswegianLivingInDevon . Thank you for your post .
Things are good thank you , my daughter lives with me now . My eldest has gone to uni and unfortunately my ex moved my son away and I don’t see him much but the times we spend tighter are extra special .
I’ve been in remission for a few months now and I’m all settled in my new home and driving again.
I’ve been having trauma therapy and my mental health is a lot better than it was .
Ex is engaged and his partner whom he cheated on me with is 6 months pregnant but good luck to them . In hindsight what he did to me was the best thing he could have done .
I havnt got a spoons Christmas tree this year I will be using my ozempic tree bit hopefully next year when I’m in a better position financially I will have one xx

University - that is wonderful ! you must be very very proud. What happened re his girlfriend ?

I am pleased your daughter has moved in, I clearly remember her light shade :)

Aw but I am not surprised he moved your youngest away, he had to have control didn't he !
His mother caused issues too, didn't she. has she moved away too ?

Are you still loving your new home ?

and how are your Mum and Dad ? as they really did come up trumps in the end when it was really needed.

Thank you @MsJinks . How are you doing ? Good I hope 🤞
It’s a strange feeling really , in some ways it feels like it was yesterday but in others it seems forever ago.
What I feel and have felt most of all is ‘peace’ . And even now I still sit on my sofa and I am amazing that I have a home , a lovely home too. I’ve found me again but a better me .
Im so much more positive and look for the small joys in my life . And something truly amazing but I actually like myself and realise that I’m strong .
I never envisioned any of those , the good or bad . I never thought that I would hardly get to see my boys , whenever I dreamt about getting my own home it was with me , my daughter and my little boy . That has been the toughest part of it all but I also know that ex has used his last throw of the dice and nothing he does now will effect me .
Im doing things I enjoy again and I’ve found new things I like doing like journalling and I’m obsessed with cleaning .
I did start a draft for my book and wrote a few chapters but then I started my trauma therapy and my cortisol levels were playing up then ex took youngest out of school and moved away so it’s been a hard few months xx

I am proud , I never thought he wanted to go to university . He seems to be settling in well. I’m missing him so much tho.
His girlfriend didn’t take him back , he was cut up about it for a while and I felt really sorry for him but he did cheat and it was a hard lesson learnt . He seems ok about it now thankfully .
Oh she still has the chicken light shade and it still sheds now and again and I find the feathers in the most random places . There was a frozen one in my freezer once ! She’s got a chicken lamp now too!
His mother hasn’t moved away with them , he stopped speaking to my daughter tho and disowned her which still breaks my heart he said he’d start speaking to her again when she’s 18 and tell her some ‘home truths’ and she’s just turned 18 so we shall see. I only had 4 days to say goodbye to my youngest and was given 2 hours to say goodbye which was hard .
I absolutely adore my home and I take a lot of pride in it , I still have lots to get but I’m glad with the progress I’ve made .
My mum and dad are good thank you , I am truly thankful for their help in setting me up in my home they have been amazing in that way just wish they was there emotionally too but I’ve accepted that xx

I’m so proud of you Laura, what a lot you have accomplished over just one year! I know none of it has come without struggle and there have been really painful parts, but you’ve shown amazing strength, resilience, and positivity. Onwards and upwards beautiful!

Hi @Imbluedalale i got a notification of this post but couldn’t remember the post so since your recent message I’ve been reading all your threads. Woah what have you gone through and how far you’ve come. I’m glad your daughter is with you now and hoping your ex’s grip on the Sons loosens up. How did your daughter come around? From your posts during Christmas it seemed like she wasn’t going to. Hoping it’s onwards and upwards always for you.

@Imbluedalale me again. I
should have read your updates before posting What your son did to his gf was wrong but I also think the situation after that probably gave him the push to go to uni Instead of following his dad and family’s cycle. Hope your youngest hasn’t moved far. Maybe one day he’ll decide to move in with you. You just need to breakthrough to him with one conversation and he might even change his mind about living with his dad. I hope it all works out for you.