AIBU to tell SIL to get fucked?

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SIL asked what we were up to this weekend. I said, as another storm is on the way, we were going to have some mulled wine and a cheeseboard while watching Christmas films. She then did cat's bum face and said she thought it was so gross that people do nothing but stuff their faces with unhealthy food in the run up to Christmas. She said this, by the way, in front of her teenage daughter who has struggled badly with body image issues. I said, lightly, that I'm very sleep deprived due to my velcro 5 month old and, as last Christmas (and for the whole 9 months of my pregnancy) I had hyperemesis gravidarum and was too queasy to enjoy any nice food, this Christmas I fully intend to eat all the cheese and all the chocolate. She rolled her eyes at me and said "whatever makes you feel better about yourself".

I said nothing but I wanted to tell her to fuck off tbh. AIBU?

She sounds a peach.

Oh yes tell her to fuck off. Can’t be dealing with the judgement

Enjoy your cheeseboard all the more for knowing she'll never taste it, the martyred old bint. Sounds like you've earned it!

I would have replied "and you keep running us down at every opportunity, as that's clearly what makes YOU feel better about yourself. Seriously, crack on - I couldn't give a witch's tit what you think."

But I'm a crabby old git.

I think in these circumstances it’s absolutely necessary to tell her to fuck off. Bonus if she actually fucks off - but she won’t because she clearly like starting stuff.

"Well aren't you a bundle of Christmas cheer" and ignore her afterwards.

People so sour don't deserve the consideration of a polite response.

"Not having to endure you makes me feel better about myself" while either putting down the phone or pointing in the direction of the door.

I always play the ‘Annie, are you OK? What’s going on with you lately? You’ve been in a rotten mood.’

Then they protest and repeat what they said and you just make a sympathetic face and say ‘Oh Annie… it will get better!’

Get her a colonic voucher for Christmas 🤣

She has form for this. I once got a lecture on how I should have served fruit instead of cake at my four year old's birthday party.

Were you on the phone because 'Oh I have to hang up now we're going into a tunnel' works well. Particularly if they know you are sitting at home.

She's definitely a Mumsnetter!

No, sadly I was round there dropping something off for my brother.

I’d send her a cheese hamper for Christmas.

You know the mn ‘tinkly laugh’- it was made for situations such as this!

And also would have 'offered' sticks of celery and carrots which were inhaled by little children ravenous for xylem and phloem and the joy of vascular bundles.

My eldest is autistic and only eats beige food so she's had many opportunities to get at me about that over the years as well.

"But then s/he might turn into a miserable cunt like you." But politer options are probably available.

Don’t think there’s a situation where her respite is appropriate.

I don't see or speak to my SIL unless DH is there, works better for me. Who can be bothered with such competitive smugness ! Such a dull way to live. Enjoy all the snacks this weekend 🙌🏻

I said YABU simply because she is clearly a very unhappy person. Nothing to be gained by even bothering to tell her to F-Off. Her life is and always will be miserable without a personality transplant. Leave her to the universe.

Please do this ^ and tell her : Do you remember we’ve had a weekend at home relaxing? It’s when we discovered these beautiful cheeses…

Your weekend plans sound perfect. You were not unreasonable to tell her “to f* off” Bonus points for not doing this 🙂.

That's definitely 'oh fuck off, you arsehole' territory.

You would be very unreasonable to tell her to get fucked. Sometimes you just have to say it with needlepoint. I’m sure you could pick up a kit from Amazon and if you framed it, it would also double as her Christmas present.

We've had big blow ups about those particular comments before so she steers clear of them now!!