AIBU to tell SIL to get fucked?

[Pooliny]

SIL asked what we were up to this weekend. I said, as another storm is on the way, we were going to have some mulled wine and a cheeseboard while watching Christmas films. She then did cat's bum face and said she thought it was so gross that people do nothing but stuff their faces with unhealthy food in the run up to Christmas. She said this, by the way, in front of her teenage daughter who has struggled badly with body image issues. I said, lightly, that I'm very sleep deprived due to my velcro 5 month old and, as last Christmas (and for the whole 9 months of my pregnancy) I had hyperemesis gravidarum and was too queasy to enjoy any nice food, this Christmas I fully intend to eat all the cheese and all the chocolate. She rolled her eyes at me and said "whatever makes you feel better about yourself".

I said nothing but I wanted to tell her to fuck off tbh. AIBU?

She sounds awful. Even my mum who is a bit stuck up about certain foods will go a bit crazy with food near Christmas time.

She sounds about as delightful as my MIL!

I find avoiding her at all costs works a treat. However telling her to fuck the hell off could also work. Please tell me you're not spending Christmas with her!

I would quite happily say something that would be in breach of the guidelines. But my views are definitely on your side.

Christmas is a time for indulgence and relaxation. Especially if you are not religious. It's a time for family and those who are quite possibly closer than your biological family.

I do hope you have a very enjoyable and indulgent Christmas.

Tell her to fuck off.
You also don't have to justify your reasons for wanting to eat the foods you want.
Enjoy.

She's not worth the money. I'd send her a Christmas card with food on it, and a message inside to the effect that nobody puts on weight just by looking at food so you thought she'd like it.

I would have invited your niece over to have a sleepover.🤐

You sound like my kind of person. She, very much, does not.

Now I want a cheese and film day!

Oh, this is PERFECT!!!!

"I saw this and thought of you" 😂.

🤣 what she gonna look like with a chimney on her 🎤

Wine and Christmas fillums- enjoy!

🤣🤣🤣🤣

Yes do that!

This answer wins, and is actually a brilliant suggestion. If I was the niece, I'd definitely rather be at yours! I actually might take inspiration from you myself, and copy your weekend - minus a lovely, squishy baby, sadly.

Merry Christmas @Pooliny Your run up to Christmas after the last one + pregnancy is well deserved 🧀🍷🎄

I’d be very naughty and say “ thankfully I can eat anything I like and it doesn’t affect my skin/waistline/thighs/bum (whatever) like it does for you - I’m so lucky I know!” Then if she gets annoyed apologise profusely and say you honestly thought that’s what she was referring to. You didn’t mean any harm, just felt bad for her etc etc,

Tell her-" you are my sister in law, not my dietician- what I and my family eat is none of your business, and I would appreciate it if , in future, you keep your unsolicited opinions to yourself."

I think I’d try - ‘What an odd thing to say when someone tells you their plans’ with a quizzical look. Or ‘I’m interested as to why you feel the need to criticise me’ with a very neutral tone. Calls out that she’s being a cow without giving any sign of a reaction from you that she can feed off. Or - just ignore it, feel sad for her that she interacts with people in such a negative way - and enjoy your delicious cheese 😀

I think I'd just laugh at her and say 'horses for courses' or some such. Sounds like a very unpleasant woman but I'd shrug it off

I couldn't take her seriously.

I'd be like - omg your such a fun sponge - tinkerly laugh

Ha ha! Quite.

It only took me 30 odd years to have the courage to do it. If I could give my younger self some guidance, I should have done it a lot sooner.
You don't need her in your life, let her pontificate to someone else.

I do hope your mulled wine and cheeseboard night went well!

Sods law I came down with a manky virus and have been in bed most of the weekend feeling like death. Postponed til next weekend!! DH and my older DC watched Home Alone with hot chocolate whilst I marinated in bed upstairs with the baby.

Thats’s karma for planning such a gross, unhealthy weekend! In fact, I’d be tempted to say that sarcastically to SIL next time you talk to her. Seriously though, hope you feel better soon and enjoy your cheeseboard next weekend.