AIBU to tell SIL to get fucked?

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SIL asked what we were up to this weekend. I said, as another storm is on the way, we were going to have some mulled wine and a cheeseboard while watching Christmas films. She then did cat's bum face and said she thought it was so gross that people do nothing but stuff their faces with unhealthy food in the run up to Christmas. She said this, by the way, in front of her teenage daughter who has struggled badly with body image issues. I said, lightly, that I'm very sleep deprived due to my velcro 5 month old and, as last Christmas (and for the whole 9 months of my pregnancy) I had hyperemesis gravidarum and was too queasy to enjoy any nice food, this Christmas I fully intend to eat all the cheese and all the chocolate. She rolled her eyes at me and said "whatever makes you feel better about yourself".

I said nothing but I wanted to tell her to fuck off tbh. AIBU?

I wouldn't give her the headspace let alone excuses. "That's nice, see you some time then, ttfn".

And make sure the niece has your number for the future.

She didn’t need anyone’s permission before offending you - so, go ahead, ask her to fcuk off !

Why do you bother talking to her at all?

If you feel you have to then grey rock her. Bland and nothingy. She asks what your plans are? “Yeah not decided yet…what about you?”

Detach from the source of spite!

Yes, something like;

Is it ok if we get all the criticisms of me and my family out the way now so I can relax and enjoy the rest of the afternoon?

"Thanks for that Mrs Grinch."

For those asking why we still speak to her, the reasons are:

1. I don't want to stop speaking to my brother
2. I'm very close to my nieces and don't want to alienate them.

Does she question why or how her daughter has issues around food I wonder?

Can I come to yours? It sounds delightful! And she sounds like a miserable cow.

My money's on that not being the exact wording.

I’d go with a “do you realise how judgy and rude you come across?” Then walk away before she replies.

Hmm well I think that's potentially the reason she has a daughter with weight issues. No wonder if you have a mother who makes these sort of comments!

I'd just smile and ignore her. Or better yet, give her a massive cheery smile whilst helping yourself to a mince pie and eating it in front of her.

"Wow, ok" is another standard response you could trot out, faced with her nonsense. She sounds tiresome and deeply insecure.

It’s clear why her teenage daughter has body image issues, not hard to imagine what the poor girl’s mum has been saying to her all her life.

As for your response to her - “well that’s pretty rude!” Then let her stew, not knowing how to respond after being called out to her face.

Told one of my sister in laws to fuck off years ago. I no longer have anything to do with her and I feel better for it. Some people are so negative and draining, my policy is just because they're family doesn’t mean you have to like them. Your weekend plan sounds lush to me.

I gave mine a good 20 years, putting up with her nasty, sly, vindictive attitude, my husband gave me his permission to tell her to do one, 😝. Go for it, 🤗

You should tell her she has a mouth like a cats bum and she should stuff a bit of chocolate in it to see if it improves it.

YANBU at all. But don’t send her a cheese hamper - order one for yourself and enjoy it!

in no uncertain terms, I’d have said ‘shove your head up your arse, Janice’ whilst throwing a whole mince pie into my face hole

Well it was, but is there a form of wording that would make it more acceptable in your eyes?

Sounds like she had a pole up her arse. YANBU

YABU because you didn’t tell her to fuck right off. I am firmly at the age of not wasting energy on idiots’ feelings and I am jealous of the cheeseboard.

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How fucking rude. Your sil that is.

She is obviously insecure in some way. Happy, balanced people don't behave like that. Happy, balanced people don't feel the need.

Your money's on it?
Perhaps you can tell us all what really happened seeing as you know better. I'm fascinated.

Your cheeseboard sounds amazing as does the cosy movie snugfest. I don’t like mulled wine, so I’d swap it out for a bottle of red.

Another thing you could say is “God, you’re so miserable Maureen. I’m so glad we don’t take ourselves that seriously”.

Her poor daughter will be wanting to move in with you. I suppose she'll have them going for a long run and doing a cleanse that day.