NO 2 during dinner

[Fannyanne88]

Me and DP are currently trying to encourage our DS (2 years) to use potty. It's hit and miss but we've had 5x number 2s on potty so far and everyone's thrilled. We set it up in kitchen/diner behind some chairs as barrier (he likes privacy) so we can keep an eye and he feels comfortable.
So tonight during dinner DS tells me he needs to go so I get potty as per usual. DP who's above average squeamish says no, take him to bathroom as he can't handle eating while DS goes for no 2. I go against his wishes and set up as per usual. Rationale being I don't want to change routine in fear of discouraging Potty use. Also, downstairs bathroom is freezing and time was of the essence.
So am I being unreasonable for "crossing DPs line" or am I gross and DS should not use Potty during mealtimes in kitchen/diner.

Wouldn't bother me at all, we must have had potty in kitchen/diner at the start

Do you wipe him and then do that thing of delaying washing your hands, because you aren't in the bathroom? Do you wash shit off your hands in the kitchen sink?

@Fannyanne88 firstly thank you so much for looking after our loved ones.

But yep unfortunately it does mean your tolerance is a billion times our mere mortals. Fully appreciate the logic of your posts but it's a nope here.

If people haven't got time to get the child to a downstairs bathroom and the child needs to shit were they are eating, it's too early.

Looking at gross images is different, they don’t smell.

It all sounds very rigid about location of the potty, if it’s so important to be consistent then consistently use it in the bathroom. I didn’t mind if it was used in the living room but would rather not smell it while eating. My DH was positively squeamish about the smell generally which garnered no sympathy from me so I can empathise with you there.

Our dining room/lounge is open plan and our hall isn't really big enough for the potty we had (DS had a bad experience with the first 'standard' potty, we ended up with a bigger one that looked different enough from it that DS wasn't worried by it) without being a trip hazard.

I'm sure there were times DS used his potty while we were eating. I don't remember it being an issue.

I think it's lost on a lot of pp that they are simply passing on their own irrational behaviours onto their kids & honestly it's a bit hilarious

@Caerulea

there is nothing irrational about not wanting to eat a meal whilst someone is having a shit in the same room!!

@Mandylovescandy

really?? It wouldn’t bother you at all? How could it not? Genuinely curious!

It's fucking disgusting for any human being to be shitting next to other human beings who are eating.

Just because it's shit that's coming out of a toddler, that doesn't mean it's somehow different from shit that comes out of an adult. If you wouldn't want to hear/see/smell an adult having a dump next to the dinner table, don't let your child do the same.

I don't think it's a massive issue to be honest, it's only a poo!

Wow, this is just vile. Some people
really Have no standards it seems. Please don’t ever bring anything made in your kitchen to someone else’s house. They don’t need to be inflicted with this filth. 🤮

It’s fucking disgusting is what it is. No one wants a toddlers shit particles I. Their food or smell them
either and that you think this is normal just means you’re probably as disgusting. 🤮

@lifeisforlaying

yeah and poo is gross.

Would you say that if it was an adult? It shouldn't matter if 'it's only poo'...

It's absolutely gross.

It will do you well to start using the potty in different rooms – upstairs and downstairs bathroom, his room and the living room sometimes when needed. It's best he learns from the start that he goes in lots of different spaces so he is comfortable using other spaces when out and about. Don't take 'consistency' too literally. Consistency is more in important with your method of teaching him, not location.

It is an irrational and ridiculous reaction over a short term &, often, stressful process of teaching a child to crap in a thing rather than just in something they're wearing or wherever they happen to feel like it.

The last thing anyone should be doing is attaching shame to any process that's perfectly natural. Is it gross? Yeah. Does it stink? Usually. Does anyone want shit in places other than the toilet? Hell no!

but this is a process, just like house training a puppy & we all know not to make a hoohah when doing that cos it causes problems.

What I see here is a bunch of ppl getting hysterical or agressive over poo & that is not healthy & yes it does create problems & shame

For now while you're potty training I wouldn't change anything and DP could leave the table and eat elsewhere if this happens again, but once DS has got the hang of it the potty needs to move to the bathroom

Poo particles still float about in large kitchens. Its grim to allow there where food is being prepared and eaten. I understand wanting to make it easier to potty train but it is incredibly unhygienic.

Why should an adult leave their meal - when there is a downstairs toilet available - that’s just a bit cold.

Team dh

Houses have lavatories for a reason.
Team DH

It needs to be in the bathroom! Why would it not be, it isn't ok to have a toddler doing a poo nearby while you're eating, I would be absolutely horrified!

For the beginning of the potty training journey - where we are too - we have the potty in the playroom which is open plan to our dining room (background is also a nurse OP 😂 ) but saying that Im hoping a couple of weeks there max and then into the downstairs loo (which is a bit tight for space.

That is absolutely disgusting. You should have taken him to the bathroom. Have some consideration for those trying to eat. That is honestly the skankiest thing I've read in a long time. If you wouldn't have a shit at the table, you don't allow your kids to.