Is this cheeky? Giving child a lift?

[Bubblegirly]

My DD aged 8 does a class every week and has for the last two years. Last week I ran into an old friend who I haven’t seen for around 3 years. She was bringing her DS for the first time. It was nice to catch up etc and we said see you next week.

ive just had a message asking if I can take and drop home her DS tomorrow as she is struggling to fit everything into her day. I’m like WTF? I only met DS last week for the first time. I’m going to say no but is this cheeky? It really feels it? It’s only his second week and I don’t want to set a precedent

Also can people not seem to do a favour for others, without keeping some kind of score sheet, and feeling as though they are "owed one", later on. This thread is something else.

It’s not beyond belief at all. It’s indicative of panic and haste
we have no idea if they subsequently tried to call friends/family from ED to go watch the child
Panic impairs judgement. It was a hasty departure in a medical emergency

But maybe the OP wants to take her own child alone to the activity. Sometimes these car journeys are precious regular private one on one times for parent and child.

I read it that it was a one off. I don't think it's a request for a regular arrangement.

a child you know well and who knows you well fine.....a total stranger child hell no

It should not preclude the occasional favour. I'm sure that good parents will be able to fit this in anyway.

Op has just met this child,hasn’t seen mum in 3yr but hey she’s expected to collect and drop off to a class
Nope
The other mum adequately plans or the child can’t attend the class

A total stranger? I thought the parents were friends? If you don't know the child, does it matter? He'll talk to the OP's child, surely?
It's hardly onerous.

I have given hundreds of lifts over the years to my children's friends .Can honestly say that I never kept a record of who owed who a lift !!This thread is so bloody depressing. What is wrong with people these days?

@Zone2NorthLondon "Yes it’s an expectation that someone else step up and drive her child as she too busy"

It's wasn't an expectation. It was a request. This SUCH a depressing thread!

It's just awful, isn't it. Certainly an education. Who knew "being kind" to people is such a negative?!

But do they live on the same street?
I would only be up for this if it was alternated. It causes quite a bit of additional hassle to me to get somewhere else and drop off, and I couldn't go to the shops on the way home or whatever. I do think asking someone you've not seen for 3 years suggests she won't be slow in taking advantage.

She was bringing her DS for the first time. It was nice to catch up etc and we said see you next week.

ive just had a message asking if I can take and drop home her DS tomorrow as she is struggling to fit everything into her day.

So how was she planning to deal with it if she hadn't bumped into you? She can just do that.

Dear lord. Such a depressing thread. I'm glad I've not come across this in real life.
I've asked for the occasional lift for myself or my children and not one person has ever said "fuck off, I'm not a taxi!" - thank God.

I agree@KatyaKabanova . It is sad that so many feel that way.

Some parents can’t wait to palm their children off on someone else.

Well we don't know why she needed the favour. Could be a medical emergency or she just fancies putting her feet up.

Depressing is tired old tropes that women should jolly along helping out, be nice,raise the village
Permissible for a woman to say No. Simply no. No elaborate explanation. No
@Bubblegirly met this child once. Has no relationship or contact prior to 1 meeting last week. Hadn’t seen the mum in 3 year
No, nope. I wouldn’t offer lifts.

Trust me, they’ll be thinking it.

It doesn't. Assume they're 8. Don't know why I typed 3.

I work with primary school children. 8 is still car seat age, and many of them fight over it. And there is a huge range of 8 year old behaviour and attitudes. Without knowing the child, at all, I would be reluctant to do this.

As OP is. Hence her posting.

Yes. Friends!

This child is a stranger to the OP and her child.
She hasn't even seen the other woman in over 3 years!

Trust me they won’t unless they reside in batshit crazy MN world. 😂

If @Bubblegirly hadnt been there how was the other mum planning to attend future classes.

I would say I don't know your kid very well and wouldn't be comfortable giving a child I don't know well a lift.

I doubt it very much. Not everyone has that frame of mind.