Is this cheeky? Giving child a lift?

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My DD aged 8 does a class every week and has for the last two years. Last week I ran into an old friend who I haven’t seen for around 3 years. She was bringing her DS for the first time. It was nice to catch up etc and we said see you next week.

ive just had a message asking if I can take and drop home her DS tomorrow as she is struggling to fit everything into her day. I’m like WTF? I only met DS last week for the first time. I’m going to say no but is this cheeky? It really feels it? It’s only his second week and I don’t want to set a precedent

She asked for a one off lift tomorrow. Not for op to take her child to all social activities till the end of time.

Indeed!

I think that is exactly what happened. I just feel sad that they didn't think to ask me and that the little boy didn't just come round.

Quite. There seems to be a level of fear on here.. what will one lift lead to?!

Are men routinely expected to be nice, raise villages,offer favours, offer lifts. Or just women?

agree, panic and adrenaline mean they made a hasty exit.

So what do you think could possibly go wrong giving this child a lift 🤔
Worse case scenario I can think of is that the child might refuse..but highly unlikely.
I just think it's so pathetic making a drama out of nothing 🙄

I think humans are. Men as well as women have helped me and my family out at various times. Just because they're decent people.

help out,yes I’d probably do that depending on circumstances
recurrent lifts arising from poor planning, no I’d not do that. No

Do we know it's recurrent?.

Most people will be happy to help as a one off, for short term fix, (illness, giving birth, flat tyre) or in a turns about sort of way but few are happy to ferry other people's kids around without anything in it for them.

If I was the Op my response would be how about you drop off I'll pick up. Then they need to put some effort in too.

Also, you know what? Sometimes people plan poorly, sometimes people make mistakes. Why shouldn't you help out, even then?

Do we know it is not recurrent?

The reading comprehension on this thread is wild. Who said anything about recurring lifts, poor planning, the kid being three years old (prev post), the woman being a stranger, etc.

She asked for a lift for her child. She didn't say "every time".

I agree, but the way this was presented doesn’t sound like that. She has a busy day and it would be convenient not to make that trip. Fine from a good friend whose kids know each other. Fine if she offered to reciprocate next week. Fine if she had some emergency. Fine even if she emphasised the request was a one off. But it was none of these. I’d find it odd and worry that I’d be asked regularly.

You are right much better to go through life assuming the absolute worst at all times. Makes life such a treat.

It's extraordinary. Plus the judgment on the woman! Poor thing may be ill, have car problems, work or domestic emergency...by default she has to be demanding, lazy, badly organised and a CF!

If you are ok to give him a lift OP (considering time, route and your DD is ok with another child in the car) and you don’t have a particular history of CF with his mum - give him a lift. If you don’t - just tell her why.
I don’t think asking on the first week is 100% CF . It could be but it could be a genuine problem so I would give her a benefit of doubt.
If she starts asking a lot it will be a different story.

@livanlaterlaterlater It’s great that people like you exist. I hope karma will reward you 🙂

I'd help someone as a one off and make it clear it's a one off. So many who won't even do a thing to help others.

Why is it my responsibility to help out surely in such instances the child misses the class.The mum Doesn’t impose or assume someone else will help out

What gets me is that she doesn’t want you for one trip, but for the taking and the picking up. Do you even live near her as you haven’t seen each other for years? Nip thus in the bud before it becomes a regular request. Yes, we all like to help when needed, but not to be taken advantage off.

It's not your responsibility. You clearly wouldn't do it.
It's not my responsibility, either, but I'd do it to help someone, especially a child wanting to go to an activity.

I think you should say you are happy to do one journey if she does the other one, or alternate weeks?

The child is a stranger ( met 1st time last week) op hasn’t seen the mum in three year
It's not explicit it’s a one off arrangement . If it’s only one off then the mum forgo the class on one occasion
It really is not someone else role to sort out this other mum time clashes