To think DH did nothing wrong here?

[Challas]

On my way to do the school run in the dark I nearly slammed into a little black car that was broken down just around a blind on our very rural 60 mile an hour road. I noticed a woman alone sitting in the car. I called DH and asked him to go at least put cones around the car but also to offer to the woman for him to stay with her (in his car) or come stand on our drive so she didn't get killed sitting in the car. He went up to her and she politely declined (all fine but he was legitimately afraid for her). He did then drive back around the bend and sat there with his hazards on to slow any cars coming down. Eventually the recovery van came for her and all was well until a few hours later we had the police at the door saying this woman reported DH for having made her feel threatened!? He's now said in the future he just won't even offer help if he's in the same position again. The police were fairly aggressive with wanting to know exactly what he said and did so clearly she was very uncomfortable.

His offer was to stay parked up next to her in his own vehicle. When she declined that he thought he'd go round the bend as that was really where the issue was going to be anyway and warn drivers coming from that direction.

"with her (in his car) or come stand on our drive so she didn't get killed sitting in the car. He went up to"

OP this is where I was getting the car sharing.. sorry maybe I read it wrong.

Clearly she's unhinged for reporting your DH preventing an accident..you know what they say about good deeds..I'm sorry for your DH but tell him he might have saved a life doing what he did so he'll be paid in karma rather than gratitude...

Did he explain to her that was what he was going to do and the reasons why? Otherwise in her mind she turned him away and he just waited up the road.

You literally say in your OP “I called DH and asked him to go at least put cones around the car but also to offer to the woman for him to stay with her (in his car) or come stand on our drive so she didn't get killed sitting in the car. He went up to her and she politely declined (all fine but he was legitimately afraid for her).” - so did he offer for her to get in his car? Or not? What did she decline?

your post isn’t clear.

So he didn't ask the woman to get in his car? To stay in his car until help came? (''offer to the woman for him to stay with her in his car'')

Peak lack of reading comprehension as usual. He didn’t try and get in her car, he offered to stay with her and sit in his OWN car. He also didn’t refuse to go away, he drove back around the bend and sat back so people saw him before flying round the bend and hitting the stranded woman. Maybe people who have criticised the OPs husband should actually go back and read the post again.

He didn’t do anything wrong OP but seeing the mistaken reactions on here and the woman’s today he probably shouldn’t bother helping a woman again.

I think he communicated very badly what his plan was, then.

@TruffleShuffles This is exactly what he did.

And it was very clear from you OP.

So what if he offered? It's kind. It's not like he forced her! I understand men being reluctant to help out if this is what they get. Nothing he did was creepy🤷‍♀️

Good on your husband for doing the right thing and preventing further accidents.

She was a woman on her own, and he’s a man. If he had nefarious intentions then her agreeing that he should help or not doesn’t change her risk profile one jot. He could have overpowered her whenever he chose, whatever she agreed to.

if you’re in your own and somebody offers to help, just accept ffs. people are good and altruistic on the whole, and being attacked by a stranger is vanishingly rare. Also, refusing the help doesn’t make you any more safe.

The OP says in her post that she advises him to offer to ask her to sit with him in his car. That isn’t a lack of reading comprehension, it’s what the OP actually says in the post. If that’s just what she advised him to do and he didn’t propose that then fine, but the OP doesn’t say he didn’t do that.

No, but if you have ever been approached in the dark by a man when you have been alone and it was a bad situation, then every situation after that can feel creepy!

No it doesn’t at all. It says to offer for him to stay in his own car, absolutely nothing about her sitting in his car.

My face, I'm genuinely gasping!

What a bellend!!! You just know she posted on mn acting like a victim and was encouraged to call the police

Your husband sounds like a lovely man, a protector. I don't blame him.

Awful woman! No good deed goes unpunished eh

But if she was in an unsafe place what good would it have done having another car there? Surely that would have caused an even bigger accident?

There’s a really busy country road near me with a 60mph limit. People die regularly on it. A good fraction of the people who die are people who stay in broken down cars round blind corners. At least one every couple of years, on a pretty short stretch.

This!

If you’ve got a long straight with a blind bend, it makes a big difference if there’sa car at the end of the long straight, or hidden invisible round a blind corner.

Never a good deed goes unpunished. My advice is don’t get involved in future. Nowadays I just walk on by.

Yes, it's really terrifying the people who say they would stay in their cars and presumably not warn oncoming traffic. It's incredibly stupid and dangerous to everyone using the road.

If you are ever in a situation where your car is a hazard, maybe on a blind bend, on the hard shoulder, slip road, etc. then you need to get out of the car, get to a safe place and call the police. And carry a warning triangle in your boot.

Goodness me🙄 where does it say he wanted to get in her car with her?

His car was presumably lit and visible as the corner is approached.