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To think DH did nothing wrong here?

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Challas · 29/11/2024 21:21

On my way to do the school run in the dark I nearly slammed into a little black car that was broken down just around a blind on our very rural 60 mile an hour road. I noticed a woman alone sitting in the car. I called DH and asked him to go at least put cones around the car but also to offer to the woman for him to stay with her (in his car) or come stand on our drive so she didn't get killed sitting in the car. He went up to her and she politely declined (all fine but he was legitimately afraid for her). He did then drive back around the bend and sat there with his hazards on to slow any cars coming down. Eventually the recovery van came for her and all was well until a few hours later we had the police at the door saying this woman reported DH for having made her feel threatened!? He's now said in the future he just won't even offer help if he's in the same position again. The police were fairly aggressive with wanting to know exactly what he said and did so clearly she was very uncomfortable.

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KimberleyClark · 01/12/2024 13:00

In the man's defence, offering her to sit in his car was his wife's suggestion, not his own. The only thing he did of his own initiative is to park his car around the bend (and so presumably out of sight) and turn his hazard warning lights on. Maybe he shouldn't have done this, but he was hardly hiding in the shadows as he had his warning lights flashing every second.

he didn’t offer the woman to sit in his car. He offered to sit in his own car nearby.

Challas · 01/12/2024 18:51

We're getting very to 'cancel the check' territory. Good ole Mumsnet.

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Itsgottobeme · 03/12/2024 07:31

She's on her own and broken down. I imagine that's enoguh to make her feel jittery.people can be perfectly competent and still feel "ah shit" on a breakdown.
Woman rightly so are wary. Is that your husbands fault. No. But she's valid. And you don't know her own background. Which sadly might and is likely to include a bad experience.

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AgaNewbie · 03/12/2024 23:13

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