Not aloud to touch the telly

[dazzledfrog]

Been married 12 years and have 4 children but not aloud to touch "his" telly which is in our lounge.

Dh uses it for gaming mostly or occasionally to watch something he wants and says nobody is to touch his telly apart from him.
He even has a code on it so nobody can touch it while he's at work.
Dc who are school age and a baby can't watch it after school because he's at work and nobody's aloud to touch it.
I can't watch it during the day and have a baby so I'm at home all day.
When I first met Dh he already had a telly so I accepted it was his telly but since then he's replaced it with our joint money and it's still his telly.
He isn't going to budge on this and no amount of talk or compromising is going to change anything.

He sits there all evening/weekends playing Xbox games and the rest of the family is never allowed to watch anything.
The (primarily school) children are told to watch telly in their room which they don't want to and he says I can talk to him while he's on his Xbox.
I wish we could have family time watching films or telly together.
I don't think there's anything I can do about it and feel bad for the children.

I would be saying all the batteries in the house are mine and no one is allowed to touch them so not remote for him. Actually I would cut the plug off and when he hits the roof tell him you wanted his attention when you tell him to leave.

Absolute nob. Start using it, he can eff off.

Put a brick through it! Buy another one for you and kids. Sounds a right charmer

Hide the remote control. What an absolute shit!

Why having babies with him?

Op, I’m sad that you think this isn’t the giant red flag that it is.

It's " allowed" not " aloud". Aloud means out loud. Sorry, I had to.

No, you really didn’t

Buy a nice new telly in the Black Friday sales and chuck him and his precious set out.

What a strange little wanker

I’m picturing Onslow from Keeping Up Appearances here…

Did you? Why?

Take the fuse out of the plug of the telly.

I would buy another telly and set it up somewhere else so you and the kids can watch. Do you have the money to do that or does he control the joint finances too?

Stick the TV in garden with bin bags of his clothing whilst he's at work and get yourself a much nicer one and lock him out.

He's a controlling cunt and I'd be making moves to leave him. Who the fuck does he think he is?!
In the meantime though buy a second telly from the joint account, put it in the other corner of the lounge and you and the kids watch that one. Yes it'll be ridiculous but maybe he'll see how ridiculous his own behaviour is.

You had four babies before realising what an infantile selfish prick he is.

Personally I'd take the fuse out of the plug.

My god, a man with 4 kids and still thinks he had time to play computer games???? Get rid of him immediately.

What a wanker. I’d be very creative in my response to this. The toilet? Oh no it’s mine and you have to shit in the garden.

He spends all evening and weekend playing Xbox, and won’t let anyone touch the TV that he bought with family money? What a catch!
OP you should buy another TV with family money, put it in your bedroom, then you and the kids can watch it there.

Eeep I misread the thread title! As you were.

Nothing wrong with playing games to relax, loads of women play too.
As long as he's pulling his weight when the kids are awake.
But the tv thing.. so controlling.

I cannot imagine this is in anyway true.

That's insane. This is not normal.

He isn't going to budge on this and no amount of talk or compromising is going to change anything.

I would absolutely end the relationship over this.

Those poor kids!
What sort of lesson are you both teaching them?

When you have kids, you put their needs above your own.
When you are in a relationship, you compromise with your partner.

He doesn’t see you as an equal partner.