to think that an adult should be able to pronounce my sons' name properly.......

[Psychomum5]

arghhhhhhh

everyday this I speak to this man (in fact he is the husband of a good friend but also ).

he is a nice enough chap (ooh, get me sounding all posh), and at the moment is being fab as I have no car and he is helping with my school runs, so I cannot complain toooooo much, (or can I).

welllllllllllllll........

he talks to me, talks to DS2, speaks ABOUT DS2, says his name, and then laughs, all because he reckons he has a problem with speaking......well.....his problem isn;t any other words except JACOB, which for some reason he says as JACUM.....arghhh.

he is told by my son, and by me, repeatedly, that it is JACOB, he says sorry, and then says it sloooooowly, saying it with the B really obviously, and then in the next breath he gets it wrong AGAIN...

even my son, with his hands on his hips, tells him that he is wrong and that his name is Jacob, and no-one else gets it wrong (well, friends kiddies do but that is normal.....most of 'em can;t even say their own name's properly), but A GROWN MAN??????? >

...and relax.

He could have a speech impediment. But it is a little strange that your son's name is the only word affected.

Most people have certain words/things they have a mental block with.

I can't for the life of me remember when my eldest brother's birthday is (and it's only his I can't remember!) and I've known him all my life...

But he's being kind to you - and it could be a random problem he has.

I don;t wanna relax....I am cross!!!!

((maybe a touch of PMT too, oh, and stir-crazyness seeing as I have no car either at the moment))

ah, it's all becoming clear now...

and I know he is being all nice and kind.....but I want to rant and have people agree with me.....

thankyou.....camomile tea and valium is helpful...((weak ))

pmsl psycho I can see where you're coming from here, it is annoying

my DAD kept calling dd1 Emma for months and her name is Ella. Now am fully aware its NOT THAT DIFFERENT but its only 4 letters ffs!!

my fil has 3 grandchildren before mine so am lucky if he doesn't have to go through all of those names before he can manage to remember mine

just breath and remember he IS doing nice things for you and maybe he thinks he is being funny in his own weird way

thankyou dizzy.....it is annoying isn't it.

It just makes me want to stomp on his toes tho to get the message across at times.....

i used to get really really annoyed about this. but what is the point of stressing, and getting your own bloodp ressure up?

I think I'm worse though as these are grandparents and they hardly ever see the girls so would it be soooooooooo much to expect them to get their names right?!?!

am considering naming this one Rumplestiltskin and see how they get on with that

Can you ask him what exactly his 'problem with speaking is'? Something along the lines of "tricky name JACOB, any other words you find difficulty with?"

Hmmmm, tad over reaction but it is sooo annoying, esp when it isn't a difficult name. I have daughter called Niamh.

Don't get me started, lol!

Esp. when gd friends of ours know how to pronounce it but in every birthday, xmas card etc... They put a 'p' in it. Now;

a) where is the p sound, and

b) it looks and sounds rude if you put a 'p' in it, lol!

pmsl laughing @ rumplestiltskn.

good idea re-asking about other words he may find tricky. so far he seems to say everything else ok, but then, maybe I am tuning half his speaking out while I think of ingenious ways of exacting revenge on getting my sons' name wrong!!!

Lol @ rumpelstiltskin, dizzy.

Maybe he sees it as a fond joke, like a pet name for your ds2. But he does not GET that neither your ds2 nor you are finding it endearing. Some people (particularly men) are like that - they cannot read from your facial expression and demeanour that you are annoyed at something and just keep going on and on.

Yes, makes me want to stamp on their head.

should I poll it on the babyname thread and see what everyone thinks?!?

psycho are you going to have to deal with this bloke for long? is it worth getting all hot and bothered about

or you could train the kids to mis-prounouce his name? childish I know but some of the most rewarding things in life are

ahhh......happynewyear.....our neighbour's DD is called naimh too.....but they got so fed up with the same problem that they changed it on her birth certificate to Neve in the end so save issues. not something I would do, but clearly they got as upset as me (maybe going on this morning) and decided it was in everyones best interest!

Is foreign? My old boss was Singaporean and he would pronounce Kevin as Kelvin. I would repeatedly point out that there was no L in Kevin and pronounce slowly K e v i i i n. He would say "ah I see" and then ask me to get Kelvin on the phone. [thunk]

My FIL doesn't call DS2 by the right name even after DS2 has asked him to so where I think YANBU, I'm not sure it's going to change

(love Jacob BTW - my darling 19 year old nephew is Jacob )

Ahhhh, they gave in then, lol! There is no way I would change the spelling to suit others. Others should take note and learn to write and talk properly.

!!!!!!

He should be able to pronounce Jacob properly. YANBU

I am going to see him a lot over the coming years I think.....one, his wife and I are good friends, he specifically hunts me down at school in the morning anyway as I speak to him (he does the school runs everyday), plus I do the afternoon school runs to help them out as the do have disability issues, (well, when I have a car obviously).

PLLUS

his sons are good friends with my two, so......

I am going to have to bite my toungue and rant on here me thinks

nope, he is not foreign either!!!!

I am rather sensitive I think anyway as I specifically went for 'normal/common' names for all my children as I have a very different and unusual name that NO-ONE ever got right while I was growing up, not even does to this day.....

I do like that I am not being unreasonable tho