If men were left to organise Christmas themselves

[Fiddlesticks32]

AIBU to think it would be an absolute disaster?

And what would it look like?

Sawdust on the floor as the festive decorations.

Perfect. There would be lots of fancy food, lovely, well wrapped gifts for us all and festive fun and activities.
Not all men are useless shits

In our house, it would be absolutely fine and I’d get to sit down! Unfortunately, I am too much of a control freak and cannot unclench, but I don’t really do much of the gift buying or stocking sorting anyway and that is a big part of it.

My DH does Christmas apart from the tree and presents for my family. We have a brilliant Christmas every year.

Last year my exH forgot to wrap our DDs' gifts and rushed round on Christmas Day trying to find them apparently. He never used to be so rubbish.
My brothers are great at gift buying and being organised and put in a lot of effort. My dad left most up to my mum and later me but he went and got all the meat, made sausage rolls, cooked the meat, wrote the Christmas cards and put holly over the pictures on the wall.
I'm a single parent so it's all on me anyway.

Great food, lots of booze, last minute panic on presents, minimal decorations and a distinct lack of carols/ nativity ( in this house anyway)

Low key.

It would be low key. And not stressful. Might be a welcome change, to be honest.

DH sorts the food and I sort the gifts (generally). Works ok but we keep it simple and don't have a large family.

Wouldn’t happen in our house, DH isn’t bothered by Christmas

In our house you might get a regular roast dinner on the day but that would probably be it. Definitely no gifts or decorations or trips to see lights or socialising.

Depends on the man.

My ex used to always pick out the perfect real tree, he would order a wreath and mistletoe from the florist, make a Fortnum and Mason order, go to the butchers and do the food shop, order beautiful presents.

My current partner doesn’t do any of it.

If my husband solely organised it wouldn’t be a disaster. It would probably feature more meat and pies. The tree would go up later and be more haphazard in its decoration than I would personally like. But there would be presents, they would be wrapped. There would be food and it would be cooked (well). The house would be clean and we would have things in for guests.

Looking at my family, I think it would be an excellent celebration and we'd all have a great time. I think it would possible be slightly less fancy with less frills - more a solid, good quality affair rather than 'fancy' with trimmings, but that's not a bad thing.

It would involve kfc and a last minute dash for presents on Christmas Eve.
Nothing would get wrapped.
And the credit card bill in January would come as a complete surprise

We would have a three foot Christmas tree and no other decorations. In the larder there would be six bottles of malt whisky, 4 cases of beer, a case of wine, half a kilo of potatoes, a medium sized parsnip, twelve Brussels sprouts, a small pack of chipolata sausages, one packet of bacon, a turkey breast, a huge Christmas pudding and a small carton of single cream. His astonishment that that doesn’t feed six people for four days would be something to behold.

To be fair, the presents would be good.

It would be fine in our house. DH is brilliant with gifts and he’d help more with Christmas dinner if I let him but I don’t like him being in the kitchen.

The only thing he’d not do is plan days out or activities over Christmas.

It would be just fine. Probably not many presents and certainly no Christmas cards would be sent.

DH does most of it anyway.

Would have died out centuries ago.

I can say with 100% certainty it would probably be a simple stress free affair. My DH is amazing at organising, cooking, cleaning etc but he does not do stress, unlike me!! We only have ourselves to blame for the crazy behemoth Christmas has become. I hate it.

I voted for unreasonable as many men are perfectly capable of organising and running huge projects, managing to meet all their work commitments and generally succeeding in their work life. Treating men like children at home lets them off the hook and often sets up an unhealthy dynamic with resentment building up on both sides. Most men would be very able to organise a good Christmas! Maybe not exactly the way you like it OP but that is because you would need to let go and stop controlling and enjoy.

Edited for some spelling mistakes!

Ours would be smaller but quirkier than the way I do it-

-DH doesn't buy lots of gifts but the ones he does buy tend to be hits- unusual things that the receiver might never have thought of
-Dinner would be much less meaty and heavier on the root veg. Could be something non-traditional eg parsnip and lentil bake with sprouts and potatoes
-Lots of nice claret
-Decorations would be low effort. A tree, lots of greenery.

Sounds pretty good actually, I should take a year off.

My partner does the christmas organising.

Before him, I obviously did it.

It didn't look any different.

He buys his family's presents, I buy mine.

He does the food shopping when he takes his mum to do hers. We write the list together beforehand.

He cooks the Christmas dinner.

He tidies and washes up as he goes and we both do the rest of it on Boxing Day morning.

Would be great and pretty similar to every year. I can’t imagine being attracted to someone so incompetent they couldn’t buy some presents and cook a meal.

We would have a brilliant roast and the tree would be up.
Presents would be lavish if not quite right 😂

he always preps, shops for and cooks Christmas dinner for 20+, it doesn’t phase him. We choose the tree as a family and he saws it and puts it in the stand, the dc decorate it. I take the lead mostly on presents apart from his mum and mine obviously.

It would be calm, simple, without any unnecessary nonsense and over in just one day. It would be perfect. As a female, it pains me to say this, but (some) women are ridiculous about Christmas.