If men were left to organise Christmas themselves

[Fiddlesticks32]

AIBU to think it would be an absolute disaster?

And what would it look like?

My husband does most of Christmas in our family. I don't like all the fuss and expense. So it would be same as always for us.

My ex (dcs dad) puts on a great Xmas as he's a fully functioning adult just like me.. I know this is supposed to be light hearted sorry! Laughing at how incompetent some men are isn't really funny is it..

We'd have exactly the same Christmas if I or both of us were to 'do' it all.

It would be fine. Mid December he would show up home with a tree and decorations. Present would be bought at the last minute and there will be a platter of fancy titbits. There will be no rushing around or stress and everyone would have a great day.

Quite...

My partner is already trying out Christmas Dinner ideas which is great because it means a roast every Sunday and plenty of leftovers for dinner on Monday too.

Entirely depends on the man!

If it was my younger son or my brother it would be slightly chaotic but a fabulous dinner, eclectic presents, fabulous decorations and a happy and hysterically funny day.

If my XH, beyond stressed, no presents - or a giant bar of chocolate for everyone, even the diabetics, no decoration, and a burned dinner served with lots of shouting about how he has to do everything around here.

Elder son - very eccentric, probably with roast rook for dinner and decorations made from cat fur, but great fun.

Mine does most of ours anyway! He’s ordered all the food, and will cook it on Xmas day. Buys his family presents and I do mine. I have to put up the tree as he’s pretty clumsy and would probably break most of the ornaments. But he’ll get it out of the loft for me, and has just bought the chocolate decorations. I really should pull my weight more… 😬

Fine.

On of my SIL's had to go abroad one year so my brother had to sort out Christmas. He knew exactly what to do, buy and cook. Though my SILs cooking is better than his.

One of my other brothers' does all the cooking for occasions in his household and most of the cooking generally. He sends cards plus buys and wraps presents for his side of the family. My male friends and my DP are the same. All these men cook very well.

Not all men are brought up to be useless around the house plus most of the men I know didn't get married until their 30s or older and spent time living in houseshares then alone.

I don't think my DH would do a bad job, the food wouldn't be homemade but he'd get the right stuff. He'd be a lot more last minute with presents so there might be some specific things not available but there would be perfectly acceptable gifts. It wouldn't be a disaster.

It would be great.
My husband is a fully functioning adult.

It wouldn't happen.

STBX used to moan over how stressed I was every Christmas and told me it was easy, he even did the shopping every Christmas Eve along with lots of other men so it was women making work for themselves and therefore to blame! So I stopped doing his side of the family and pared back the food and decorations. It was miserable the last two years so I decided to pare it back further and get rid of him. Next Christmas will be amazing 😉

Oh, and yes, his version of Christmas shopping meant he only bought tat for me, eg Christmas jumper reduced in sale. He's never bought for our children. He handed over the money but he didn't have a clue what I'd got until the children unwrapped on Christmas Day as he just didn't care enough. I should have left sooner based on just that but you know, love is blind.

Men, eh? What are they like?!
They can't even use the washing machine !
Or remember when Little Johnny has swimming!
They'd never manage to get the tree out of the loft and buy some turkey and crackers.

Us Ladies must do it all, and let the men focus on work. And hobbies.

In my house it would happen very last minute and way over budget. But it would happen.

Thinking about it, when I was married, my exh did most of Christmas then too.

And he did most of the planning organisation for our wedding.

DH cooked an excellent Christmas dinner last year and buys really thoughtful gifts so great!

So is mine. He puts all decorations up, is a great shopper, can cook and is generally a grown up

my dh does at least half of the organisation already

Some would do it great, some good, some average, some shite. Much like women based on the number of threads this time of year which tell stories from the ghost of Christmas past disasters.

They’d just ask us questions all the time until we broke and sorted it.

I have to say dh was good at buying and wrapping presents and froofing the Xmas tree and decorating the table.

My parents used to take turns sorting out mine and my sister's Christmas presents. When it was my mum's turn, we would get hand knitted jumpers/scarves and jewellery. When it was my dad's turn we would get an electric drill, a road atlas or jump leads.

It's partly a me problem, I like to get things done early or I find it very stressful which means I end up doing more of the Christmas prep as DH is more laid back.

My husband does the big trip to Smiths to get the presents, takes the kids to buy the tree and cooks Christmas dinner for 8. Not every man is shit.

Given my father and I managed to spend Christmas together, both home cooking a Chrismas dinner or eating out, I have to say the (sexist) notion that men organising it would be a disaster is wrong by counterexample.

The man in my life.. amazing presents, organised, amazing food and plenty of it, cooking of said food.
Decor and the little traditions he'd need reminding of.
Other men I've known like dad and dad in law, brothers.. nothing would happen..
I've noticed a lot more men in 30s to 40s join in a lot more now though.

OP is this general men bashing tiring for you?
I mean - are you ok, hun?