If men were left to organise Christmas themselves

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AIBU to think it would be an absolute disaster?

And what would it look like?

My late DH always organised Christmas and did a fab job. It's a bit rubbish now it's left to me.

We’d have great food but it might be a bit delayed in my house 😂

Yup. Men are as capable of the tedious shite as we are, we do ourselves no favours by pretending otherwise

DH does most of Christmas here, as he and 12 year old DS are the insane Christmas enthusiasts. He’s the one buying decorations, going out to get the tree (which he would put up on Dec 1st left to himself), buying special food and drink, buying most of the presents, issuing invitations, and he does all the Christmas Day cooking. So Christmas would look much the same if it was in his sole charge.

We don’t do much anyway, but if my OH organised it it wouldn’t happen at all. We’d probably get a last minute take away and that would be it. Defo no tree or decorations, lol.

If DH did it we would have an excessive number of Christmas decorations, particularly an enormous tree, far too many lights, and assorted other decorations.

We would have good food, plenty of alcoholic and non alcoholic drinks, and snacks.

The presents may be slightly shambolic and not exactly what people might have hoped for, but they would be wrapped nicely and no one would be forgotten.

Overall I think it would be a lovely, and joyful experience!

My fil on the other hand...

My dad? Great everyone would get gifts everyone would be fed

My ex husband? Hell no I never got gifts until the kids were old enough to prompt him (before we got married he remembered somehow a wedding ring causes amnesia) the food? Everything gets cooked at a different time gifts for the kids? No he is a great promiser not good on delivery then when faced with disappointed faces he gets cross (he promised an Xbox for MONTHS and got them a lego set and wondered why the kids weren't more "grateful" sort of thing) he would scream shout and bully the day around then say to his family yes we had a great time unnamedcat says I should do it every year she has had such a great rest today while I cleared up the carnage and made cheese sandwiches

Depends on the man I suppose

Ours would be no cards, no decorations, apart from tree bought on Christmas Eve. A huge organic Waitrose turkey and no vegetables, eaten on our laps in front of Netflix.

It would be fine in our house too. Dp would be finished by mid December and everything wrapped. Only thing he wouldn't do is send cards, I don't think.

Most years he sorts out what DC are buying for each other anyway. Presents for his side of the family. We decide and buy dc's gifts together. Cooks Christmas dinner. I do most of the wrapping, but don't actually mind. We both wrap the kids stuff together on Christmas eve and sort stockings. I do the big shop sometimes he joins depending on work/shifts. We decorate with the kids one weekend day.

Since dh does the food shopping and the cooking for Xmas day, it would look like normal. We each buy dc Xmas gifts from the lists they've written, so if I dropped out, it wouldn't make much of a difference. The wrapping wouldn't look quite as nice as when I do it but that's it. The dc would decorate the house themselves if neither of us did. Christmas isn't stressful in our house though and I don't do lots of unnecessary things to make myself look busy or whatever and then complain about it.

Christmas wouldn’t exist.

Very glad to hear of so many good boys out there.

DH sorts the tree and decorations out anyway and always has done.

If he did the food it would be x4 times more expensive than usual and we'd only have enough for a couple of days. I think he'd go to a supermarket, buy what he thinks is nice (he buys more upmarket than me) but not having gone in with a rough meal plan idea.

Present wise he'd probably be stressing about it until quite late. At present we discuss and make joint decisions, I'll then go and source it, buy it and wrap etc.

It would be extremely laid back and lovely though on the day I think

If it was my ex it would be simple but organised and zero flapping. Probably booked a restaurant for lunch and bought the kids whatever special present they had asked for. He has his unliveable faults but he also has some good points.

It would look like any other day of the year, because nothing would be done or a last minute shop at the petrol station christmas eve.

My DH would have a decent go. He's just less into planning and nice little extras than me. His Christmas would have extravagant food that would be late on the table and a bit of a mishmash, last minute presents that are good but not all to the kids' tastes because he got them all in one trip, tree would be up but not the prettiest in its decorations (probably lights on one side and tinsel on the other).

Eek, why are you with someone you hate? You only get one life.

Aunt Bessies are yummy these days.

My DH would come up trumps tbh. The food and drink might be hit and miss, but the house and gifts would be fab! Budget wouldn't exist 😆

I say this, but we also divvy things up quite well. I do more present planning, he does wrapping. He gets super creative with the decorations (bonkers at times) and I sort the food, plan Xmas celebrations outside the home. It's a great balance.

The wrapping would be interesting and everything would be done slightly later than I do but it would be fine.

Christmas is almost entirely DH organized here. Pretty much all present buying, social stuff organized, food cooking and buying done by him. Generally split the wrapping but that's about all.

My husband buys the best presents, is the best wrapper, does all the food shopping and all the cooking, including for our big party the weekend before. I decorate the trees (after he’s expertly and evenly strung the lights and been out and collected greenery for swags).

Christmas in our house would be perfectly fine if left to him.

Random gifts and food purchased from the 24 hour garage the night before. Gifts handed over unwrapped in carrier bag.

My husband is very competent and thoughtful. I don't organise all of Christmas, we each do bits. If he had to do all of it, everything would be perfectly fine and we'd have a lovely time.

Maybe stop martyring yourselves!

Would look much the same here as DH does a fair bit of the organising already. One year when I was unwell he took over everything and it was fine.