If men were left to organise Christmas themselves

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AIBU to think it would be an absolute disaster?

And what would it look like?

Not together no.
We live separately.
He gives his children money. They're teenagers.

99% are though.

There wouldn't be a Christmas like we know of now. Talk about a watered down version..

Woman would soon re-take over..

My partner would do amazing food and he’s brilliant at thoughtful gifts. Decorations would be minimal/non existent though.

They're really not.

There wouldn't be a Christmas like we know of now
Probably true. But it might be reduced down to the bits people actually enjoy rather than those they pretend to enjoy. Pretty sure it would be less competitive, and as a result less stressful.

99%? What a ridiculously sweeping statement.
Of course they aren’t.

It's nowhere near 99% in my experience. Some people must live in utterly depressing circles.

Indeed.

None of the men in my extended family or friends would have any problem in putting together a lovely Christmas. DH and I make the plans jointly. It’s part of being a family - he’s perfectly capable and I’m not a control freak.

I feel the only really essential bits are the tree, the food, presents, and getting to the church on time.

As to mental load - I've been doing Christmas since we stopped going to the ILs, probably around 1995. So almost 30 years now. I could quite literally organise and execute it in my sleep. After I got the hang of it (probably around 1998) I made a master list and timetable. I had a similar master list for packing for vacations for a family of five DCs.

I'm in the US and as well as Christmas we do Thanksgiving a month beforehand. It was on Thursday last week. It's a mini Christmas Day, food wise. Autopilot again.

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Well said.

It wouldn't happen. Simple as. It's annoyed the piss out of me for years.

I think they would do it if they had to. A lot of them won’t bother if there is someone else to do it though.

That's my attitude in our relationship. If DH were suddenly not here I would do all the decorating and present buying and cooking and hosting if I had to. But I don't see i have to bother when he's happy to.

I do all the cleaning before and after and during.

I would like to see what would happen if weddings were left entirely to men to organize, when the couple is not same sex. By men, I mean the grooms.

I suspect that the average weddings would be infinitely smaller and cheaper, and it would be very bad news for companies who make minor things like, say, fancy table decorations and wedding invitations. Not because the grooms are incapable but because I suspect many of them have no interest in such trivial parts of a wedding and secretly consider them a waste of money.

Some on this thread are either control freaks or have set the bar very low in their choice of DH. Never come across men in real life who are as incompetent as some of the posters are portraying.

DH organised ours, because I was out of the country till the day before, very pregnant, and trying to finish a big project before I went on maternity leave. I don’t think it was any different to what I’d have done, but it was always going to be extremely low-key.

Would they be any the worse for that?

My Mum died when I was a child. Apart from the first Christmas without her, which was an utter shit show (not my Dad’s fault - he was mentally unwell) but after that I don’t remember the nuts and bolts of Christmas being any different. The food, the decorations, the gifts etc.

If I wasn’t here I guess some stuff would get missed, just like if DH wasn’t here some stuff would get missed.