Dad going to Disneyland without his son

[Maria1979]

Just a rant really about how heartless some men people are. A couple (in their forties with an 8 year old son) I know broke up two years ago. Man had found a younger model (25, blonde, curvy bimbo). I am not close friends with woman but we meet regularly (friend's friend). I run into the man and his bimbo often (she does seem really sweet and kind but not alot brain activity going on). Man has his son 2 week-ends per month and he always complains about how his ex is ruining him financially (I see him often so I don't want a conflict I just say that children are expensive and leave it there). Well today he said he's going to Disneyland during the christmas holidays.I said that "Ben" must be thrilled. That's when he goes "Oh, no we're not taking him. I'm sick of just thinking about everryone else. I already took him with ex when he was younger. This time me and "Bimbo" are going to just have fun. But don't tell Ben or ex. Haha". Bimbo giggling beside him. I went numb. I couldn't find any words. How can you be so utterly selfish it's beyond me. And how a man in his forties can enjoy Disbeyland is beyond me but that's another issue.
I don't want to tell the woman because it's none of my business and also because it's just so bloody hurtful.
AIBU not telling her?

Mind your own business.

Adults go on child-free holiday shocker.

Jealousy.

But he does pay for his kid? You said so in your OP.

I don't see what the problem is tbh. If you swapped Disneyland for Mauritius would that make a difference? There is nothing wrong in wanted an adult holiday IMHO.

You lost me at 'bimbo'
FFS who even says that

It’s not irrelevant. She’s unpleasant and a bully and she’s been called out on it.

The irony is that if OP came on here and asked her question without resorting to lots of misogynistic swipes at his girlfriend, people would have taken the time to give her some helpful and sympathetic responses.

There are worse things to be than a "bimbo". She could have an attitude on her like the OP's for instance 🤷‍♀️

Better a 'bimbo' as you so vulgarly refer to it, than a nasty piece of work.

I'm sorry you went numb. That must have been shocking. Have you regained all the feeling now?

I'm just going to repeat pp - why are you referring to this woman as a "Bimbo"? Do you know how offensive this is?
Are you the disgruntled ex?

Fair point!

I’m considering going to Disneyland without my young kids for my 40th birthday, what kind of parent does that make me?? 🙈. You are allowed to have experiences without your children. We’re taking our children in the summer and I’m sure that although it will be amazing, it will also be 4 days of wrestling 2 overtired children in queues for the ‘little kids’ rides.
i want to go and do the big rides and queue without having to wrestle with my kids…it will be a completely different experience where I get to do what I want to do without the stress that travelling with children entails instead of what the kids want to do for a change.

It’s a holiday. Would you be so upset if they were going for a city break? Let them go wherever they want. It’s up to them.

Bimbo is such a retro insult! I haven't heard that for ages.

Agree with this.

The OP will probably think you're a "Bimbo"! 😂

He's being really stingy with ex and his son so this whole splashing money and not on his son it does feel very immoral

I agree with you on this.

Bimbo means attractive but unintelligent.

Now we have no idea what you look like, but the fact you've continued to use such a misogynistic term on a largely female dominated website, would definitely put you in the second bracket.

Give her a chance, it sounds as though you two have much more in common than you think.

What a disgrace you are,shame on you.

You lost me at bimbo. Younger, blonde, ergo bimbo.m

If she was forty and a neurosurgeon would your op rant be same or different?

Yeah of course, but Disneyland?? I'd spend the entire time thinking 'Ben' would love this.

Though it would be a different experience without kids & three is an awkward number, as a parent I'd want to sit with my child on the rides & the other person would feel left out/like a spare part & 10 is too young to be left waiting for them if he doesn't fancy one of the rides.

at lastvthe new gf would be slim enough to go with him on the 'younger' rudes!!

@Maria1979 stay out of it. He'll drop himself in the mud!!

I couldn't even go without my grandchildren, yeah it is very selfish of him in my opinion !

Except that the Dad asked OP not to tell his Ex or 'Ben'? I agree with the rest of your post though!

<hands op an even bigger spoon>