Daughter getting fat in school

[joey197860]

Teenage daughter has gained 22kg in new boarding school. No medical explanation for it and she's very happy, wrll integrated and academically excelling. School has a shop on site and girls have access to kitchen in the evenings. Daughter had major surgery last year and specifically should not eat sugar loaded food. What am I to do? I want to pull her from the school at the end of this term. The school is absolutely no help when I discussed this with them.

No. It says you can’t because she’s gone from the site. Her username is no more

Can’t message her. Her profile is gone

Agree, this thread is sounding like a story that daughter recounts in therapy after a lifelong eating disorder tbh. Whether it’s medical, emotional overeating or a lack of understanding about food, the way this is dealt with needs to be utterly sensitive or there is going to be a lifelong eating issue.

She mentions the daughter being put under the care of an oncologist. I am no doctor, but am I right in thinking that a benign tumour would not require an oncologist? Unless the oncologist is the one who would take a biopsy of a tumour then remove it even if it was benign? Perhaps I misunderstood her post on that.

I had an ovarian cyst in my teens and as it appeared as an abnormal cyst I was referred to an oncologist as soon as it was detected via ultrasound. It turned out to be a dermoid cyst which was benign but I only had one follow up after the surgery to remove it despite having most of my ovary removed alongside it as well as them diagnosing pcos during the surgery.

I assumed it was a benign tumour, the placement of which affected hormones, because there has been no mention of an oncologist or cancer in any of OP’s posts. The only details she gave were that a tumour was removed and the weight gain could be hormonal as a result. Several posters have assumed cancer and mentioned oncology but not OP herself.

I'm pretty sure I saw an old post of the OP's where she said her DD was put under the care of an oncologist. I know it's bad form to link to old posts on a current post though, so I won't do that.

I'm almost sure that even if benign, you'd go under care of an oncologist, who in sure would give better advice that MN on this one. I think this because i remember being surprised to hear itbfrom a friend whose dc had a benign tunour, that couldn't be fully removed. Her dd will be monitored and scanned for years I imagine, after this tumour.

Not usually in the UK unless there is a risk of the tumour turning cancerous at some stage, or requiring treatment within the speciality of an oncologist. SiL was recently referred for tests for suspected cancerous tumour. Biopsies revealed it was benign and referral was to an endocrinologist.

Ah ok.. this was in Ireland and perhaps there was a worry for the future. Different area of the body also.

DO you have any updates? I'm intrigued