Daughter getting fat in school

[joey197860]

Teenage daughter has gained 22kg in new boarding school. No medical explanation for it and she's very happy, wrll integrated and academically excelling. School has a shop on site and girls have access to kitchen in the evenings. Daughter had major surgery last year and specifically should not eat sugar loaded food. What am I to do? I want to pull her from the school at the end of this term. The school is absolutely no help when I discussed this with them.

Apologies - difficult to tell written down sometimes !!

Where does OP reference a malignant tumour or the loss of an ovary ? I can’t see that anywhere in any of her posts.OP has said no ongoing treatment or Medication and has confirmed that the tumour could affect hormones - that could be any number of benign tumours, and could be responsible for the weight gain.

OP, I’m finding it hard to understand what your real concern is here and honestly concerned reading your replies. You sound shallow and arrogant.

Why on Earth are you on here asking for advice about your kid looking fat when she recently had major surgery for a tumour? Why are you taking the school medics word for it? They aren’t an endocrinologist or oncologist. Take her to the doctor and get it checked, for Pete’s sake.

She is a girl, who just started at a new boarding school just after tumour surgery - all you appear to worried about is her eating and weighing too much. No kid puts on 3.5 stone in 4 months happily. She’s probably sick or trying to cope.

You are responsible for her health and well-being. If you’re the loving parent claim to be, focus on her health first before complaining to strangers and her school about her size.

It is if access is available where it wasn't before

No it is not. What you are describing is disordered eating.

tropical fruits are the highest but you are correct on the berries and cherries.

Pituitary tumour?

I work with hormones. Please contact me.

This poster has gone. If anyone knows her could you please get her to contact me.

It is almost half a century since ES attended school. I think we can agree the world has changed a lot in that time. It is clear to me you have little to no experience of what a modern boarding education looks like and appear to be dredging up historic experiences to shore up your personal distaste for people who choose to spend their money on their child’s education. Which is weird.

When she was 12, the yearbook had phrases underneath each eighth-grader’s photos.
My mum’s was “pleasingly plump.”
At 90, she was still angry and obsessed with that because she was so insulted. Mum was incredibly beautiful.
That began a lifetime of dieting, and she roped my sister into it too. I remember them eating these things called “Ayds,” — they were little chocolate candies wrapped in waxed paper that you ate with a hot drink. My sister was 15, and she was “pleasingly plump,” too.
Neither of them were fat.
One little damaging comment can do a lifetime of harm.

Perhaps she's comfort eating after the stress of the operation? (I know that doesn't sound as though it makes sense...When I was younger, I'd sometimes comfort eat after a stressful event was over. A sort of relief mechanism. Sorry - I'm not explaining it very well.)

From reading the thread, it appears to have been a large benign ovarian cyst, with a large incision, resulting in the loss of an ovary

We disagree. She might very well be unhappy but rapid weight gain isn't necessarily an indicator of that.

Even well loved children can have disordered eating/illnesses

This immediately came to my mind: https://www.qvs.school/

Indoctrination or what?

Go to bed Cyborg!

Boarding schools are very very on it when it comes to healthy eating and plenty of exercise - it is rare to see overweight children in this setting and they are on high alert for disordered eating Those who arrive at school with weight issues often settle to healthier weights as they progress through school because of the healthy routine. I genuinely don’t know when you would find the time to eat the amount necessary to gain this amount of weight in such a short time or how you would have access to volumes of junk food - the days are structured and busy. Knowing this makes me suspect something medical with OP’s child

Maybe she would respond to a private message?

Hear, hear.
Exactly.

How on earth have you managed to reach that conclusion ? OP has given absolutely no detail about the surgery other than it was to remove a tumour. It could have been absolutely anything hormone related, including pituitary.

I think it’s you who needs sleep !!

You can contact her yourself by private message. Just go to the top right hand of the page and click on your account icon, then click on private message. But she left the thread some time ago so don’t expect a reply.

Post DH’s diagnosis, I’m pretty much an expert on the sugar and carb content of most things now 😇