To think people in their 30s and beyond who still live with their parents are lacking in independence?

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I’m starting to feel like there’s an increasing trend of adults in their 30s and beyond living with their parents. While I get the financial pressures, I’m wondering if this is an issue of independence. AIBU to think that if someone is over 30 and still living at home, they should take responsibility for their own life and not rely on their parents? Does this indicate a lack of maturity?

There are many reasons.

We have two family members in their 30's living with parents.

One has a job and a healthy social life but seemingly stay with her mum to look after her.

The other doesn't have a job or a social life and has huge confidence issues so struggles to do things outside comfort zone

You can't assume the reason why someone is living with their parents still.

Fucking horrible attitude op.
My dd bought a flat on her own at 33, ds has just bought a flat on his own at 32. Eldest son luckily has a council flat.
Apart from eldest son who has health issues the other two are very independent and have good jobs and have worked and saved hard for what they have.
So you can fuck off with your opinion

I would think that young people remain living with their parents for all kinds of reasons, though there may be 'trends' it's best not to assume anything.

Are you always so judgemental?
Other people's living arrangements are none of your business.
And why are you trying to generalise?
Smug post.

I think adult children who are treated like children are lacking independence.

The couple who live opposite us have a son who lives elsewhere in the village. His Mum does his cleaning, his washing and when his dad batch cooks weekly he does it for them and him. He drops it off and puts it in his freezer. They financially bail him out constantly. Living away from your parents isn't the same as being independent from them.

I know loads of adult kids who live away from home who still depend a lot on their parents in every sense so moving out certainly doesn't always mean more mature or self reliant.
To pretend to be dumb to why 30 something are still at home is as I said deliberately goading. Everyone is aware of the housing crisis in the UK. Unless you are living under a rock that is or being deliberately inflammatory which I believe is the case with OP.

I know the OP has been roasted here, but there are adults who do stay at home because they just don't want to move out! My DH's friend lived at home til he was 38. He admitted he didn't ever move out, even though he could afford it, because at home he didn't have to do any washing, make dinner etc. His mum also didn't want him to move out, so they were happy with the arrangement. He only moved out because he got married. He then confessed he didn't know how to use a washing machine. 😂 Nice guy, but he really could have done with moving out sooner to gain some basic life skills!

I know loads of adult kids who live away from home who still depend a lot on their parents in every sense so moving out certainly doesn't always mean more mature or self reliant.

@Autumnal589 Assuming that these adults are NT, that's quite worrying, tbh, especially if they're over 25.