If your Dh owned this coat, would you make it mysteriously ‘Disappear’

[Cantbearsedwiththosepeskyelves]

I hate it!

He has lots of lovely clothes, new coat this winter, but always pulls this horror out. A hillbilly, scruffy, donkey jacket.
I realise it’s up to him what he wants to wear and he’s a grown man and it would be wrong for it to mysteriously‘Disappear’

But…would you make this coat mysteriously disappear?

Some of these responses 🤣

OP I feel your pain. My DH had a pair of patchwork harem pants when we met. A bit like these -

Unfortunately they were given to him by his friend and apparently had sentimental value so there was no way they could mysteriously disappear - he called them his 'special trousers' and part of me is convinced he only wore them to piss me off.

Thankfully they fell apart due to being worn so often within about a year 🤢

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Yes, people are over-dramatic. I actually had a coat like this. It was very warm but also bulky. I can't remember what happened to it - but I would have been cross had my ex-DH thrown it out. (Late DH would just have said it was suitable to wear for gardening - nuff said!)

Beat me to it! 😂

Over 20 years ago a boyfriend decided he wished he'd bought some shoes after we'd returned home. He didn't have time to go back so asked me to pop in the next day in my lunchhour and buy them. They were awful awful shoes so next day I pretended the last pair had been sold. He often complained afterwards he could never find anything similar and 20+years on I still wish I'd just bought them for him. I just feel guilty.

I think an unfortunate accident involving (say) a bottle of indelible ink, or a bowl of cooked beetroot might occur.

Such OTT comments here. The OP is hardly being serious.

in our house, we will tell each other if we don’t like something, including our uni age children. It’s fine.

I’m just a little worried as I have a coat that is not entirely dissimilar…

@Cantbearsedwiththosepeskyelves haha I'd definitely be tempted! But seems like we have a similar sense of humour and partners who wouldn't feel they were "controlled" if we did that.

My XH had a beloved pair of dreadful trousers. We were going to Majorca, in August, and they were put in the suitcase. I took them out. He actually jumped with rage when he found out, (nasty temper, hence XH) but in my defence, they were thick brown corduroy.

Confession: I am a man and I love old hole-ridden worn sweaters that I have owned since new, the older and more knackered they get, the more I love them. I have sympathy with any woman who throws up her hands in despair at what her man thinks is suitable apparel.

That's not a donkey jacket, this is.

I think I'd just suggest he gets it cleaned.

Image if your DH decided to "disappear" your favourite clothes.

It would be abuse.

You are trying to control what he wears to the point you are thinking of ways to get rid of the coat so stop lying

It’s not that bad. Get it dry cleaned.

I’ve got bigger issues than my partners fashion sense or lack thereof.

I would never throw out my partners things out or make them mysteriously disappear.

What could be done is that a nice new coat you like and he will also like could be bought for him she given as a gift in a few weeks.

If it's a proper sheepskin it will be incredibly warm and windproof. I have one, and I absolutely love it. I wash mine on a wool wash when it gets really grubby. The leather is initially a bit stiff, but a few wears and it's back to being supple and soft.

Interesting little fact for you though.
The donkey jacket originally made with a tough wool fabric with leather shoulders to protect the wearer from rain was designed in Staffordshire for the Manchester ship canal workers. A proportion of the workforce worked on the donkey engines, hence its name.

It depends if he wear it when going out with you or is it really casual for his work type. Is it for hiking or fishing? My husband would wear the some old (comfortable clothes) all the time. I have bought him some lovely things. However they stay unused in the packaging or with the tags still on them. I should sell them on eBay or give to charity. Only point to remember, would you like if he got rid of one of your favorite items of clothing without telling you?

My DH is a funny dresser. Often well dressed, either in suits and waistcoats OR an old holy jumper and jeans that have been used for gardening for about 10 years. Literally no in between.

A few years ago, he bought a Frank Spencer style mac. I didn't throw it away, but I did whistle the Some Mothers Do 'Ave 'Em theme tune every time he wore it. He thankfully retired it. 😂

Slight over reaction in my opinion to this post! Wouldn't make it disappear but would tell him I don't like it and don't think he should wear it. Suggest he donates it to a charity shop/homeless shelter, no doubt someone would be very grateful for it. I wouldn't wear anything my partner didn't like and vice versa but we have always been honest with each other in terms of fashion choices!

My God!

The question and the choices make no sense.

If it isn’t yours don’t touch it.

It’s Del Boys coat isn’t it.

Yes, exactly this. How would you feel if your partner just started throwing out items of clothing they didn't like?! Then gaslighting you because "no I have no idea what happened to it". How you could put this on the Internet as a genuine question is beyond me.