If your Dh owned this coat, would you make it mysteriously ‘Disappear’

[Cantbearsedwiththosepeskyelves]

I hate it!

He has lots of lovely clothes, new coat this winter, but always pulls this horror out. A hillbilly, scruffy, donkey jacket.
I realise it’s up to him what he wants to wear and he’s a grown man and it would be wrong for it to mysteriously‘Disappear’

But…would you make this coat mysteriously disappear?

any overly conspicuous logos annoy me. I find them tacky.

I think some posters are into fashion and nice clothes.

It is quite obvious those who aren't.

It doesn't matter either way but my DH likes my opinion and he is no longer walking around in a shit Shakin Stevens jacket.

He also didn't like a chord jacket I had which I donated to charity.

I can fully sympathise with you!
my dh often goes out looking like he’s just come out of a pig pen.Just lately though he’s been ill and I’m so glad he’s feeling now,so I just leave him to it!
if its really bad I might ask if he’s going to put on some clean jeans but not often now, I’m just so happy he’s still here to moan about!

sounds like a compliment to me.

reminds me of when I was wedding dress shopping with my MOH, and trying on veils.
her: that one looks a bit bride of dracula
me I LOVE IT!!!!!

(it was full length with some diamantes on it. hardly spooky, but it did hang around the shoulders like a cloak)

Even if it is ugly and it's reasonable that you don't want him to wear it, it still belongs to him, and you have to respect his things. How would you feel if your things starting disappearing? Would it erode the mutual trust in your relationship?

Some of these replies to an obviously lighthearted thread are

Op : wait until summer and then hide it.

I had threatened to send a boyfriend’s shorts to a Swiss clinic !
worryingly like another I don’t find the jacket you posted that offensive what that says about my taste 😬
I admit I sent some coats to the Charity 4 years ago partner hasn’t even noticed he gets very sentimental about clothing though and it was getting hard to store all the coats so I did a cull. One of his beloved jackets was so dated its just come back into fashion so he might be right luckily it escaped my clearout and his current go to. He has a jacket that was his Dad’s very 80’s sheepskin but orangey one complete with batwing sleeves that he wears when visiting his mother where it gets very cold and so handy not having to pack. I embrace the very sentimental nature of that coat and think its lovely for his mum to see it being worn but its not a style thats exactly classic had a French boyfriend now his departed fathers jacket was such a beautiful butter soft stylish sheepskin he wanted me to alter it which gave me the fear. I used to gaze at his beautiful shoe collection but I am pretty sure he was a cheater so give me the guy with the orange batwing sheepskin anyday its the man inside the jacket the counts sometimes 😂

@Cantbearsedwiththosepeskyelves I’ve totally ‘lost’ ugly clothes my dh bought in the past. It was when we first moved in together. He had some hideous things. I now buy all his clothes because he’s busier than me so I have the time and it’s no longer a problem. So yes, put it somewhere hard to find and phase it out.

YANBU, depends on your relationship though.
I've given to charity a questionable jacket.
DH admitted after that he wore it mostly out of habit and not wanting the bother to find a replacement.
He finally got a more suitable coat and mentions when I wear questionable stuff too.
He trusts me to cull his wardrobe when doing mine.

Chuck and get him a newer one for Christmas.

My dh has a jacket which can only be described as 'blouson' which he thinks goes with everything. Stage 1 was to buy him a coat which serves the same function, stage 2 will be to make the blouson jacket mysteriously disappear.

They were really fashionable a few years ago and in different in dark brown too, which were trendy and donkey jackets were checked pattern from what I remember.. but definitely don’t make it disappear it doesn’t look that bad..

That’s not a Donkey Jacket, looks like a cosy & warm sheepskin (if it’s real) jacket. No I wouldn’t make it disappear though, just place it somewhere that isn’t immediately to hand.
This is a Donkey Jacket, a heavy woollen work coat originally first used in the 1880’s.

I don't think there's anything particularly wrong with that, tbh. It's nondescript, but not offensively awful. I prefer it to the omnipresent Helly Hansen jackets. The giant HH annoys me irrationally.

I'd forgive the HH if he had a nice sailing yacht to go with it.

I’d get him a flat cap for Christmas and casually throw only fools quotes into every conversation until he stopped wearing it

It’s not a donkey jacket it’s a sheepskin car coat.

I wouldn’t have a problem with it if it were clean and new, they’re very warm. But I prefer flying jackets.

You could spill some wine on it on an outing or accidentally put it in the wash with the brightest red item bought from Primark for the occasion (I find something likely to shed colour :p)

I say all this even though I voted YABU lol.

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Wow! You obviously don't understand the meaning of controlling & abusive.
In what way is this abuse?
My husband owns an awful coat, we call it his (pimp coat) and an original pilot jacket. Which is beautiful, but just doesn't suit him.
When, in the past he came down stairs in it, and a pair of, near orange Timberland boots, I would cringe to the point of tomato face!
I did throw away his beloved onesie when we moved in August.
Does that make me abusive!

That's made my day.
Thank you 😊

It is hideous but how would you feel if he got rid of your clothes?

Well, it seems to be a sheepskin, so it will look nice. Or are you happy when you ask DP if your bum looks big in this and he says 'yes'?

DH has a few things he has to promise not to wear outdoors when I'm around 🙄
That coat would be one of them lol

I've never him asked that question ever. He often compliments my bum though.

I don't like the coat so I understand where OP is coming from and it was definitely a light hearted thread.

I can't believe people are saying she is controlling and abusive. So dramatic.

I'd do this.

The thing is if my DH wore that coat his mates would have took the piss out of him anyway. No, he doesn't need new mates. He's a Manager in a trade that has a lot of banter.